50 ways to leave your long standing hairdresser.

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I love my hairdresser. I've been going for 19yrs. Dealt with several bouts of pregnancy hair, post pregnancy hair and onto pre-menapausal hair etc... also have a medical condition that impacts condition of my hair/scalp.

But for the last 18months have not been so happy with my hair. The last 3 times it's been the colour- too one colour and too dark - I look washed out in my face. I have mentioned it but nothing changed.

I don't have easy hair and sometimes the cut is great and sometimes it's not and a struggle to make look decent.

I have said its not been great, what can we do about the style, colour on at least 6 visits. She's sympathetic and lovely but this cycle continues.

A friend suggested it's because they don't do much continual training and stick to the same old. Friend said my hair doesnt live up to its potential!

I have booked in for a consultancy at another hairdresser.

I feel like a traitor. I also know this other salon is going to be more costly.... but good hair will make it worth it won't it??

I left my hairdresser after about 10 years and felt similarly bad. I used to get an all over colour which was totally fine but as more grey came through (I'm 38) I got a bit fed up with this obvious greyish line down where the root grows in. I have been going to a new hairdresser since last summer for balayage/sort of "lived in" colour and have completely transformed my relationship with my hair (as ridiculous as that sounds). I used to always tie my hair up but now wear it down almost every day and it's pretty much become my best feature. My new hairdresser is significantly more expensive but I feel it's been worth it. I do get the occasional pang of guilt though!

I left mine when she was on holiday and I was also going on holiday yes I know it's sneaky but I wasn't happy with my hair so went elsewhere, I see her regularly and tbf on her she hasn't said anything to me.

A woman’s hair is her crown and glory. I have no loyalty when it comes to my hair. I want it to be perfect!

I left my hairdresser of 12 years in December. I’ve never loved my hair more since moving on!

I said to her I wanted to get extensions which she didn’t do, so was going to have it done by a friend who did them. I didn’t have them (was just an excuse) and if I saw her I’d say I didn’t like them and had them taken out soon after.

I’m in the trade. After 19 years I would be extremely hurt if you just left. Although clients do vanish from time to time.
However, you’ve tried to get her to do what you want with little success. So it’s time to leave.

I would send her a message, saying husband/sister/friend has treated you with a voucher (white lie) to another salon, which you’ve booked in to. She will be sad about it, but it’s better than falling off the face of the earth with no word.

As Ive aged I no longer feel the need to be loyal to a single hairdresser, I chop and change

Ive been going on and off to two or three, the one I saw this week is one Ive been using on and off over the past 10 years but the minute things get "samey" Ill move again. Shes going great atm as Im going through the growing out colour to get to grey stage and my cut is very short which she does really well, however when I want mid length, it turns into the same cut after two visits so I move to another

I dont understand why we feel we have to be loyal to hairdresser, they arent to us :) Best hairdresser I ever had - back in the 80's/90's, I had to work around her pregnancies,holidays, photo shoots etc, then she decided to move countries !! lol. Seriously I was gutted. I would put up with weeks of really bad hair days waiting for an appointment with her, not one hairdresser since has managed to tame my hair as she did

Feel uplifted at the experiences of having better hair.

I've booked a consultancy with a hairdresser.

If it goes well will think about what Talktome says.... it would feel wrong to disappear after so many years.

You need to bite the bullet and break up with your hairdresser!
I had the same hairdresser for years, I'd go in the salon and sit next to other customers and watch them leave with lovely styles/colours and I'd say "could you do that to me" the answer was always "no, you're hair couldn't take that"
Once I came out with a khaki tinge to my hair (balayage) I said "my hair is green" she said "no, it's the lighting in here" it was still green when I got home.
Dp used to say "it'll look ok when you do it yourself" after every trip to the salon.
I stopped going, didn't say anything to her but I saw her in Tesco the other day and I actually ducked down so she didn't see me ffs.
Just do it, it's awkward but it's your hair, good luck.

I left my colourist after nearly 20 years. She was slapping on the same old colour time after time despite me asking for a change. It was a very expensive salon so fortunately I was able to say that I couldn't afford it any longer and needed to go somewhere cheaper

I left a hairdresser after ten years. He cut like a dream but I didn't think I'd have any hair left if I stayed with him! The blowdries were awful. He was constantly burning me and far too rough and despite me dropping hints then speaking to him seriously about it, nothing changed. I just never went back.

I left a hairdresser after 5 years and that was bad enough for me! She had done my hair during lockdown in her garden etc, made up toners I could pick up and put in at home etc. The final straw was when I went to see her and I told her I wanted a creamy champagne blonde toner, she did it a godawful silver / purple colour, then when I questioned it, she said 'yea well if I had done it the colour you wanted I know you wouldn't have liked it, so I did it a different colour.' I just never went back after that. I used to see her at school pickup because our children were the same age and she totally blanked me 😂

I'm sure she won't care. You're just a customer, not a bff or anything. She'll replace you with someone else 🙄

Really awkward. But I don’t think you need to send her a ‘breaking up’ text. She let you down by doing a bad job on your hair therefore she ‘broke’ the relationship.

If you see her just say it was time for a change, you wanted to try something different.

Same here, I went to another who did a better job but was always fully booked all of the time. I ended up going back to my original hairdresser and she did not care one bit. I just said I used a friend a couple of times, to help her out. However during lock down my hair started snapping off, I've had a long break from bleach, now my hair looks great. I just tint from home and avoid the bleach.

As someone said to me you are not married to her! Just go elsewhere and dont worry. You and your hair come first .Often what worked well once doesnt as time goes by (bit like a marriage really)!

Surely it’s just path of the course if you’re a hairdresser, clients sometimes move on and want a change. As a hairdresser in my eyes you are only as good as your last cut/colour. I have stopped being loyal. I had a hairdresser for 8 years but she was unreliable so I just stopped going (she was also a friend) though she was good, then used another one for a couple of years but she was expensive and not good at blow drying. Moved again for 3 years but she kept getting my colour wrong, so I moved again. I’ve tried a couple but struggling to find anyone that’s much good. Currently reverted back to home dying to cover the greys and I’m doings good job of it, with a visit to an expensive salon for a good cut.

123sunshine - presumably predictive text as it’s par for the course.

Loved when somebody posted that they chopped & changed 🤣

Reading this thread I am feeling so fortunate in the woman who cuts my hair. After lockdown I got some waspish comments about my own cutting skills (lack of) but we agreed things like layers were more flattering longer. It's been an ongoing dialogue for the last decade or so. I plan to move away so hope I find someone as good.

Stick with your curl, Pearl
Get an updo, Pru
Lean into your wave, Mave
Shampoo and set yourself freeeee

No idea but love the song reference

I might actually be in love with you

I had to break up with mine after 10 years. I don't like changing hairdressers, English is not my first language and I always worry I won't be able to explain myself properly. We've had really good rapport, she was excellent colourist, always working on her skills. But she became really unreliable. Every other visit was cancelled sometimes while I was already on my way. She was working alone and was very busy, it wasn't unusual to wait 6 or 8 weeks for weekend appointments. Whilst I was understanding of her circumstances (single mum) I drew the line when I found out one of my appointments was rescheduled because hairdresser decided to go away for the weekend at the last minute. No point of having amazing hairdresser if you never get to see her! When she cancelled another appointment and asked if I wanted to reschedule I just said no, thank you and that was it.

Just don’t go back, - simple. She hasn’t made you happy so don’t go back you aren’t friends you are paying her to do something she isn’t doing. Iv never understood people who go to the same hairdressers continually, I find it baffling.

im never happy with my hair anymore, but it’s not my hairdresser, she does everything I want. It’s more my aging face and hair I haven’t come to terms with. Still trying to find something I like.