Funeral attire

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I need a black attire for a funeral

I want to be classy, stylish & dress to the nines yet simple.

Help pls
Where can I get such outfit pls

The first one yes but the others are well into "look at me" territory - especially the dipped hem one.

So far as the OP, ditch the fascinator and you don't need a hat. The only funeral I've been at in many, many years where hats were worn was for a fairly senior member of the Scottish aristocracy and even then it was only the near family members. The family were in full formal black, or dress uniform. Church was packed out but other than the family everyone else was smartish but certainly not full on black.

To be fair, I was going for a little bit of "look at me" given the OPs description, but I might have misinterpreted the brief!

ohh @IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle and @VerityUnreasonble the third one fitted midi dress looks like it fits the op's checklist.

Tbh I'm a bit puzzled why, other than posters who have been in the unhappy position of having recently bought a funeral dress, the OP didn't do what the rest of us presumably did and Google "black dress" or "black dress for funeral"

Anyway if I had to specifically get a new black funeral dress something like these would be my choices. Finery seems to do this particularly well at reasonable prices.

Jasper Conran

Finery

Oh I didn't scroll to the last rear view picture. I think @VerityUnreasonble might be on to something.

I get the "let's get dressed up" view but to do that it's got to be in keeping with what the deceased would have wanted and what others are wearing. Dressed to the nines with a black net veil wouldn't get a second look at Vivienne Westwood's or Sebastian Horsley's but it might be very inappropriate elsewhere.

Something you might want to bear in mind, if intending to spend quite a lot, is that after the funerals of my husband and my father I found it unbearable to ever again wear any of the clothes or shoes that I'd worn to those occasions, had to give them away because of their dreadful associations.

Like I said before, in our culture, when an elderly very old person passes, we celebrate their lives not a funeral to weep, cry and mourn,

@Ilikeadrink14 People are allowed to mourn differently and the OP is obviously from a different culture.

This funeral is a celebration and the OP is being respectful in wanting to dress well. It's just that her usual style seems OTT in the UK.

Where can I get a black coat sharpish, it must be lined, size 16/18 and single breasted. Under £100 as it's for a funeral and I won't wear it again very often ( hopefully no more close relations will die in the near future).
It's so hard as we are now in Spring and clothes / coats are all pastel coloured. 🙄
Arghhhh !
Sorry for thread hijack.

Next has lots of different styles and fabrics

Fascinator and red soled shoes.
Behave

OK, but presumably you are not attending a funeral for someone of your culture then if you intend doing this (no white for a start)

"All I am 100% sure of is that I follow my motto of dressing to the nines & appropriately for the occasion with a black outfit, fascinator, a lovely shoe (perhaps black with a red sole) nice black bag."

Sorry, I still think you are turning a funeral service where there will be people who are genuinely mourning into a fashion parade where you want to be noticed. It is poor taste and not appropriate.

Thank you @kdramaqueen.
I've seen a possibility it's £125 on the UK site and it's €150 in Ireland. ☹️🥲
A bit over budget for something I need but amn't loving.

Please check M&S
They have amazing classic options, smart trousers that don't look cheap

It is REALLY bad etiquette to try to stand out from the crowd, unless you are the chief mourner ( or have permission from that person to dress like this).

You should wear a modest outfit - no cleavage, no shorter than just above the knee, no bare legs , nothing sleeveless ( unless you have a black cardigan and never take it off.

No stripper heels.

Colours should be dark - it doesn’t need to be black , charcoal grey, navy, very dark green / maroon / purple / brown are all acceptable.

Nothing patterned, unless it’s a subtle, dark coloured, low contrast pattern.

A White blouse ( or similar ) is acceptable with a dark jacket or coat.

Do not wear a fascinator or veil, if you wish to wear a modest plain hat that’s ok.

Nothing flamboyant, attention seeking or look at me , regardless of the colour. It’s not about you , it’s about showing respect for the deceased and supporting their close family and friends .

I think it depends on the other people attending as to what is acceptable, as long as you’re not going to upset anyone wear what you like. My husband died shockingly young and some of the mourners were very much ‘dressed to the nines’ didn’t have a clue who half of them were, but I couldn’t care less, it was nice they’d made the effort and I was just there for my husband. I’m with the people that say they’d struggle to wear those clothes again though!

I wore this to my mums funeral last year, it is quite dressy but I wanted to look my best for my darling mum as she always looked beautiful and loved when we were all dressed up.

@Skykidsspy what a beautiful dress. I could see this paired with a black veiled hairband and those black shoes with the red soles the OP was talking about. Very elegant and dressy.
https://www.monsoon.co.uk/spotted-veil-headband-1000097418.html