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Modest / Conservative bridesmaid/ groomsmaid dress for SIL

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DolbyAtmosMax · 11/03/2024 12:54

Hello all,

Looking for any recommendations that any fashionable Mumsnetters can suggest!

Background context – my BIL and his fiancé (SIL 1) are getting married and his sister (SIL 2 for ease) will be a member of the wedding party as a groomsmaid / bridesmaid, she is his half-sister which is relevant. My BIL and SIL are having more of a ‘combi’ wedding part where both sides ‘maids and mans’ on the day will be grouped together but the organisation of clothing etc. is being generally sorted by each specific side. SIL 2 I has grown up in a different country and will be flying to attend the wedding in the UK. My BIL and SIL 1 will be purchasing their wedding parties outfits and my BIL and SIL 1 are having a little trouble finding something for SIL 2 so I am trying to help!

SIL 2 comes from an area and background in her home country which is generally very conservative and she will need an outfit that reflects this, SIL 2 is not religious at all but her dress sense reflects the norms of the country and culture. For ease BIL and SIL 2 will be buying her outfit here, she will be coming over for a holiday before the wedding anyway and the outfit can hopefully be sorted.

Any suggestions would be very helpful to start researching! The wedding will be both ceremony and party in a very lovely (and pricey) historic venue with a big party and dress code will be formal but also quite glamorous. If relevant SIL 2’S style more secular and ‘Western/ European’ rather than maybe other modest style dress based on religious restrictions. SIL 2’s outfit needs to:

· Not be fitted at the waist AT ALL– this is where we are stuck as so many dresses that cover the other criteria are 1950’s style with a very fitted waist or ‘skimming’. The ideal shape is a big triangle or very A- line so fitted at the shoulders with lots more fabric and volume going down. Other styles like tea dresses, bias cut gown, skimming slip dresses etc. are still too fitted.
· Have a collar that comes to the neck
· No cleavage, back or shoulders showing
· Be at least knee length
· Arms on the dress to at least the elbow, if the dress is sleeveless BILs mother is an excellent sewer and can add arms to a sleeveless dress

Budget is negotiable really (any suggestions at the moment) and any colour as long as not white or brown! Luxury fabric or colours are all good! We have founds some dresses from brands like Bernadette or Molly Goddard but my BIL or SIL 1 don’t dress like this generally so have no idea of what is ‘good’ or not.

Disclaimer - I know that the above criteria is quite specific so just to say SIL 2 is fab and not causing any issues. BIL and SIL 1 are very excited to have her in the wedding and for her to have an outfit that she is comfortable in. SIL 2 won’t, and doesn’t, wear clothing that doesn’t match above but looks great day to day and for events in her home country, it’s just quite different from experience of the usual wedding gear that BIL and SIL 1's family have.

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IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 11/03/2024 19:15

BlossomBlossomBlossom · 11/03/2024 18:57

That could be said about most of your list and my suggestions.

They don't expose flesh, but they certainly aren't dresses intended to blend quietly into the background. That, to be clear, is not a criticism.

Abouttimeforanamechange · 11/03/2024 19:15

Those Asian styles are absolutely beautiful.

JobMatch3000 · 11/03/2024 19:35

BlossomBlossomBlossom · 11/03/2024 18:57

That's lovely!

Rosindub · 11/03/2024 19:39

Google Trapeze Dress with sleeves.

Tbry24 · 11/03/2024 19:55

you need to search on department stores by modest dresses there are lots available.

goddiva do their own range plus do bridesmaids dresses so should be a colour that will match…plus the dresses are stunning.
https://goddiva.co.uk/collections/modest-fashion

Modest Fashion | Modest dresses for Eid and Special Occasions

Shop our Modest Fashion Collection, designed for women who want to feel confident and comfortable while staying stylishly modest.

https://goddiva.co.uk/collections/modest-fashion

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 11/03/2024 20:07

These are lovely dresses in various fabric patterns, and there's a few styles that I think fit the bill. (irritatingly the thumbnail is one of the ones that doesn't!)

They also do palazzo pants and longline blouses if trousers are permissable?

https://onehundredstars.co.uk/collections/dresses?sort_by=title-ascending

Dresses

The perfect dresses for any occasion. These comfortable wardrobe staples are easy to wear and accessorise for this Autumn/Winter season.

https://onehundredstars.co.uk/collections/dresses?sort_by=title-ascending

Scirocco · 11/03/2024 20:10

Try Aab or Shukr? They're both modest and have some really nice dress options.

Whenwillilikehimagain · 11/03/2024 20:17

Rew. Look here www.rewclothing.co.uk/collections/clothing

Abouttimeforanamechange · 11/03/2024 20:19

Something like the long embroidered silk coat Camilla wore at the Jubilee, if you can find a pattern and suitable fabric? She wore trousers underneath, but a long skirt would do equally well, I suppose.

Modest / Conservative bridesmaid/ groomsmaid dress for SIL
BlossomBlossomBlossom · 11/03/2024 20:50

I’m curious to know how old your SIL is (roughly!), @DolbyAtmosMax. You’ve spoken as if she’s very young - teens or early twenties, which would suggest she might want something that looks fairly youthful.

And on re-reading I realise you didn’t say she actually disliked either Molly Goddard or Bernadette - just that they aren’t brands or styles the bridal party are familiar with. Molly Goddard is high fashion, highly desirable, youthful. Bernadette is considerably more stately - I would be surprised to see their more voluminous dresses on a very young woman.

(Obviously people wear what they like!)

florasl · 11/03/2024 21:38

I’d look at Ivy City Co, a Mormon company but ship to the UK. They do beautiful dresses and all are ‘modest’ to fit with Mormon undergarments. They do matching baby and children’s dresses too!

https://ivycityco.com/

Ivy City Co | We make dresses so you can make memories

Unique, modest dresses in 20+ sizes, including plus and maternity, crafted in high-quality fabrics you can feel beautiful in.

https://ivycityco.com/

mitogoshi · 11/03/2024 21:39

There's several brands at different price points offering modest clothing options.

www.niswafashion.com/en-gb/collections/evening

This is a company my former in laws used for modest bridesmaids dresses

Gymnopedie · 11/03/2024 23:43

https://m.modanisa.com/en/blue-modest-dress-benin-8962460.html?ck=10engbpbcdf-2

This fits all the requirements without any alterations.

mathanxiety · 12/03/2024 01:11

A kaftan style might suit.

IloveAslan · 12/03/2024 01:58

I also think it would be much easier if she either finds something in her own country, or online.

Oh sorry, I've just read your post about how it wouldn't be an easy matter and she wants to buy it there. Ignore me. 😐