Should I be demure and mature or Start WW3?

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So my Sil's wedding is coming up and I'm looking for an outfit, but not sure which way to go.

When I got married my bridesmaids choose a particular shade of pink (kind of salmony) In order that the family photos looked good I gave all interested parties a colour swatch to match into. my sister-in-law did not like this and felt i was telling her what to wear when i spoke to her I tried to explain that this wasn't the case, but it's nice to tonally match in whatever colour you want. The only colour I would advise against was red as this would obviously look horrid against the bridesmaids and everyone who had matched (eg all my family) so yep she choose to wear a little off the shoulder scarlet number.
This is just the tip of the iceberg on much of her bitchy behaviour

Now question is what do I wear, my sister wants me to go in some outlandish colour that'll completely upstage her, but I want to make sure I look good.

Should I be a grown up, go all out or somewhere in between.
anyone got any ideas on what dresses might be good
I'm currently a size 12 (well 13 if they did that) and darkish blonde if that helps

The other factor is that I'm hoping to be in the early stages of pregnancy so would need to bear this in mind

I've been looking but only seem to find little black dresses

No advice but just noting how hilarious it is to give guests to your wedding swatches so that they 'look good'. I think your SIL was in the right.

Aqua did say 'to interested parties' I think it was v. childish of SIL to wear the only colour that Aqua said would clash.

I would just dress how you normally would for a wedding and maintain the higher ground.

matching at a wedding?

sorry I think that's really naff

and red looks fine against any colour, including pink. people are sooo conservative with colour..

Sorry but I have to agree - sounds very ott wanting guests to match into a colour scheme. Does it matter what colour dress you wear? Whatever you feel good in I would say.

i think bundle is right, red does suit everyone.

if we put the salmon swatch incident aside, what colour would you like to wear?

the swatches were only given to mums, brothers and sisters.
It was done as much to be helpful as anything else.
didn't care what anyone else wore
I even let my bridesmaids chose there dresses/colour

I think you should "be a grown up" - usually a good option - and choose an outfit that you like.

I have never heard of a bride asking guests (or hinting heavily) that they should wear or not wear a certain colour, let alone give swatches of material for reference. Nor have I ever heard of someone being cross because a guest looked horrid against the bridesmaids.

I'm not sure if all this is a joke but in any case I hope you find something that you like and suits you.

oh and certain shades of red I wouldn't have had a problem with but SCARLET!!!

Oh dear the poor guests.

No19 I was wondering if it was a joke. it has bought a smile (bemused) to my face.

I think it probably is BB. Wedding guests are not elements in a flower arrangement featuring the central lily of the bride.

You sound like a bridezilla! Sending out swatches! Good on your SIL I say.

i'd love to see teh photos, a sea of salmon with sil in offshoulder scarlet. what did the chaps wear?

scarlet is gorgeous

re: swatches - helpful to who???

Wear white. You can't go wrong wearing white to a wedding.

I'm sure your SIL is way ahead of you on this one and fully expecting a retaliation. She probably had a good laugh with her mates about the scarlet off the shoulder outfit. In these circumstances best to be demure and mature.

My mum asked for the swatch to match her outfit in and I sent one to the other mil in case she should want the same.

fishie - I wouldn't have chosen salmon/peach, but it was what they(BMs) all agreed on.

seriously not to the rest of the wedding guests just immediate family
It's not like I said everyone had to wear salmon I just gave them the opportunity to choose to co-ordinate.
the other sils didn't match, but nor did the go to clash

though my sister has been to a wedding where they had to wear peach, black or white

How do you know she chose an outfit to intentionally clash and 'ruin' your wedding?
It sounds like you have other issues beside this really.

mil let it slip

Well if you just "gave them the opportunity to choose to co-ordinate" why did you get your knickers in a twist about someone choosing not to? To the point where you now want to retaliate in some bizarre way?

Most brides would probably not think someone in any type of outfit was wearing it to upstage them or retaliate for some age-old imagined slight (why on earth would that occur to them?), so your retaliation won't be very satisfactory anyway, IMO.

am mildly baffled by this

wear whatever you like - early pregnancy isn;t too bad for dressing - think soft jersey wrap types

let her behaviour at your wedding go ffs, it was years ago and you were being a bit of a bridezilla, tbh

"salmon swatch incident"

fishie - rofl!

omg i cannot think of a more hideous colour than salmon pink, OR a more hideous thought than "co-ordinating" with the bridesmaids - how naff! you invite people to your wedding to share in the joy of the day - not to make pretty photographs

i would have worn red too, had i been invited