What do you use/do to feel good about yourself?

[tiredmumofboys1]

I love a tan but being winter I think I would look silly with one right now. I used to get my nails done with BIAB but had to stop as have young children who always got upset whilst I was having it done and no time to myself. I've put on a bit of weight which I'm going to start and try and lose but I just feel I need a bit of a pick me up to make me feel more confident/less like a mess

Instant confidence boost for me almost always means going for a wash and bouncy blow dry. I also love getting my nails done if I need a bit of a ‘pick me up’. A lash lift never fails to make me feel pretty if I’m feeling a bit rubbish or self conscious

Agree with PP, a lash lift is a great idea or consider lash extensions, no eye make up required! Also, if you enjoyed getting your nIls done, you should try and make time to do that again. I have gel nails done and they make me feel good each time I look at them. A good haircut and maybe colour that doesn't require a huge amount of maintenance could work too. It sounds like the biggest issue is you say you have no time to yourself. Do you have someone who could look after your children for a couple of hours once a month?

I eat a balanced diet, work out and treat myself to something at a charity shop.

I’ve been buying nice underwear makes me feel food and have a bit more confidence.

Going for a run!

I wear make-up, have my hair highlighted and layered, have my nails done - all things I couldn't afford when I was younger.

How about a fake tan (from a bottle), a bright lipstick, nice nail varnish, and a colour on your hair (all can be done at home)?

Having a nice haircut that is low maintenance on a day to day basis.

I also stopped saving my nice skincare for best or special occasions and started using it daily.

Getting my eyebrows shaped and tinted.

Not much, I've just always really liked myself in all iterations.

But I would say, prioritise yourself.

Because no other fucker will.

brows once a month, best investment ever

at home once a week:-

full body scrub
hair mask
face mask
nails
teeth whitening

4 x a week yoga
weigh every day to stay slim, gain a pound, lose a pound

id be really grim without all that!

Surely weighing yourself every day is a bit toxic and obsessive?

I wouldn’t say toxic, obsessive yes

but it’s important to me to be slim, I don’t talk about it with anyone, I eat well, nut am prone to gaining weight and hate dieting, so this works for me

'weigh every day to stay slim, gain a pound, lose a pound'

I would say that that's one of the worst things you could do to yourself.

Weigh everyday?

Bonkers.

I would say, I've never weighed myself.

I have occasionally, when I'm near a scale, I'll leap on, just out of interest.

I've never been interested in my weight.

This may possibly be an 'always been thin' thing.

I honestly don't know.

I have always been thin. I can't honestly answer a question about calories. Because I don't know.

I do know that I've always eaten what I wanted to.

I like to cook. I love food. I enjoy what I eat.

I think I eat a lot.

But I am tall.

And from a family of tall and thin people.

I don't like the idea that thin people don't eat.

I do understand that humans may be different.

I do understand (fucking hell, of course I do), that some women have a propensity to gain weight in a way that I don't.

Sometimes I miss a day if that helps with your horror and disdain :)

works for me, it’s most certainly not bad for me, it keeps me at a steady and healthy weight that I can manage

in the past weight has crept on without much effort and without me noticing. It’s easier for me to stay within my healthy weight

im doing me

But weighing yourself doesn’t make any difference to your weight at all, it’s a psychological thing. Eating a healthy and balanced diet with regular exercise makes a difference and keeps you within range, scales don’t

The pound on, pound off thing is extremely unhealthy and does seem obsessive - you do realise that your weight varies naturally day by day due to water content in the body?

Yes yes yes, I realise weight fluctuates naturally, but I also understand my body and how it’s super easy for me to put on weight. I don’t want to. I like being slim. Keeping track of my weight doesn’t mean i have an eating disorder, or am bonkers, or toxic… it means I stay the weight I want to be at.

i do all the things listed to stay as attractive, healthy and slim as i can be.

I eat well, I exercise well, am in a healthy weight range, not underweight or overweight.

i would think yo yo dieting would be harsher on your body, than being mindful once or twice a month after over indulging

Surely you know when you’ve ‘over indulged’? You don’t need scales to tell you when you’ve had a slice of cake too many!

I struggle with doing all these things unless I'm going out whereas I should really do it for myself! However all this makes me feel amazing

Face threading
Nails
Full waxing
Hair colour/blow dry

Nzeire

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
You say you work hard to be as attractive, fit and healthy as you can. Well done you. Can you bottle it and send me a pint?

Weekly veg box.

Loosely interpreted intermittent fasting as a way of life.

Sleep

I'm v low maintenance - never had a manicure and only get hair cut 2-3 times a year. But I love having brows done. A well shaped brow really frames the face and makes eye make up easier to apply.

I almost always wear make up - every day, even if I'm home alone. It makes me look and feel more awake and ready for the world.

I love a good soak in the bath with good quality products like REN moroccan rose oil or Neal's Yard orange and geranium.

And I always feel better after a tough workout, hot shower and hair wash.

Thankyou!

im not nuts, really!

I agree with you. I’m not obsessive and the changes don’t freak me out. It’s just keeps me in check 👌

I also keep check on my weight every couple of days . It takes 2 seconds ,hardly obsessive . Surely it's worse to yo yo diet . I eat well and cut back a bit if I've gained a couple of pounds .

I also weigh daily - but I look at the trend over a week (I have a spreadsheet) If the trend is upward I then cut back a bit the following week. I gained 2 lbs over Xmas but its gone now.

I have been very overweight nd its easier to lose 2 lbs then 2 stone