For context, I chose my engagement ring, or I suppose we choose it together. About 5 years ago now. When ring discussions first started I explained that my ideal ring would be a coloured stone, something like an emerald or sapphire. DH didn’t like the look of coloured engagement rings so literally said he wouldn’t not pick one with a coloured stone. So we looked at diamonds, went to the store and we picked my ring. When we left the store DH said the ring was slightly out of budget. I said that was fine (semi-relieved as the more I thought about it the more I wasn’t sure I actually liked it that much) so said no more about it, send DH some other rings over a few months and then he proposed, with the ring we chose. I was chuffed at the time with the excitement of the engagement and the fact he even remembered what ring it was! But now we’re years on I can feel a growing regret, I feel awful in the pit of my stomach that I don’t like my ring. I never had the heat to tell DH that it actually wasn’t what I wanted until recently. DH understands front point of view that my taste has changed and that I wanted a colour stone ect and when I made the suggestion that perhaps we can look to change it at our 10 year anniversary he said he no, and that this ring is sentimental.
I agreed it’s sentimental and I would never get rid of the ring, I’d put it up safe and offer it to DD Or DS when the time comes. I still see the sentiment in it, it’s just not my style and I find myself looking at it like it’s just not me.
Am I awful? I feel awful. In one way I think it’s not that big of a deal, it’s a piece of jewellery that I’ve grown out of love with style wise. It’s still sentimental to me though. But on the other hand this is my engagement ring and am I supposed to live the look of it forever? 😩