DD has dark hair on upper lip

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DD 11 has developed dark hair on her upper lip to the point now where some other kids are commenting on it.

Not ever having had this myself I have not a clue about how to even begin to help.

Your style and beauty advice is needed please.

Waxing or hair removal cream ought to get rid of it.

Hiya. I had this as a pre-teen/teen and tbh it was awful. I was teased about it.
I wish my mother had realised and helped - when she did offer (as she didn't get it either so wasn't aware) I was too self conscious and refused help, which didn't help!
Jolene bleaching kit for upper lip is really easy to use, quick and effective
Good luck!

If you can afford an IPL machine or treatment, then that's the permanent way to get rid of it.

Depending on skin and hair colour.

If you go down the veet route, be very careful on the timings. I can still recall a teen from school who "burnt" her upper lip by leaving the cream on too long - the hairs were gone but she had a bright red "moustache" instead.

How often would she need to use the cream?

I remember reading about this before and I think treatment depends on skin colour. If mixed race or black skin - threading was recommended. If white skin, laser was recommended.

I don’t have personal experience of anything other than occasional plucking (white skin and fair hair).

I use this and it might be easier for a pre teen rather than any creams etc. Ive seen them in both boots and tesco.

https://www.boots.ie/finishing-touch-flawless%E2%84%A2-face-10278138?cm_mmc=ROI_PPC--Shopping--Shopping_GA-_-Finishing_Touch&utm_source=roi_ppc&utm_medium=shopping&utm_campaign=shopping_ga&utm_term=Finishing_Touch&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHieOhZvdVy_w760JVJUgoD5PBgtpM2NftziFqrQ1W0rPQ3p3stv5fmBoCm5IQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

I find that bleach just means that you then have a blonde moustache that glints in the sunshine.

And it can burn your skin (this happened to me and I’m forever grateful my mum let me stay off school until it was better).

I use sensitive facial wax strips.

I agree ask her gently if she’d like to try different hair removal techniques. If you do use a crème, be sure to do an allergy patch test on the inside of elbow before putting on her face.

They do have new lasers that work on darker skin tones.

Thank you all so much. Having a google at these suggestions now.

My daughter was the same.. still is age 30 .. turns out she has PCOS.. she went for waxing age 11.. was advised against chemical creams.. shaving makes it worse..
She's now had laser.
I use a Flawless .. but I'm old and have old persons hair.. chin / lip / face lol.

I had this as a child and still do but my mum would trim it with cosmetic scissors and then once I was about 13/14 I was either waxing or threading. Now (22) after I get waxed I wait 24 hours then use my laser to reduce hair growth, it’s 100% slowed down and now only get waxed every 4 weeks. If you want to do down this route I would suggest starting with the trimming and possibly if she would like to get her eyebrows done to get comfortable with the therapist and the process of the waxing or even just using tweezers for a little tidy up😊

Personally, if she can deal with the initial 30 seconds of stinging, I would recommend the Braun facial epilator. It's long lasting, she will be able to do it whenever she wants and it lasts for quite a few weeks.

I use a dermaplaning face blade, called Hollywood Browzer off Amazon. I can't wax or veet as my skins too sensitive but this works great. Easier for upkeep also

I wouldn’t bleach it , a white moustache is no less obvious . Hair removal creams are very hit and miss , basically chemicals that burn the hair off . 30 seconds too soon it does nothing , 30 seconds too long and it will burn and blister. If it does work she will be left with a smooth weird shiny patch which will stand out against the rest of her face. I would use a razor ( does NOT make it grow back thicker or darker ) or for best results take her to get it waxed, it’s really fast takes about 30 seconds and should be under £10. It will last several weeks and if she keeps it up the growth will slow down . Redness wears off after about an hour . Threading is an option, but the top lip is not for the faint hearted !

Shaving is a really fast and convenient way to get rid of it and agree with pp that it doesn’t make it worse. How could it? Makes the end of the hairs blunt so they could look thicker but who cares? They’re being shaved off again straight away. Agree that bleach is awful, blond moustache is no better than dark. Removal creams can be so harsh on skin

Wow jolene bleaching cream brings back memories! Agree with others though it tends to leave a noticeable blond line of hairs. I'd be careful because of her age her skin is more fragile than an adults- the sensitive facial hair remover creams are good as they don't sting and it lasts a while. Threading is good but not sure what age they do it from- if it's done properly then it shouldn't hurt and can upkeep with tweezing between. I'd personally avoid waxing or shaving for now.

Shaving is often more noticable, not because they grow back thicker but because it doesn't remove the hair from the root.

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im sure it would, but I'm not sure that's safe/wise on such young skin, is it???

I would help her remove it. I would also advise against bleaching, you just have a blonde moustache. I went to school with someone with a bleached upper lip, it doesn’t work. I wouldn’t shave either as if she forgets she will have stubble and will have to do it constantly.

I take it from your OP that female facial hair doesn't run in your family, therefore I would be wanting to find out why your daughter's afflicted. Ask your GP to refer for testing, which could flag up PCOS or other cause.

Hi,

Laser removal actually made my unwanted hair issue significantly worse. Despite going to a reputable expensive Harley St clinic. They told me after it wasn’t recommended for fine hair or certain skin types. I’d never recommend it to anyone for that reason, though I know some have had better results.

Electrolysis permanently removed it, after a few sessions. It hurts a bit, but numbing cream helps. I’d only get it done by someone qualified on the BIAE register. I wish I’d done it years ago, instead of temporary methods and dealing with growth between removal sessions.

It depends on hair type as to whether epilation/laser works and whether it lasts well. Generally darker hair works best for longer term removal.

I've been the same since around age 10 and I've always just plucked or epilated mine. Shaving creates stubble because it doesn't pull the hairs out from the root, cream just gives you a blonde moustache, and laser treatment isn't advisable for kids (it also makes your skin more sensitive to the sun).

For over a year I've used the Flawless for my DD that is a bit younger than yours. She's got dark hair. We do it every 3 days, it takes about 30 seconds, pain free & no issues since.

Help her to wax it or thread it. I started around that age, I'm not British and in my family women have thick dark hair... everywhere:-(