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Can I wear cream trousers to a wedding

55 replies

IheartNiles · 30/07/2023 09:07

DD says I can’t.

They’re wide legs, flowy material, matt but cream. Definitely look like trousers. With a top that is not cream or white.

I will not be mistaken for the bride.

I don’t do dresses/skirts/heels or colour. I’ve been a tomboy all my life and at the age of 50 have stopped conforming.

But am I committing some terrible faux pas? If I am I’ll have to look for black ones.

OP posts:
Twothousandandjustonemore · 30/07/2023 09:12

I’d say no too.
You will get loads of posters saying ‘it’s fine, you’ll not be mistaken for a bride’ but it really is a no to wear such a large block of white/cream/ivory to a wedding.

HappiDaze · 30/07/2023 09:13

No

GoodChat · 30/07/2023 09:14

What top would you wear with them?

Enko · 30/07/2023 09:15

I personally wouldn't. I guess with a colourful top it could work ok. I just wouldn't do so.

PimpMyFridge · 30/07/2023 09:15

I think it works be fine if the top was a completely different colour. Sounds fab.

GrumpyOldCrone · 30/07/2023 09:18

I wouldn’t, but lots of people will say it’s fine.

How well do you know the bride? Is it possible to ask her? If you don’t know her well, you should probably err on the side of caution.

GrumpyOldCrone · 30/07/2023 09:26

Last wedding I went to, my friend wore a very nice jumpsuit with flat shoes. She looked great. Would that sort of thing work for you, OP?

AuntieMarys · 30/07/2023 09:29

I would! I don't do skirts or dresses...they sound perfect.

PurpleParrotfish · 30/07/2023 09:34

I don’t understand why people are saying no. Surely the ‘rule’ about avoiding wearing all white or cream is so that the bride stands out from the crowd? In cream trousers and a coloured top, you’ll just blend in with the other guests.

LavenderfortheBees · 30/07/2023 10:02

Fine with a bright or dark coloured top and accessories, blazer etc.

I wouldn't with a pale or pastel top.

Neverseenbefore · 30/07/2023 10:04

It’s fine

LlynTegid · 30/07/2023 10:05

I wouldn't as do dark colours bottom half, lighter ones top half, so to speak.

Ohdearwhatnow4 · 30/07/2023 10:08

Can you ask the bride if she's fine with it. I had people wear white/cream to my wedding reception. I got married abroad and wore bright red , one guest wore pale pink and looked more like the bride in a way, although, I had flowers in hair and she looked lovely. She did ask first. Also her husband wore a full suit, my DP didn't wear a tie. Each to their own.

SingaporeSlinky · 30/07/2023 10:08

I think it’s fine as long as you aren’t head-to-toe cream. Maybe a pale pink/blue/sage green top and colourful accessories.

DontLetMeKeepYou · 30/07/2023 10:21

Of course it is. Mn is deeply weird about this stuff. If I had asked a friend who was getting married if they had opinions on whether I wore a black dress or cream trousers to their wedding, they’d have thought I was having a psychotic breakdown.

Doingmybest12 · 30/07/2023 10:27

I would say it will look lovely and if you feel confident in them wear them. Please don't ask the bride what trousers you can wear unless you see her often and just as part of normal conversation ask her. However if you feel you have to ask I'd choose something else.

reducemug · 30/07/2023 10:49

Of course its fine. Only on mumsnet do you find people who say no! No to cream trousers would also mean no to a cream too or a cream jacket. Probably no to cream shoes and a bag too. Trousers are nothing close to the bride. Weird thread on this subject again.

Wear what you like. Its an invite, not a summons.

LovelyBitOfSquirrrel · 30/07/2023 10:50

I think if you have to question it, it’s better to just avoid it

PimpMyFridge · 30/07/2023 10:56

Loads of weddings I've been to have had various outfits with bride adjacent shades of cream or white as an aspect of the whole colour palette. Flowers or polka dot with white background etc would be a comparable example.
The whole 'don't dress like the bride' thing is for whole top to bottom colour choices.
But veto'ing a colour that will be completely eclipsed by the bright top (and is just a neutral foil to that) ñ and is trousers anyway, is bonkers.

Wendysfriend · 30/07/2023 10:57

Cream trousers are fine. It's only on here that you read all the colours not allowed /frowned upon, tbh there's not many colours left when you take out black, white, cream, pastel colours, white background, cream background, the list goes on. I've been to so many weddings and anything goes, well, unless you turn up in a wedding dress.

roorooA · 30/07/2023 10:59

They always say...if you have to ask, you shouldn't wear it!

SavvyMaria · 30/07/2023 11:01

I think it sounds fine but I'd avoid a cream/white top half.

ejbaxa · 30/07/2023 11:02

I think it's basically OK if you have a top which is bright/takes the majority of the attention compared to the trousers. As long as they are properly cream and not mistakable for white.

Walkingtheplank · 30/07/2023 11:17

Yes, wear what you like and are comfortable in. No one will mistake you for a bride.

Not aimed at you OP, but always amazed by the amount of dress rules some responders think must be followed by women at a wedding.

No one suggests men cant wear a suit in case they're mistaken for a groom.

Dombasle · 30/07/2023 11:19

This look would be fine for a wedding guest-

Can I wear cream trousers to a wedding