Can I wear cream trousers to a wedding

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DD says I can’t.

They’re wide legs, flowy material, matt but cream. Definitely look like trousers. With a top that is not cream or white.

I will not be mistaken for the bride.

I don’t do dresses/skirts/heels or colour. I’ve been a tomboy all my life and at the age of 50 have stopped conforming.

But am I committing some terrible faux pas? If I am I’ll have to look for black ones.

@Walkingtheplank quite right.

@Dombasle That is very elegant imo.
@Walkingtheplank Hear hear! Endless rules for women's appearance not mens!

I think fine too.

I just had a thought, I once wore a white top to a wedding - never even gave it a thought but I guess I committed a mortal sin back then. Oh well.

Absolutely!!!

That's ridiculous. Morning suit or lounge suit is the typical dress code.

OP what are you wearing on top half?

It's not ridiculous.

If there is a concern that a woman wearing cream trousers might be mistaken for the bride, who is almost certain wearing a full length dress, how the heck is anyone supposed to know who the groom is if all the men are wearing suits? Of course no one actually makes that mistake, because it would be ridiculous for anyone to be so confused.

Women also cant wear anything black (funeral colour) or too dark/sombre, I've seen red described as too sexy and green being for envy. It's not leaving many colours!! You've then got to not cover too much up/be the right length etc.

Really any bride(zilla) would just want her friends and family to be comfortable in what they're wearing and not worrying beforehand, especially if they've not got the funds to find something deemed as 'suitable'.

Was it a good do? Everyone have a good time?
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@Walkingtheplank i don't think anyone thinks that cream trousers with a contrasting top half is going to be mistaken for the bride.

Yes, of course you can. Cream trousers is not going to upstage the bride.

I would put significant money on not only the bride but also anyone there, not giving it a second thought.
So long as if you're stood next to the bride you don't look like you're her understudy you're fine.

The whole point of not eclipsing the bride so to speak is so you don't detract from her being the stand out person in terms of dress.

No way will cream trousers and a colourful top come within touching distance of a bridal gown in that respect.

It's not about having no-go colours it's about not outshining the bride on her day.

Does the bride still talk to you?

Come to think of it, bride emigrated to Australia. What have I done?

Jack Whitehall's brother and new sister in law got married last week or so. Bride worn a cream/ivory trouser suit. Bit different but she looked very bridal (it was stunning).

Personally I'd avoid anything cream/ivory/white.

Indeed it would. That looks very elegant.

but always amazed by the amount of dress rules some responders think must be followed by women at a wedding.

Same here.

Absolutely fine. I’ve seen plenty of wedding guests in cream/white linen trousers with a nice top. I’d say it’s a pretty classic look. No one complains at men who wear light coloured suits!

Yes, that would be at lovely outfit to wear.
Good point from various PPs that men don't have these ridiculous 'rules'
(Though I know there was a lively thread recently about whether ties must be worn)

Absolutely fine!

One reason for not wearing white is so that the bride stands out as a 'block of white colour' in photos so the eye is drawn to her.

Just pick something else.

but always amazed by the amount of dress rules some responders think must be followed by women at a wedding.

There are loads of rules at lots of social events. What you say and when, who does what first, who is invited, who sits where, who buys gifts for whom.

And what horrors would follow if the bride didn’t ‘stand out’ so the eye was unerringly drawn to her in photos? The same dreadful fate that awaits a groom who wears a dark suit that is identical to those worn by his groomsmen? Will no one think of the poor, overlooked groom on his Big Day?

I wore a cream trouser suit to my friends wedding but it was over 25 years ago before all this nonsense.

No one would have mistaken me for the bride, she was the one in a wedding dress!

I'd say go for it

OMG, this. So true.

Most men turn up to weddings wearing clothes that are fairly similar in color and shape to the groom’s outfit.

NOBODY has an issue with this.

It is only women who are expected to go through these bizarre contortions: don’t wear anything white OR cream, but don’t wear black, do wear seasonal colors, don’t wear anything someone might think is “evening-y,” don’t wear anything slightly casual or you won’t be showing respect for the occasion, don’t wear anything slightly swishy or long or sparkly or you might look like you wanted to be bridesmaid, etc. etc….

The rules seem to have multiplied and multiplied over the years and it needs to stop. Why do women keep doing this to themselves and each other?

I think part of it comes from this idea that being married is the pinnacle of female achievement, that all women are obsessed with being married and being brides, and that everyone is secretly seething with jealousy of the bride. Really? I’m married and there’s nothing very special about being married. I can’t even remember what any guests wore on the wedding day - it wasn’t something I really thought about. And I have never seen a bride wearing a pair of cream trousers.

OP, it’s fine. It really is.

The difference is that reasonable and fair rules are those followed by both sexes.

The ever-escalating policing of women’s wedding outfits places a burden on women alone. It’s called “sexism.”

Of course you can.

As a pp says, the whole thing about not wearing white / cream / ivory is so nobody can think you are trying to look like the bride / that the bride stands out in any group photos. In what you describe - with a colourful top, there is no chance of any confusion, so no issue.