do you judge others 'worth' by the clothes they wear?

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do you?

NO because I cant tell but I know they do at DS2's nursery school becuase they look at me like something I trod in !!!

No. Well yes I suppose I do! I rarely notice what people wear unless they are very stylish or very scruffy!

No, I couldn';t give a shit

Unless they were doing their weekly shop in nowt but a gimp suit, then I might be a bit

i wondered cos I have no interest in clothes and wear any old thing. I own one pair of jeans, 3 t-shirts, 3 cardi's and 2 skitrs and thus rotate them through the wash and on me with no regard to anything.
But my teenage daughter said her friends think i'm some scruffy hippy type and think 'less' of me. Even though they don't know me.

Define "worth".
Do you mean financial wealth, class, or value to you as a potential friend?

I don't judge their 'worth', but I am ashamed to say I sometimes make a snap judgement on their likely personality ie someone dressed in muted colours and appropriately for the weather, I would trust to give me directions.

I didn;t think you were a scruffyhippie when I met you NMC.

In fact, I remember you were wearing rather a lovely long coat.

worth = value as a human being

No I definitely don't. I'm a fairly scruffy mare myself, and pay no need to what others are wearing.

I particularly don't notice shoes. You could wear size 20 clown's boots in canary yellow, and I still wouldn't notice.

An obsession with labels/designers clothing sometimes hits my radar .. but it leaves me with more negative opinions than positive ones, if I'm honest.

If they are always in sportswear i assume they won't want to be my friend because I have have NIL interest in sport.

my mum made me that coat 25 years ago

Aaah but you are talking teenagers nmc, they are a different breed . They will grow out of it. Your wardrobe sounds pretty normal for a mum.

Yes, but I'd tend to be intrigued by the ones who didn't try so hard
I judge more by faces iyswim - someone smiley and talking with friends at the gate who returns my smile, gets the thumbs up - someone who won't make eye contact bothers me.
I'm probably usually wrong but tis fun to guess!

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"Scruffy hippy type" actually sounds quite cool to me. And I know from painful, bitter experience that teenage DDs are great at catty comments. If they really do judge your worth by your clothes in that way then that has less to do with what you wear and more to do with them being immature teenagers.

ps am a scruffy hippy type, worthless I suspect as well

I just dont care what you are wearing I would care about BO is suppose if I stood close enough

but people do make judgments about what clothes you wear relating to your wealth which I find very odd

I don't judge their worth but do make assumptions about lifestyle.
one lady turns up to pick up in a velour tracksuit with white high heeled shoes. 2 year old in pushchair has outfit that matches mummy down to little heeled sandles in the middle of winter.
I make assumptions that are possibly correct possibly not..

Not really. I am occasionally struck with a pang of jealousy/awe at those skinny, tanned, fragrant women who know how to 'throw things together'. Mostly, though, I couldn't give a toss.

More their hairstyle - is that bad?

I know someone is not going to be a great friend - or any friend at all by their hairstyle and their facial expression - I hate non smiley poeple!

Lol Twinkie . I am intrigued as to how you can tell whether someone will make a greeat friend by their hairstyle! I have a bob but it is not chic because I can't blowdry, what sort of friend would I make?

well I'm smiley but I cut my own hair. Usually by snipping away in front of the mirror until I get bored

I think some people can't help judging you on your clothes. I have absolutely no interest in clothes, will wear them as long as they are clean and cover me up/keep me warm as appropriate. I will wear my mum's or husband's stuff as well, I don't mind at all. I also have difficulty getting shoes (size 8.5) and wear trainers most of the time. My dad and stepmother are very judgemental about clothes and are always criticizing me about mine. They think allsorts of things like you have no respect for those around you if you don't dress nicely (which is so totally untrue!) and you have low self esteem (also untrue!) I JUST DON'T LOVE CLOTHES LIKE SOME PEOPLE DO!!