June funeral wear

[Fleetheart]

My Dad died recently, his funeral is the end of June, not sure what style to wear really. Am 50 something; 5 ft 8, a bit plumper than I should be, size 14/16. I want to be respectful and elegant but not necessarily all black. And of course it may be warm. Any ideas?

I'm so sorry for your loss.

This dress is 100% cotton and has one left in a black 16 long!
https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-broderie-midaxi-tea-dress/p/clp60596057?color=BLACK#intid=pid_pg1pip48g4r4c2

My condolences on the loss of your father.

You say not necessarily all black - but a simple black dress or blouse and skirt would be easy and elegant. Is there another colour you’d rather wear?

Are you wanting to buy something new? If so, do you have a budget in mind?

I’ve been to a couple of funeral’s recently and I was surprised by how no one seems to wear black, or even dress smartly, these days. It really is just about being there, not how you look.

thank you; I was thinking of spending up to £100 or so. Maybe dark purple, but was wondering about people’s opinions of what is acceptable these days.

Sorry for your loss.

It's your father's funeral, so other people's opinions are immaterial. If you want to wear purple, wear it.

I buried one parent in the snow, and the other in 30ºC heat. For the former, I wore a coat my mother loved, and for the latter, a dress my father loved. Neither were black.

Was my Dads funeral 3 years ago yesterday.
My sister, mum and I and most other attendees wore navy,
DH and my 2 young adults wore grey trousers, white shirts and DH a navy jacket.

Any dark colours are fine. Navy, grey, purple are all OK. They look respectful.
I'm sorry for your loss. x

Cross posted with @JustToBeMe. Exactly.

The dress I've worn to most funerals I've been to for years including my parents is navy with a small muted pastel floral pattern. It's vaguely like this - very easy to wear

https://www.marksandspencer.com/polka-dot-short-sleeve-midi-tea-dress/p/clp22531150?prevPage=srp#intid=plpnavpidd_pg1pip26g4r2c2

My father-in-law died just under a year ago and I wore a purple cream and black dress that I'd previously worn at my son's wedding.

Went to a funeral last week and wore a black dress but with a lighter coloured v lightweight scarf so it didn’t look v depressing! Everyone else was wearing various combos of dark colours.

Very sorry about your dad OP X

Would this work, @Fleetheart?

https://www.cos.com/en_gbp/women/womenswear/dresses/product.puff-sleeve-belted-maxi-dress-purple.1149624001.html

(As you’re quite tall the length should be fine.)

We have FIL’s funeral end of next week. We are away at the moment so it will be a mad panic.

I do have a black summer dress but I think it might be too casual in material and I’m stuck for shoes. I would prefer a slightly different dress. I’ll only have 3 days to find something so if it comes to it will wear black work trousers and a loose top that is patterned but in darker colours including some black.

Sorry for your loss.

Or this?

https://www.collagerie.com/en-gb/products/rae-feather-spring-buttercrepe-dress-purple-pink

And there’s this - which goes on sale tomorrow at Massimo Dutti. Elegant shape. Tap for details.

I am sorry for your loss. I unfortunately had a funeral to attend last June and wore a black wool crepe dress, similar to L K Bennett Alexis. You can always hire through L K Bennett borrowed.

I wore a grey dress with pink and cream flowers on it ,( sort of chiffon and floaty ) black jacket , bag and shoes
Dad loved gardening , botany and being outside though

Doesn't have to be a dress necessary. Wide leg linen type trousers, nice floaty top and smart sandals. Last thing you want to be is hot and uncomfortable on a day like that x

What was his favourite colour?

Same height as you, I wore a black COS dress to my last summer funeral (I've hit the age where I'm going to a lot ☹️)

Whereas I would agree, to some extent about the important thing is being there, I have to say that isn't my experience at all.
I was at a funeral last week with over 150 people there. All but 3 or 4 were wearing black. Some of the ladies wore something like a black and other coloured top with black trousers, skirt or suit, but virtually everyone wore black.

Unfortunately, I've been to 6 funerals this year, and that has been the same at each of them (aside from when people wear uniforms which aren't black).

I am aware some families specifically request for people not to wear black - that is obviously a different scenario - but if nothing is said, then my experience is it is very, very normal to wear black.

Sorry for your loss OP.
I am glad you've had lots of suggestions on this thread

I wore a sleeveless, crepe dress, with a black cardigan at my father's late summer funeral in 2001.

Nowadays, I'd want a plain black cotton dress. I'm not sure I'd find one. Boden may have some classic Jersey wrap frocks or simple, smartish summer dresses in plain black.

I am very sorry for your loss

Do you have anything existing you can wear? I ask because you're probably forever going to associate what you wear with the event and you may not want to wear it again. So reusing something you have might help you be comfy and also not worry about feeling bad for having something you won't wear again if you see what I mean.

Exactly what I wore to my darling Mums funeral and that was in June .

I'm sorry for your loss. My dad's funeral was in the winter, so much easier in terms of wardrobe choices. I chose my outfit with him in mind. He was a very stylish person and I don't think I have ever looked as well put together before or since! Of course summer is harder, but maybe think about what your dad liked seeing you in, and of course what you feel good in and importantly comfortable in. I thought about it as dressing to say goodbye, rather than dressing for a funeral. I hope you find your outfit and can give him a good send off!