June funeral wear

[Fleetheart]

My Dad died recently, his funeral is the end of June, not sure what style to wear really. Am 50 something; 5 ft 8, a bit plumper than I should be, size 14/16. I want to be respectful and elegant but not necessarily all black. And of course it may be warm. Any ideas?

would something like this work with a camisole under?
https://www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/jersey-wrap-maxi-dress-black-paisley-terrace/sty-d0536-bla

It’s your dad so you wear what you want. I wore this at a close relative’s funeral a couple of weeks ago

https://www.next.co.uk/style/ls189907/p39479#p39479

My dad’s funeral was on the day, just like the ones we are having this week. I wore white trousers sandals and a blue top.

wear what he liked to see you in

I have a black, mid calf length and sleeveless linen dress from M&S, and they have similar this year again. It is sleeveless but I wear a light weight summer jacket over it for work (jacket is a dark green). Great in the heat but looks neat and not too casual - but does work fine as more casual wear with sandals rather than formal shoes. (Actually wearing the business version combo today).

Sorry for your loss.

I don't think it has to be black. For me the guiding principle of funerals is to wear something smart, muted and respectable (unless as others have said there is a specific request re colours or clothes types).

I had to go to a memorial event for a much respected former colleague and friend last July in the searing heatwave. I wore an ankle length cotton, wrap shirt dress in black with cream polka dots and gold wedge sandals.

My dad's funeral was in summer and I wore a black sleeveless linen shift dress with black espadrille type sandals - it was smart and respectful (covered the knees, fairly high scoop neckline) but was supremely cool and comfortable.

People these days seem to wear plain, smart or smart/ casual clothes in darker colours. So navy, dark purple, dark green , maroon , dark brown. Men and women often wear white shirts / blouses / tops with dark trousers or skirts. Often beige raincoats ( when needed ).

So defo not all black ( unless that’s been requested by the family of course).

I think the only “ definitely not “ are too casual ( trainers, denim unless very plain and dark, too revealing ( short shorts or skirts, plunging necklines , crop tops, spaghetti straps with underwear showing ) , too attention seeking ( very bright patterns and bold colours ) and sportswear or tee shirts with big logos.

Unless of course there’s been a request from the family “ John loved Star Wars so wear your favourite star wars tee shirt “ etc .

I’m going to a funeral next week ( no one close ) and will wear a navy linen dress, which is very loose so hopefully not too hot .

I hope you find something that works for you @Fleetheart

Would somethign like this work? It is black but it's cool and not too stuffy

Sorry for your loss, I wore a white blouse and black culottes to a funeral last summer.

Maybe a linen dress in a muted colour? Like this one from Jigsaw (I’m sorry, a little over budget): https://www.jigsaw-online.com/collections/dresses/products/linen-shirt-dress-navy

My dad’s funeral was in June. I wore navy wide leg trousers, a navy collarless jacket and a breton top.

Whatever you like, it's your dad
My mums funeral was last June and I wore this because we wanted people in colours

First off I’m sorry for your loss, my dad passed away October 2022 when I was putting out the time,date & place of funeral I did let people know that they could dress how they liked so as to be comfortable as the funeral was half an hour away from the village dad was from all I said was just no football colours or blue jeans, I did this as although a lot of my dads friends were in his age range obviously (dad was 74) so I knew the older people would still come in the traditional black suit white shirt black tie & they did not let me down,the funeral was at 9am & I felt that the younger people attending wouldn’t want to be dressed up at that time in the morning, I wore a loose white blouse & black trousers along with a long cardigan I was nice & cool & very comfortable which helped keep me calm as I was delivering a eulogy which was one of the most daunting this I have ever done in my life & that was in front of a roomful of people that I knew I could hardly talk by the end of it & I know I couldn’t do it again,I still can’t talk about dad without crying & Im 48 I haven’t worn that outfit again apart from the cardigan

thanks for all the ideas; really grateful. I will probably go for a dress, the linen one or the boden ones look good. and hopefully something I can wear again. And thank you for all your good wishes. It’s strange that he’s not here. I know we all go
through this but it’s a sad situation of course.

For most funerals I've ever been to, people haven't necessarily worn black. I always wore dark colours eg navy, and fairly smart/ respectable. Usually what I already had in my wardrobe. But for my mum's funeral 3 years ago I wore a plain black, below the knee dress, which I bought for the occasion. In fact the whole family wore black except my brother who had a blue suit.

PS I have worn the dress since but only to another family funeral. It's rather too sombre for anything else (I am partial to a shorter cocktail type black dress, so it's not the colour).