Can you lot help a fat frumpy woman?

[Fatandpregnantagain]

Please?

I am 43. I’m very overweight <sigh> after successfully losing lots of weight after my first pregnancy it’s gone on again in my second. I am about five stone overweight.

I am also pregnant, so maternity clothes should be my go to, but I cannot find decent plus sized maternity clothes. Grateful for any suggestions. I feel horrid at the moment and obviously horizontal stripes are a no no for larger ladies. Please help!

As my mother always said get your hair and skin looking good and you are halfway there.

Will be watching to see replies - I’m mid thirties and 15st and not tall!

Are you pear shaped? More of an apple?

I don’t think my skin is too bad or my hair … but clothes are a huge issue. I’m not going to look like Molly Mae at my age and size but I do need to look professional at work and I would also like to be comfortable!

I’m a lump, @CheeseMeltCracker . I have a huge stomach even when not pregnant. I’ve always had a weird B shaped stomach even when slim, and so I never really look properly pregnant, just very, very large. My arse and legs are fat and so is my back! I also have no neck.

Really selling myself, aren’t I? 😂

What’s your usual/historic style? What sorts of shops, what sort of budget?

What height, age and dress size are you? What sort of colouring do you have/colours do you suit and what sort of clothes are you after, are there any particular brands or looks that you like?

I am tall, 50’s, very plus sized with a big tummy. I find I look better if I wear a nice bright colour I suit near my face and fun jewellery. I wished I had a brightly coloured capsule wardrobe that I could mix and match easily.

Please stop calling yourself frumpy. It's fucking hard being a 43 year old woman, let alone a pregnant with a little one. I would focus entirely on your hair. My clothes are quite shit and but I have a great skin care routine and spend quite a lot on my colour (hence no money left for clothes) and it makes a big difference.

If you were a letter of the alphabet, what would you be? I am a P - all tits and stomach, no bum and skinny legs.

PS the entire fucking fashion industry pretends we don't exist - you are not frumpy - they are and we lack choice!!! I ordered a large bikini from net a fucking porter last year - LARGE - it was a 10 max. Fuckers.

Can we be a cartoon instead? I was Barbapapa but the body hair situ is a little out of control now so more Barbabeau

You can be anything you like @unclebuck .

I do need some clothes though - can’t walk around naked!

One of the problems is I’m not sure what my dress size is. Before I got pregnant I was a 14/16. Now probably more like a 20. I used to like Fat Face, White Stuff, some Joules, Next … these stores don’t have maternity sections but the shops that do seem quite young and trendy which definitely isn’t me either.

Can you look on Vinted, buy in big sizes and try some things out? Monki does some lovely big dresses - I bought one to take in but ended up giving it to a friend who is bigger than me, she looked so awesome in it. I'll try and find a link to the sort of thing it was.....

I need height and size to advise. I work in the beauty industry and have a huge wardrobe. I am known for my clothes. I spend a lot as I am a CEO. However I also enjoy bargain hunting and shop on fleebay a lot. I never feel underdressed. I did get my maternity clothes made but good trousers and silk shirts work with a maternity jacket. What is your budget op? And I am plus sized.

www.monki.com/en_gbp/clothing/dresses/midi-dresses/product.3/4-sleeve-shirt-dress-white.0964450008.html

It was this sort of thing. They do big sizes and I think the dresses are far more "hooray!" Than some of the Fat face / Joules ones which can be a bit "sorry about me existing." Huge congrats on your pregnancy and I hope you find a lovely dress or three.

Thanks. I’m 5’3 so not tall. I don’t tend to wear dresses a lot but could be persuaded.

I’m 36, 5’1” and currently alarmingly big. Size 16 on the bottom and 20 on the top. I have massive muscular rugby player legs thanks to spending my formative years riding horses, a big floppy belly from two pregnancies and chunky shoulders. I’ve put on tons of weight in the last 18 months thanks to my youngest’s lack of sleep/me eating cake to survive.

I tend to live in leggings and carefully shaped longer length tops. I don’t look great but I am presentable. Simply Be is good for nice, modern clothing but cut for plus size people. I think they have a maternity section too….?

Thanks @Timeturnerplease , that’s really helpful. I’ll have a look. My ideal would be a couple of pairs of trousers / leggings, a few nice tops and a cardigan or two.

ASOS have loads of maternity clothes in various colours and lengths www.asos.com/women/maternity/cat/?cid=5813&currentpricerange=5-160&refine=size:162

Thanks - they are definitely for someone much younger and prettier than me! I bet Molly Mae rocked them: me, not so much!

You will never be this young again. I would also recommend ASOS, they have a lot of Mollie Mae scraps but they also have basics, and lots of stuff in their outlet. I like this dress and it’s £25.00. And I’m willing to bet you are lovely.

I think I’m a bit too short for long dresses - they just swamp me! Must lose weight after this pregnancy, but I really am uncomfortable in ‘normal’ clothes now and look very scruffy.

Don’t give up on Asos! I’m 42 and mainly shop there. You have to just be ruthless and keep trawling through the site. The curves / plus size bit has some really lovely things - I am 5ft 7 and a size 18/20 and I tend to size up a bit on Asos as I don’t like things clingy.

Yours is also good for basics / longer length things. They do a maternity range now I think.

@FancyFran - where do you tend to ship? I'd be interested in your recommendations for nice plus size stuff

I'd second 'Yours' the quality can be a bit hit and miss but the leggings and trousers I've found to be pretty good www.yoursclothing.co.uk/maternity?gclid=Cj0KCQiAi8KfBhCuARIsADp-A56Zb3ShUf1R_yQVLnwXeid8Vf6NYrNsMX_XedLS0ZbJi7f6mpmgJDMaAlquEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

Vero Moda have some nice stuff www.veromoda.com/en-gb/curve-plus-size/maternity-wear

As do Tu at Sainsburys, filter by size and there's lots in plus sizes tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/c/women/maternity?size-20_98=on&q=%3AnewArrivals%3Asize%3A20_98%3A&q=&page=0#

Don't be too harsh on yourself, you've got a lot going on xx