Perimenopausal hotness - what do you wear?

[Littlemiss74]

Am perimenopausal and get hot (& bothered!) easily. I love all the chunky oversized jumpers & cardigans around but even touching most of them in the shop makes me feel hot!
I’ve always found wool & other materials that are made to look like wool & now I’m even worse as start to feel warm and just want to rip it off which makes me grumpy!😩
What do other people buy in winter? I went to Zara and saw some lovely jumpers & cardis that I would love to be able to wear but I know they will just irritate me.
Any suggestions would be appreciated

Long sleeved tops and thin layers in cotton, silk etc - couldn’t wear a chunky jumper just now if you paid me! I swear I glow in the dark, lol

I thought this was going to be about what we wear to look hot. 😊

Vests are the way forward eg under a dress

@5128gap yes I need that advice too!🤣

@Purplecatshopaholic where do you get yours from? I’ve got some long sleeve cotton tops ‘basics’ from places like H&M & Sainsburys but I just feel so boring & a bit frumpy when I wear them. They always seem to be in black, white, navy, grey none of which are really my colours - I’m
Autumn colouring

😂.
Natural fibres all the way. Layers, short sleeved cotton T shirt under a cardigan. Dress plus small cardi.

Petit Bateau have quite few Tees in autumn colouring this season. Unfortunately I am a summer.

Can’t help on the colours front @Littlemiss74 as I’m a Winter and wear black/white/grey most of the time! I like places like asos, and John Lewis, that do a range of brands, then I religiously check what the piece is made of before I buy it and avoid manmade fabrics like the plague!

I pretty much lived in coloured cotton vests from Primark for years. With a range of light to chunky cardigans depending on the time of year.

Cardis are quick to take off and easy to put back on. The key to dealing with a flush is how quickly you can cool down.

If it's particularly cold a silk scarf on your neck can also be whipped off in a flash.

Oh yes, I need to know this. Was eyeing a lovely chunky jumper in the shops but I know I will just get overheated. I have been buying some pure cotton v necked jumpers( am small busted).

I know this isn't what you are asking but I would have thought HRT would regulate your body temperature and you wouldn't have flushes/hotness. I am on it and never feel hot. Ignore me if this isn't an option!

I am finding the commute v hard as it's boiling on the train - it's the hot cold hot cold I find difficult!

Layers are your friend. I wear a suit to work but wear a T shirt and take off my jacket/coat the minute I get on the train. I think it's layering that's important and trying to take stuff off before you know it will be hot!

@pharmachameleon yes you’re right, I’ve recently started hrt & it’s definitely helped. I think it’s more the itchiness of the jumper/cardigan materials which I’ve always found to be honest. They make me itchy & then I start to feel hot & bothered but actually they did this before I was at this peri stage. I think I’m just more conscious now that I want to be comfortable but I also want to to wear some of the lovely jumper//cardis that are around. I don’t really like anything too tight fitting across my top half so the slouchy style or long cardigans appealed to me but maybe it’s not meant to be😊

@Littlemiss74 yep I hate the itchiness too!

@TheGander but where can i find natural fibres without it costing the earth? I seem to spend hours now when shopping looking at all the labels on things I like and then being disappointed when they’re ‘hot’ materials😩

@Silverstreaks thank you, the thing is if I wear vest tops my arms are still exposed so any cardigan over the top often still irritates me. I guess I need long sleeve tops but then I find everything bunches up.

@Lentilweaver where are your cotton jumpers from? I am not small busted & really don’t know what style to wear anymore. I just feel fat in everything😕

@QueenOfTheMetaverse that sounds hard, yes I think you’re right about layers, it’s just finding affordable clothes that are not ‘hot’ material seems to be very challenging. Can you suggest anywhere I could try please?

Yes I agree clothes shops are awash with synthetics. I don’t even bother with H&M, Boden, M&S anymore. I buy cotton t shirts from Petit Bateau. I scour eBay for vintage Scottish knitwear.

An oestrogen patch.

I only wear natural fibres. Hard to find but I have had luck at Esprit, Uniqlo, Crew Clothing and Thought ( on sale).
I have this 3 D cotton knit from Uniqlo.www.uniqlo.com/uk/en/product/3d-knit-cotton-jumper-450503.html
Esprit has these in many variations every year. Look sold out but keep checking back because they get new stocks. www.esprit.co.uk/p/fine-knit-jumper-in-100--cotton-992EE1I304_400.html

I've got some cotton (smart) T shirts from M and S collection which are great for work

I also have a cotton scarf that I can put on outside then take off inside when it's hot

I agree natural fibres are the way to go

I also have this from John Lewis. Not 100% cotton but still feels soft and non itchy for me. I really like JL for basic non fussy clothing. www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-cotton-blend-crew-neck-jumper/green/p6325427

M and s has loads at the moment. I imagine primark and Uniqlo would have some too.

Here's some pure cotton T shirts. I have been browsing at M&S and found this: https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-straight-fit-t-shirt/p/clp60432860?intid=mobileappppdpshare

I wear the printed fitted ones with suits and they look really smart. They are 95% cotton and 5% elastane which is fine for me. I have been browsing at M&S and found this: https://www.marksandspencer.com/cotton-rich-printed-fitted-t-shirt/p/clp60548920?intid=mobileappppdpshare

I wish the websites would let you filter by fibre type so you wouldn’t have to scroll forever.

Actually I see that with John Lewis and H&M you can, so I take that back!

I'm on hrt which helps immensely but around the change of seasons it can still be tricky to get the balance right.

Lately it feels colder in the house than outside so I often get it wrong. The other day I was wearing a jumper dress with tights and a slip, kept taking layers off until it became obvious that the dress itself was too warm, then tried a long sleeved silk blouse which I couldn't bear and ended up in straight jeans and a short sleeved jumper. Not that that's any help to anyone

OP have you looked at Kettlewell? I'm an autumn too and I like their tee shirts. I buy a lot of boys' cotton tees from Gap but I'm pretty flat chested.

Of all the things I was mis-sold about (peri)menop, getting hot (or rather not getting hot in my case) is the most disappointing. I'd love to have over-warm moments as winter approaches.

Can contribute that as young person I often overheated, suspect that real (not synthetic) textiles and layering helped.