Should I have asked where she bought that dress ?

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I was at the train station and a woman was wearing the most gorgeous dress . I was so tempted to ask where it was from but that would have been weird /rude ? or would she have been flattered? Now I googling a description trying to find it with no joy .

I'd have been happy to be asked. I never manage to pluck up the courage to ask other women though.

I think if you say I absolutely adore your dress do you mind me asking where you got it? Most people will either go ooh yes from here! And be excited or go cant remember and leave it at that. I don't think anyone will get rude.

I once asked a woman at park run where she got her lovely flattering sports top. She was happy to tell me and was pleased I'd admired it.

I would take it as flattery and been pleased. At my age I'm also quite comfortable just saying "i love that, May i ask where is from?".

I do it all the time! Asked someone in the Co-Op the other day! She was flattered.

Oh pants. I wished I had asked, was pondering for ages but didn't pluck up the courage !

Absolutely no harm in asking, I was asked where a dress I was wearing was from recently, I told them it was a TK Maxx bargain, and it made me feel good that someone liked it as much as I did. I totally get why it feels awkward to ask though.

But also, good luck finding it, some people in the S&B boards are amazing at locating items from seemingly scant descriptions so you might post about it and try your luck.

Navy blue, long sheer sleeves , pleated skirt maxi length , fabric was light I think chiffon , looked like she may have been going to a wedding, she wore it with white sling back shoes . She was quite a lot younger than me and the dress was modest on her but I think it would have also been appropriate for a fifty something like myself

Yes of course, its obvious now there would have been no harm in asking in this way

I like it when people ask!
To be fair it’s often dd that gets asked when we’re out, someone asked her a couple of days ago where she got her hello Kitty hoody from 😂 and other times people stop to compliment her on her eyeliner 😱 (she is very good at the winged look, I can’t bloody do it) but I would ask. The worst that could happen is they blank you but you’ll never see them again anyway and I’m sure most people would just say.
i once asked a lady where she got her shoes from and she was delighted to tell me. It’s a lovely compliment to pay someone I think.

If it were me I wouldn't have minded in the slightest. I have been asked where I've bought something and have asked.

I love being asked where I bought clothes and shoes from. I find it flattering. I have no embarrassment about asking other women, either. They are always as pleased as I am to be asked.

I hope you find your dress, OP.

I often ask these days, having spent many fruitless hours googling ‘lost’ outfits. People always seem flattered - just make sure you pass on the favour if anyone asks you.

I have asked people several times!

Unfortunately the answer is often something unhelpful like “it’s vintage” or “had it made in Shanghai”

I always ask if I like something. It's a compliment!

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Have you tried Coast, they have a few floaty dresses

Well done!

99 times out of a hundred this is a win-win activity that is good for both you and her.

The only possible way it could be a negative is if you're obviously a lot older than the woman you're asking. As a fifty year old S&B regular I am obviously immune to even the slightest hint of ageism...but I have to admit that if I was wearing a favourite frock and a seventy five year old came up and asked me where I got it because she wanted one just like it, it might not make my day unless she was particularly fabulous.

Well, now I need to see if that's the dress....

It's nice to ask! It's usually taken as a compliment

Oooh its going to be the NEXT one linked above but yes in future definitely ask.

I make my own clothes and get asked quite a bit (sorry minipie) and I LOVE it when it happens.

I’d be flattered if someone asked me!

I have actually been in the situation described above and was asked where my dress from by a lady who must have been at least in her 70s (I was late 20s at the time). To be fair, I was going through a bit of a 1940s/50s tea dress phase and she said it reminded her of a beautiful dress from her youth! She also said it showed off my “lovely slim waist” so I couldn’t be offended.

Another pleated navy dress. www.asos.com/little-mistress/little-mistress-lace-detail-midaxi-dress-in-navy-blue/prd/201005186?affid=25888&_EAIaIQobChMIpJXl0p2X-AIVGwMGAB0JXgKxEAQYASABEgIj6vD_BwE&channelref=product+search&ppcadref=12029787983%7C117574734673%7Cpla-295337885746&gbraid=0AAAAADqFjODs8uISM-qLkwK0Z3jS2uSGz&gbraid=0AAAAADqFjODs8uISM-qLkwK0Z3jS2uSGz&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIpJXl0p2X-AIVGwMGAB0JXgKxEAQYASABEgIj6vD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds