Should I have asked where she bought that dress ?

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I was at the train station and a woman was wearing the most gorgeous dress . I was so tempted to ask where it was from but that would have been weird /rude ? or would she have been flattered? Now I googling a description trying to find it with no joy .

It depends who says it - if another woman asked me where something I was wearing was from I'd be flattered. The other day though three girls who can't of been much older than 13/14 stopped me and said you're so pretty and I felt very uncomfortable and like it must of been a dare I'm only 28, it made me feel so old.

You should have asked! Last year, I waited ages for a v popular item to be in stock then nabbed it. On its first wearing, a woman approached me in the supermarket and said 'oh, is it that item - it looks fabulous'. I was already pleased with it but that was the icing on the cake 😁.

I love being asked, it's very flattering and a great compliment. With that in mind, I don't hesitate to ask others - I've only ever had a friendly/flattered response.

Yes - this! A pissed woman in Manchester told my husband that his wife was absolutely stunning. I was feeling distinctly average and did feel like she was taking the piss.

A normal person of a similar age; I would take as a compliment and I have no problem telling other women I like what they are wearing.

Depends if it was in London or not imo... I come from elsewhere but have lived in and around London for many years and based on experience, I do think people approaching strangers at the train station, for almost any reason, might, unfortunately, get a bit of side eye.

But generally, there's nothing at all wrong with asking other women where they got their clothes and I'd take it as a massive compliment if anyone asked me.

People have asked me before and I've taken it as a compliment

I've been asked about clothes, shoes and perfumes before, it's very flattering!

Yes I’ve asked several times and the woman has always been pleased and happy to tell me. One time the woman had her own dressmaking and upcycling clothes business so she was especially pleased that I loved her home-made skirt.

I've been a Londoner for the last two decades and I've both asked and been asked several times, and it's always resulted in both of us feeling good and in a pleasant chat. I did it just a few days ago - I liked the top of the newest staff member at my local, I told her so and asked where she got it, we had some banter.

I won't deny that Londoners have by necessity a powerful and easily activated Fuck Right Offdar, but I think when you're approaching someone in a genuine and polite way, the vast majority even of Londoners respond positively.

a woman came up to me in a shop about ten years ago to ask where I bought my coat. I was really flattered, it made my day!

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You aren't all londoners though and you asking your colleague is quite different to you approaching a woman completely unconnected to you at a train station. Clearly, not every londoner would give side eye, which is why I said MIGHT get...

I agree that mostly, if you're being polite and seem like a reasonable person, you'll get a friendly response, but I do think there's something about train stations in particular where I would not walk up to someone and start a chat. Would you? At a London station? I wouldn't, but now I'm questioning if I'm being too unfriendly, because the thought of that is an immediate and firm "no" from me!

She wasn't my colleague. She was a stranger.

And I've had this conversation on the tube, the bus... It's almost always been in a public transport context, cos that's where you see the fabulous fashion. 😊

Oh sorry staff member at your local! I read that as "your newest staff member".

I would never start a chat with someone at a train station tbh, unless they were lost or something... but maybe I'm too unfriendly 😂.

But the fashion aspect is not at all what would make me hesitate. It's definitely no weirder to ask that than to start a conversation about the weather or whatever with someone at the train station.

I asked someone at the weekend where they got their dress from. I think it’s fine and flattering. I used to see the same woman on my lunch breaks who obviously liked purple - and it really suited her…so one day I told her that I really liked her style. I think you’ve got to be genuine though and if you’re going to give a compliment to a stranger, really mean it.

I would have been flattered but I would also have Mean Girls in the back of my mind and worry that you really thought it was fugly 😂

i love it when strangers ask me where I got something I’m wearing, it’s a compliment!

I've been asked a few times, don't mind at all. Only one time a woman wanted to carry on talking about clothes and this was early lock down, so inside I was terrified we would be arrested or something 🤦‍♀️

I have been asked where I got something few times in my life and was always pleased. You should have asked, you might have made her day.

i’ve done this loads. Be really friendly and just ask.

What was it like? 🤗

Another potential (although the Next one looks likely!)

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Or this one from Shein

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I’m on holiday and have been admiring one particular woman for her lovely clothes. I asked her about one item. Sadly from another country. She’s wearing a black swimsuit with coloured stitching down the front which is so lovely. I have googled without success, so I’d anyone can locate it I would be most grateful. The stitching is kind of neon coloured. I don’t have the guts to ask her again.

God yes, ask! I do - I left my DH on a station platform and rushed off to ask a woman where she got her jumpsuit from one day. He thought I'd abandoned him as we then got chatting about her shoes as well!

I'm always flattered if people ask me where my stuff is from and am happy to say. I don't see anything wrong in it. I just say 'I hope you don't mind, but I love your dress/bag/shoes - would you mind telling me where it's from?'

Last time I was at a train station two people asked me where my dress was from! (It wasn't navy chiffon ;) ) I was v happy to tell them.