Wobbling about dress

[Imhavingawobble]

I’m having a wobble. I chose a dress To wear as MOB but it creases so easily.

back up dress is this one which I love love love but would it be weird to wear it because the material is velvet?

Personally I'd go with the purple - it's pretty and appropriate. The teal one looks a bit 80s (it's the sleeves and neckline), and - sorry - it looks really cheap. I know it isn't cheap, but the slit and the shape are not good together. And it looks creased in the photo, so if it creases more than that it's going to make you feel really uncomfortable.

That Self Portrait dress is awesome! You will look amazing. Have a fabulous time. Purple one is nice too but not a patch on the blue.

The blue dress 100%

The purple is pretty but too heavy in material and color for spring/summer. It also looks very 80s. Like a dress the lead character in a lifetime movie would wear to an event where there is an attempt on her life or a romantic interest enters the scene. The blue incorporates elements from different decades and looks more classic though it too is reminiscent of the 80s. I guess that’s in right now. Anyway, you would look lovely in either because if you’re the one with the wedding dress thread, you would look great in pretty much anything with your figure. Pick the one you would grab if you had to choose one.

I think this is rather mean. You're the MOB, so have as many outfit changes as you damn like!! If you were my mum, I would want you to be happy and comfortable, and I certainly wouldn't have invited anyone to my wedding who would think that of my mum just for changing a dress!

The velvet. I don't like the blue dress at all. The split is horrible.

I agree. It does look cheap.

This is a good idea. That teal dress is absolutely stunning and the velvet one does look a bit autumnal but would work perfectly in the evening.

Ok. I’ve seen the other pics of the blue with the giant slit all the way up. I can see why you’re not sure of it now. Honestly, I don’t really like either one. They look dated and stale, and the colors and styles are so 80s. Something lighter and fresher even if it’s a very formal occasion. A billowy skirt and fitted bodice. Off the shoulder is fine. The two dresses you’re considering looks very much like Joan Collins and that blond woman from Dynasty. Maybe you have something in your close you can wear.

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot

Wear the teal in the day and change into the purple in the evening, why not!

Funnily enough, I'd have done it the other way round. I think I'd worry about the split in church. I love the teal one though and am now considering it myself as an evening dress (MoB, DD's wedding in September).

carefullycourageous

I don't think you should change dresses, I think it would make it appear you are a bit of a diva.

Well, as above, I'm going to; I wasn't sure initially, but my daughter was extremely keen on the idea.

no it wouldn’t.
I changed for the evening to be more comfortable when dancing and got lots of compliments.

So this is for your evening reception after your wedding? Or something else. Something lighter and fresher. Very tight on bottom and top, and showing skin both bottom and top just doesn’t look good. Fitted bodice with perhaps showing off shoulders etc and a billowy long skirted dress. Would look both modern and timeless.

I think they both look very modern - its fashion revisited, that's the whole point of them.

I get why you think it's mean, but I think the poster here has a point - it's quite obvious the OP isn't in the least a diva (or she wouldn't be here worrying), but it's absolutely horrible to go to an event and find people are whispering about you for giving an impression you never intended to give. And it is possible people would notice/comment upon a dress change, isn't it? FWIW when I got married my lovely (now-ex) MIL wore a cream dress - I was worried people would comment, and in the event I was so, so glad she doesn't speak much English because people definitely did say things. She had to ask me afterwards what it was about, and I must admit I lied and told her everyone was admiring her dress.

It's unusual for the mother of the bride or groom to wear a long-skirted dress, I think? Obviously no reason the OP shouldn't, and I'm sure loads of people have done so and looked lovely, but I don't follow why it'd be particularly better than either of these.

I didn;t say the OP was a diva, I said I think people would think she was a diva.

I would find it odd if someone changed into something else dressy. I wouldn't find it odd if they put something comfy on.

If it's cotton or silk velvet, definitely the purple. If it is stretch velvet, then I suppose the other one. I really don't like the teal one. The split ruins it.

I thought the op is the bride? And is looking for a dress to change into after her wedding for the reception?

If she is the bride looking for dress to change into, she could keep the white theme going and look modern/bit edgy (I think she said she liked modern) and/or classic/timeless and dance too with these 2 beautiful dresses:

www.flannels.com/jonathan-simkhai-morena-dress-657519

www.flannels.com/the-vampires-wife-midnight-garden-gown-328382#colcode=32838211

I seriously wish people would read things properly!!
the op clearly stated that she is the MOTHER OF THE BRIDE To wear as MOB.

And if people bothered to scan the rest of her posts you’d see that the wedding is tomorrow so clearly she doesn’t have time to shop for anything else 🙄.

Calm down. You have to admit the two dresses I posted are very nice 😀

Just came here to roll my eyes about the same

OP I love the velvet dress more personally

@AnAfternoonWalk it wasn’t completely aimed at you because you weren’t the only one on this thread to assume she was the bride. But it happens ALL the time on so many threads and is just really irritating.

I didn’t look at the links 🤷‍♀️.

Killjoy!! Who are you, that you decree that no one is allowed to be a diva, why aren't you a diva?!? Be a fucking diva, it's your daughters wedding, I'm sure you are a loving, kind and supportive mum so enjoy the life out of your baby's wedding. And ignore those who wish to squash you even if it's just with words on a screen

GreyTS

Be a fucking diva, it's your daughters wedding, I'm sure you are a loving, kind and supportive mum so enjoy the life out of your baby's wedding.

Thing is, this is MN where DMs and (God help them) MiLs of women nearly always have suspect motives.

@AnAfternoonWalk, she's the mother of the bride, and the wedding is tomorrow? No time for shopping.

Oops, sorry, my internet is dodgy and I kept refreshing!