Toddler hair with pic

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My daughter is three and has extremely unmanageable hair! I tie it back as much as I can, her hair took a long time to start growing and has never had a trim.
I condition, comb, gel and nothing keeps it down
Every day she wakes like the secret love child of Russell brand and I don't know if a trim would help her baby hair catch up or if I should leave it to grow and get heavier.
I'm loathe to cut it really because when it's freshly washed she has beautiful ringlets
Please advise!

This could be my child. We took her for a haircut and it really helped and still looked v cute and curly. Also use Childs Farm hair detangler ever morning and a tangle teaser brush

I'm sorry I have no advice, but that picture really made me laugh 😁 bless her - and you, for having to tame it!

Are you brushing it dry OP? If she has ringlets when wet then I suspect she’s got the potential to have them when dry too! Might be worth looking up some child-friendly curly girl (curly kid?!) type
stuff to see if you can get some tips. There are various curl friendly children’s hair ranges available too - I think Rochelle Humes has one for example…

I laugh every morning when I get her upshe does too so it's ok lol
I put it up and the hair that should hang looks like it's been straightened every day for thirty years and singed!
I've just ordered the detangling spray and I'm thinking about a trim but I'm stupidly nervous to do it even too ugh it's just hair!

*even though it's

Thankyou @MyHusbandTheIdiot I'm going to look into that, it is very very fine but curly so it would be nice if I could do it right for her

Agree with looking up the curly girl method. You could try buying her a silk pillowcase/sheet or sleeping cap/bonnet. Wet hair each morning and only brush/comb when wet / with conditioner.

Is it naturally curly?

at the moment it doesn’t look thick enough for plaits, but that will be your go-to protective style when it is.

Is she ok with water? I’d wet it every morning if so, conditioner, comb while wet and then leave the curls to air dry. You can clip the front off her face of it bothers her.

Dont brush curly hair when it’s dry!

I also suggest a little satin bonnet, you can get them in boots or on amazon. She wears it in bed and it will stop all the crazy friction on the pillow, so hair is much less "wild" in the morning and it helps the hair retain moisture.

I'm so happy I posted, thank you all so much

Aw, very sweet😂. Take some cute photos, then book a trim. My dd had similar hair, and they only take a bit off at time, but it helps strengthen it and makes it easier to look after.

it might also be worth looking up 'uncombable hair syndrome' - I'm not saying it is this but worth knowing it exists in case it does apply for your child.

whatever, please always speak positively of her beautiful curls rather than talking negatively about 'frizz' 'unruly' etc. It has taken me years to learn to love my hair and I only really started when I wanted to make my daughter feel more positive about her hair.

No advice but this made me smile, so sweet 💕

@Justyouwaitandseeagain interesting you mention uncomfortable hair syndrome.
All three of mine have very fair hair that has started out like this (as does their paternal grandmother) but my older ones has calmed down by about five.
My youngest child's is by far the craziest and don't worry she's likely to have a big head when she's older for how often she's told she's beautiful from top to toe

I’m no expert as I have very straight hair as do my older two. But 2yo is curly and goes very frizzy after sleep. I brush it out where necessary (leaving any curls alone) and then spray it with fine water spray and sort of run my fingers through it. That seems to defrizz it and put some of the curls back in. We can then clip it out of her face or put it into bunches. She still looks wild a lot of the time but I love it! Curly toddlers are super cute!

Yes I was going to say it definitely looks like Uncombable Hair Syndrome. Albert Einstein had it and apparently Boris Johnson does too. Have you looked into it before OP? I first learned about this a few weeks ago when I read an article on apple news and as soon as I saw the picture you shared I thought it looked identical to the children in the article. I can't seen to find the one I read the other week, but here's one below

www.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/mar/08/uncombable-hair-syndrom-instagram-locklan-samples

I'm tempted to whack out a tiny bit of mousse and scrunch it a bit.
I'll do all I can from all these tips to avoid a trim (daft I know) and see how I get on!
Luckily she loves a pamper and a clip in her hair

A silk or satin pillowcase would help tremendously.

www.turbietwist.com/blogs/hair-towels-101/satin-vs-silk-pillowcases-which-is-better-for-curly-hair

@IEatChocolateForBreakfast
Ah. You've said something there you know.
This is outing for anyone that knows me but I always say my son is Boris's secret love child based on his hair 😬😬
It's identical

What gluenotsoup has said. It’s just baby hair. If you get her hair trimmed regularly it should help. My DS was similar. Looked bald for ages, then had very fluffy hair which didn’t seem to grow much. Didn’t need a first haircut until nearly 2. His hair grew more quickly, thickened up etc after that.

My son has curly ringlets and has the same issue.

Before the bath we use hair oil, liberally, and again on wet hair after a shampoo and condition, and sometimes again when it's dry.

We hair mask once a month.

We brush hair when wet, and we only brush it when it's dry when we've just applied a product like hair oil or leave in conditioner.

When it was long enough to plait I would plait it as a protective hairstyle, but it's much shorter now so we just stick with the strict hair regime.

My dds hair took so long to grow at all. Should have taken her for a trim sooner because it made a world of difference. We use detangling spray on it and don't brush when dry

First go with a bit of water and conditioner, wide toothed comb and a little hand scrunching
Thanks for so many replies

Hi

Looks similar to my 4 year dld. She had her first cut recently and it looked a bit neater for a few weeks but now crazy again

Frizzy/curly and taking ages to grow

That second pic looks beautiful op! Defo keep on with the water/product combo - my daughter has proper ringlets and I’m still learning how to care for her hare at 3.5.

I’m looking into a silk pillow case of her as I still have to wet her hair every morning and apply curl cream or detangling spray to redefine the curls.

Childrens Farm do a lovely detaning spray that smells of grapefruit 🥰