What to wear to a funeral?

[Stormchaser1502]

What do I wear to a family funeral?? The person was elderly, not sure if this changes things.

I’ve got a dress suit but been told it’s too formal??

Too formal in what way? A dress and jacket sounds fine, many men will be in suits.

I have, depending on the weather, a skirt/trousers, black top and cardigan/jacket set of funeral outfits that I tend to stick to. I’ve seen people in jeans, people in suits and all sorts in between.

the important thing is that you are all together, not what you wear. Just wear what you are comfortable in. Sorry for your loss.

If by a dress suit, you mean a dress and a matching jacket - that sounds perfect.

Yes a dress and matching jacket.

thank you so much

Anything that is sombre and doesn't draw attention to yourself. I've been to many funerals over the last 10 years sadly and they are really quite casual these days and very few people wear all black.

Sorry for your loss💐

Last one I went to wore a dress and coat as winter....so sounds fine for now...I was surprised how formal it was...but was in a church so maybe base on venue...I would feel more comfortable formal than too casual..

Who told you it’s too formal? Is it maybe a bit weddingy?

I think our perception of what’s appropriate for a wedding has been skewed by seeing photos from celeb weddings with models and actresses in body con suits and dresses, so people who haven’t been to a normal funeral don’t realise that it’s not necessary to ‘dress up’.

Your aim is to wear something respectful but not showy. So a plain dress, skirt or trousers, not in a bright colour and similar jacket, coat or cardigan. Doesn’t need to be black. Not too tight, not too short, not too much cleavage.

I’m so sorry, I meant funeral, not wedding.

It’s a black knee length shift dress from Hobbs. So pretty respectable. And the jacket is a long line fitted black jacket.
I’ve got heels too. Dh and my dd thinks it’s fine. But my extended family are a bit hippy and think it’s formal. But then they do formal really at the best of times so maybe I go with my gut instinct and wear it.

thanks for the advice

I asked a similar question a while back, OP

Your outfit sounds fine but I would add a brighter scarf - all black is not required and some colour is absolutely acceptable.