Louboutins to a funeral?

[Kay7766923]

I'm going to a funeral later today and had my outfit sorted, or so I thought. I've tried it on last night and my go to black marks and spencer heels are baggy and difficult to walk in after a lot of weight loss.

My alternative is my Louboutins (black, veau velour, 85mm) but with the standard red sole.

They look lovely but I'm not sure if it's appropriate and if I should just wear my baggy marks heels?

I really don’t think anyone at the funeral will even notice your shoes.

Depends if you’re going to the funeral as the young, hot, femme fatale spouse of an old billionaire…

just kidding. Crack on, I doubt anyone will notice, and if they do it’s more likely to be shoe envy than a raised eyebrow.

This

It’s unlikely that anyone will notice.

sorry for your loss OP

Not appropriate seeing as the main rule is not to draw attention to yourself.
Wear other shoes

They sound fine. It's just shoes.

"Drawing attention to yourself" honestly 🙄 90% of the people there will have no idea what you have on your feet.

They sounds lovely, and I would wear them (well, I wouldn’t be able to walk in them but I’d like to!)

as PP say, no-one will notice, and you will feel smart and comfortable. It’s not like they are a blingy pair!

hope the service goes well

I absolutely wouldn't notice what shoes someone else was wearing at a funeral and at most other times, unless they were wildly inappropriate/stupid in the sense of stilettos on the beach or wellies at a wedding. Smart black heels at a funeral are perfectly fine.

ZealAndArdour

Depends if you’re going to the funeral as the young, hot, femme fatale spouse of an old billionaire…
🙂

Wear them, especially if they're going to be more comfortable.
I really doubt anyone will notice; it's not difficult to keep the soles of your shoes out of sight (at a sedate event such as a funeral, anyway...).
You probably need to bin the saggy M&S ones and get a new version.

Thanks all you've put my mind at rest. My husband was telling me it would be fine but he is also useless at understanding the do's and dont's of things like this so I started doubting my own judgement.

Unfortunately not @ZealAndArdour but I would definitely wear them if that was the case along with a stylish little black birdcage veil and a single tear rolling down my flawless face. I haven't told my current first husband that I've planned my outfit out for my billionaire second husbands funeral but we all have surely?!

Wear the shoes it’s fine. If I’m at a funeral I’m mourning someone not judging peoples clothes choices.

Yes @LaMarschallin they're going in the bin today. They were exceptionally comfortable which is a shame. Who knew your foot size fluctuated so much with your weight. Probably everyone but me!

Wear them but take some flats for the grave side. Otherwise you'll be aerating the grass at the cemetery and trashing your expensive shoes.

Fine. Someone came to my dad's funeral in a huge bright orange coat. That seemed a bit off. Soles of shoes - absolutely fine 👌.

They were exceptionally comfortable which is a shame.

It really is.
But, on the bright side, you could always try on alluring veiled pillbox hats while you're out shopping for replacements...

The fact that you are there is far more important than what shoes you are wearing.

Honestly, I don't get all this nonsense about appropriate wear for a funeral that seems to consume so many people in the UK.

Honestly, I don't get all this nonsense about appropriate wear for a funeral that seems to consume so many people in the UK.

I think that's a bit harsh.
Obviously, the important thing is being there both in memory of the person whose funeral it is and for their friends and family.
But a lot of people like to show their respect for that person by what they wear as well; it doesn't mean it "consumes" them and it's a bit unfair to dismiss it as nonsense, just because it's not important to you.

You might want to google/Streetview the church/Crematorium to see what the path is made of. Gravel will trash them!

And, tbf, this is Style & Beauty.

For what my opinion is worth OP I doubt anyone will notice your shoes so I wouldn't worry. They will just look like any other type of black high heel to most people inc me (I'm not familiar with what Laboutins look like).
Now if you were to go in massive yellow clown shoes, that would be a whole different matter (unless it was a circus funeral of course)

I’d be delighted if my mates dusted down their Louboutins and wore them to my funeral. Go for it.

If I saw you wearing those at a funeral I'd think "ooh Louboutins, how lovely" and probably be a bit envious! Absolutely fine in my book.

I recall looking twice at somebody who wore jeans to a funeral though. I didn't think that was respectful at all.

crocs?

Wear them, if someone is checking out mourner’s shoes they need to get a hobby. The theme for my funeral will be ‘Wear Something Fabulous’ so you’re welcome at mine.

I’d be chuffed if you wore Loubs to my funeral ….