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Louboutins to a funeral?

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Kay7766923 · 28/04/2022 08:10

I'm going to a funeral later today and had my outfit sorted, or so I thought. I've tried it on last night and my go to black marks and spencer heels are baggy and difficult to walk in after a lot of weight loss.

My alternative is my Louboutins (black, veau velour, 85mm) but with the standard red sole.

They look lovely but I'm not sure if it's appropriate and if I should just wear my baggy marks heels?

OP posts:
Mumsnut · 28/04/2022 09:50

In fact, I might have mine on my coffin …

MissStarry · 28/04/2022 09:55

My cousin wore louboutins to my Uncle’s (her fathers) funeral. Go for it Op; it’s not disrespectful unto itself in any way.

LadyPoison · 28/04/2022 20:36

I wore a pair to my MIL's funeral.

I did hear afterwards that they were spotted and commented upon but no one said anything to my face. They were the only smart black heels I had.

SquirrelG · 28/04/2022 20:42

But a lot of people like to show their respect for that person by what they wear as well; it doesn't mean it "consumes" them and it's a bit unfair to dismiss it as nonsense, just because it's not important to you.

It's not just me who doesn't think it is important - people do dress up for funerals here of course, others just slip out from work - I've been to many a funeral in my work uniform. Someone upthread mentioned an orange coat - wouldn't turn a hair here. Young people often wear very casual clothes - it certainly doesn't mean they aren't showing respect. As for saying it doesn't "consume" people - the amount of threads on MN about - can I wear this to a funeral? - shows that it does.

LaMarschallin · 28/04/2022 22:03

As for saying it doesn't "consume" people - the amount of threads on MN about - can I wear this to a funeral? - shows that it does.

You know this is the Style & Beauty section, right?

bigbluebus · 28/04/2022 22:15

I was at a funeral a couple of days ago. I can honestly say that I have no idea what anyone wore on their feet.

AzazaelsFury · 29/04/2022 03:02

Of course they're ok. They're shoes. It's not like you're wearing a wedding dress or clown outfit. Most (if not all) won't even notice.

dudsville · 29/04/2022 04:42

Honestly, I might notice. I look around. But I'd likely either think "nice shoes" or " that looks uncomfortable", neither of which thoughts matter in the slightest. My mum would notice and be critical, but she wouldn't say anything, and would probably also think "nice outfit" if that's what she thought. Other people's thoughts in this kind of scenario are unlikely to cause any harm.

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Kay7766923 · 29/04/2022 08:03

Well I wore them and I was kicked out, thanks mumsnet!!

No, just kidding of course. They were noticed by a few but only in a 'nice shoes' way. No one had an issue as far as I was aware.

I'm also going to wear them more often rather than saving them for best as it's shit when the only 'best' that comes up in 3 years is a funeral.

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LaMarschallin · 29/04/2022 08:08

I'm also going to wear them more often rather than saving them for best as it's shit when the only 'best' that comes up in 3 years is a funeral.

Better to lose them to wear then rust, as my mother used to say.

Glad all went well, OP.

GreenClock · 29/04/2022 11:01

LaMarschallin · 29/04/2022 08:08

I'm also going to wear them more often rather than saving them for best as it's shit when the only 'best' that comes up in 3 years is a funeral.

Better to lose them to wear then rust, as my mother used to say.

Glad all went well, OP.

Agree 100%

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