Please PLEASE help me with a styling product for my frizz (not Curly Girl)!!!

[YoureBreakingMyHeartCecilia]

I am so sick of the frizz, it’s really getting me down and NOTHING seems to work.

From Olaplex to Cantu, Curlsmith to Tigi. Expensive, cheap, it’s ALL USELESS.

I have medium-fine hair but MASSES of it, seriously loads and loads, shoulder blade length, some quite curly parts, some wavy.

I know treatments, shampoos and conditioners are all part of it but honestly my hair is pretty well moisturised, it’s soft to the touch. Unless there is some amazing frizzy reducing range I am missing (Aveda damage remedy?) I don’t think I need to spend any more time or money investigating those steps.

I feel like I CANNOT find the right product to put on it to reduce the frizz, either on damp or on dry hair. Nothing helps.

I know I KNOW CG works for many and I know you have to persist. For me (I tried for months) it left me with worse frizz or a kind of awful stringiness, especially when I used any gel. I tried products in sparing amounts but the ones that made me look greasy and stringy still made that effect in small amounts, just with worse frizz too.

I have kept the CG idea of microfibre towel. I use hairdryers sparingly but if I let it totally air dry the frizz is worse than ever. I only wash 2 times a week max. I use a silk pillow.

I have had no success at all with any gel, as I say, and not much luck with creams or balms. Would a serum work???!!! An oil?? Do I go old school and try Frizz Ease, even though I remember it from olden times and it was another one that used to have the dreaded stringy effect!!

Please, ANY styling products you can recommend for impossible frizz. I look ridiculous. I don’t mind some texture, I’m happy to have natural waves or curls, I just see other people with so so much less frizz and I hate the fact I can never seem to achieve that!!

(I recognise it’s a first world problem but this is S&B)

@YoureBreakingMyHeartCecilia

Mrs Pelligrino, yep I do use Olaplex 3 (it only helps if I use it in combination with 0) and I notice an improvement when I do. Still bad frizz though… The olaplex shampoo and conditioner seemed to make frizz worse rather than better Is the Olaplex oil any good?

I've just started using the Opalex 3,that's all I needed and my hair looks amazing today. First time I've used it. Normal shampoo and conditioner and I left it on for 15 mins.

You don't rub your hair with a towel do you?

OP I'm sending solidarity. I just want a miracle product to fuck the frizz off. You'd think with the millions that get spent on research they'd have cracked it by now.

My hair is curly at the back, straight at sides and top. I don't want to do curly girl. All mouses / gels etc make my hair shit the next day. My hair can't be left to dry naturally, there's too much of it. Oil makes my hair slimy.

If I had the face for it I'd have a pixie cut and be done.

I have kera-straight and its fantastic. Yes its very expensive but its made so much difference. I naturally have curly at the front and wavy at the back.

Thanks for the solidarity Tonka I feel your pain!
I honestly look at (what seems to be) ALL other women in amazement: how the HELL do they NOT have a massive pile of frizz on their heads when I do?
Short of hiring a hairdresser to come and give me a professional blow dry every single morning, it just feels like there’s nothing I can do.
I don’t want straight hair; I don’t attempt to get straight hair, I want wavy hair that doesn’t look like I’ve stuck my finger in a socket.

Mrs P, nope, don’t rub it with a towel, haven’t for a couple of decades and now I even use a microfibre wrap thing (to gently press it from soaking wet; no rubbing whatsoever)

I’m not keen on slathering it in silicones but is this actually what everyone I see IS doing, so they consequently have nice looking hair while I persist in avoiding silicones and looking shit?!?

I got so bored with trying to do all this and just straighten my hair for years. I've gone back to curly recently. I wash and condition. Use leave in conditioner. Scrunch it a few times ... when less wet I use a defuser on cool. When dry I just curl the top layer with a tong (and heat protection)!

RoundGlass but yours is beautiful, curls without frizz!! Gorgeous!

My hair isn’t like that; I can’t get it like that. It’s not curly, it’s JUST frizzy (and wavy). I’m not attempting to straighten at all, I would happily leave it to air dry and would happily diffuse if it didn’t make it even frizzier and bushier.

I don’t mind curls, waves, whatever, I would LOVE it wavier even. I just don’t want frizz and nothing I do seems to sort that out.

Envious of your glorious mane! It’s stunning.

Boots curl crerme and frizz ease leave in conditioner 👍

I tried to cut out silocones and I had hair like straw for 6 weeks, never again!! Just go back to lovely silicones OP and use a clarifying shampoo every now and again to open with build up.

**cope with

MrsP see that’s what I’m thinking. Much as I don’t like the idea of silicones and worry a bit that over time they dry out the hair, I think that might be a worry that’s too luxurious to maintain for a person with hair like mine!

I guess a good clarifying shampoo plus regular moisture treatments would mitigate the silicone factor?

My hairdresser laughed when I said I was not using silicones

MrsP
When I went to the hairdressers towards the end of my doomed attempt at CG method, he just laughed as he walked across the salon to greet me and said ‘What have you DONE?’
I’d been planning to give up before that but that was really the nail in the coffin

Just started using Philip Kinglsley colour gloss anti-frizz serum - really impressed. I have an amazing hairbrush like a clamp someone on here recommended and between blow drying with that and the serum I am frizz-free.

I have exactly the same hair as you OP. I blow dry it straight a lot. But THE best and worst product I have found is Oribe supershine cream. It is amazing, I use it when my hair is wet, then add a gel and my waves are so much better, no frizz at all. Their curl products are also amazing. The reason it is the worst product is the price. I almost wish I hadn’t found it because I cannot live without it now after trying almost every product going. Honestly try it out or try any of their curl products, they are a different league than anything else….in performance and sadly proce!

@Shuttheblinds I see what you mean about expensive- €55 😱

I bet there's a dupe if you Google.

Today my hair is lovely defined curls after weeks of straw like frizz! I tried to use a clean organic shampoo and conditioner I think it was nature's way but it turned my hair into a fright week.

Today I've used Garnier hairfood coconut shampoo and conditioner, then literally just blotted the excess out then loreal wonder water followed by a dollop of curl cream. The shampoo and conditioner were on offer £4 each in boots the curl cream £1.99 and the wonder water was on offer too £6 I think. Worth a try?!

@MrOllivander

Could you need protein? My hair is v v fine and drinks protein! What does your hair look like without product? Here is mine without product and air dry, and with product and diffused

How can we tell if our hair needs protein or moisture? I am a fuzzy-wuzzy with curls that drop out, and don't get on with curly girl :( I researched online and was told hair strands that needs protein will break not stretch. But I can't figure it out! Mine is fine and very porous, like candy floss when brushed after washing. It feels soft to touch though.

and your curls are perfect!

@YoureBreakingMyHeartCecilia I hear you!
Mine is medium fine, lots of it, etc but no matter what I do or spend, nothing helps! It has moods and looks nice when it wants to

I use a smoothing brush, heated, twice a week, but the midlengths and ends are like straw at moment. Last year they were fine, I have no idea why.
I once used damage remedy and it weighed my hair down and felt sticky. But I have very porous hair and it can't take oils or heavy stuff like coconut, etc.
It does go smoother and less fuzzy if I wash in Britta filtered water, with a squeeze of lemon or some apple cider vinegar in the rinse. Cheaper than what we are led to believe....but it's a pain in the arse.

I notice the phenomenal amount of money women spend on this, and over the years I have tried everything. I think a lot of it is a marketing gimmick tbh. Sometimes the simplest solutions work well, but nobody tends to share them as the rush for more and more products in plastic tubes seems more popular. We need to put our heads together and find ways to tame our frizzies without the hype!

I've always had difficult hair, thick wavy, and a little wiry.
I seem to be onto a good combo at the moment and enjoying the way my hair looks. I'm using Paul Mitchell Shampoo and conditioner. Ola plex and then styling with the Bondi Boost blowout brush (amazing and highly recommend).

Oh ShutTheBlinds… I’m in trouble now… I actually HAD a sample size of the Oribe Supershine from SpaceNK that I had never used as wasn’t sure really what it was for… tried it this morning and my hair is lush. It’s not texture-free and super-sleek but then that’s not really what I’m after. I quite like some texture and super sleek isn’t really me.

But WOW. 70-80% less frizz, I reckon…

What am I going to do?!? Maybe I should just buy really cheap as chips shampoo instead of all the others I’ve tried like expensive Aveda, olaplex etc. then I could justify/afford the Oribe styler???!!!

It’s great stuff. Damn you!!!