Going to a posh Indian wedding - what to wear

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I have been invited to a fancy wedding where the bride and groom are of Indian heritage - I am not.

Both families are very well to do so it is going to be a grand affair. I have been informed (by a relative of the groom) to expect mega fancy saris and lehengas. What on earth should I wear?

The big difficulty is that I am very short (under 5ft) and can only wear petite ranges - truly, normal people clothes look ridiculous. I am in my 50s so prefer to be a bit covered up. I am a size 8 so can't wear low necklines as I am pancake chested.

I have searched and searched online but just can't find anything to fit the bill. I know I will never look as glamorous as all the guests in their beautiful, colourful silk saris etc but I would prefer not to look like someone who wandered into the party by accident.

Any ideas?

@Houseplantmad

This is so interesting and helpful. We've just had an invitation to an Indian wedding and I also don't know where to start. The invite says "glam" so I don't know if that means long or short! I'd prefer to get a glam jumpsuit as we have another wedding in the summer. Any ideas. Size 12. Budget £150. Dark hair very pale skin. Suits greens, blues and pinks.

A jumpsuit is a great idea, maybe something like this but in one of your chosen colours

www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/adrianna-papell/beaded-jumpsuit-ae6876#colcode=AE687600

I’d interpret glam as ‘evening look’ not necessarily long/short (I’ve never seen anyone wear anything short short to an Asian wedding, knee length is ok

Disagreeing with some other posters: I’ve seen plenty of cleavage though! I think you need to take your lead from what kind of people the B&G are (traditional or not)

www.bombshellhq.com
Bombshell!!

Do you like Asos?

@DespairingHomeowner you're right cleavage isn't a huge issue as long as ots not too plunging or in your face. Tops are usually tight and covered with a dupatta or scarf but it's less modest than before.
I always tell my non Asian friends this is the one opportunity you'll have to go over the top and still feel under dressed.

Lots of petite ones here

https://www.chichiclothing.com/collections/petite

https://www.oasisfashion.com/petite-premium-lace-puff-sleeve-midi-dress-/BAA00943-320-22.html?istCompanyId=89a42311-7c14-4438-979c-99dc2ff54bb6&istFeedId=2723e24d-20bd-4ec2-88a6-01c9b3dc43b0&istItemId=plmxailxr&istBid=t&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIm9CisOfK9gIVUe3tCh0evQEOEAQYBSABEgLcDPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.

https://www.oasisfashion.com/petite-trailing-flower-printed-halter-dress/BAA01308.html

https://www.oasisfashion.com/petite-mosaic-floral-tie-side-printed-midi-/BAA00732.html

https://www.oasisfashion.com/petite-sequin-funnel-neck-full-hem-midi-dress/AAA08509.html

You can rent lehenga at the site below - I can see what you mean about not wanting to show up in a cheap version of Indian dress if it's all a bit competetive! This would be a way of getting a stunning outfit for less.
www.showstopper-london.co.uk/welcome/collection/category/14/Lehengas

i love this-and wee green phone=custom size. so..theres also that..
www.littlethingstudio.com/collections/saree/products/screen-printed-red-saree?variant=42108278702292

@justaweeone, amazingly I actually have that yellow Oasis dress (mosaic floral tie side dress) but wasn't sure it was dressy enough. It's a wonderful, floaty dress.

www.kalkifashion.com/byzantine-purple-off-shoulder-gown-adorned-in-embossed-thread-and-sequin-embroidery-online-kalki-fashion.html

www.kalkifashion.com/deep-teal-blue-jumpsuit-in-georgette-with-zari-and-sequins-embroidered-buttis-and-mughal-motifs.html

www.kalkifashion.com/egyptian-blue-anarkali-suit-in-raw-silk-with-chevron-and-floral-heritage-print-online-kalki-fashion.html

Something like this will be fine but they have lots

I’m the same height as you but this website asks your height too