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DD's ears pierced today...too low...?

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teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 21:55

Hi everyone,

My 9 year old DD got her ears pierced today, it looks lovely however my perfectionist instinct is telling me they would be better ever so slightly higher on her ear lobe. Now, I am a pain in the ass perfectionist so I don't know if I'm just overthinking this...

Ps. Piercer did mark on her ears and ask my opinion and I do not know why I didn't ask then for them to be ever so slightly higher. Kicking myself now.

DD's ears pierced today...too low...?
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RagzReturnsRebooted · 18/10/2021 21:56

Looks fine to me and I'm really fussy about things like that!

RedCarsGoFaster · 18/10/2021 21:56

No, looks very normal to me. Assume it was needle piercing, so definitely accurate to the mark?

GoodnightGrandma · 18/10/2021 21:57

I think they are fine, particularly if she wants a second set

Hellocatshome · 18/10/2021 21:57

Looks fine, I think it would look a bit odd if it were higher.

IvorCutler · 18/10/2021 21:57

They don’t look too low. Is your dd delighted with them? Lucky thing getting them done at 9, I had to wait until I was 15 😂

Redwinestillfine · 18/10/2021 21:57

They're fine. Certainly don't want to be any higher.

cormorantes · 18/10/2021 21:58

Unless you are seriously considering taking them out, the holes healing and redoing them, probably traumatising Nd upsetting your 9 Yr old in the process , forget about it.

Spongeboob · 18/10/2021 21:59

I can see what you mean, the jewellery hangs slightly, but it's done now.

CocaColaTruck1 · 18/10/2021 21:59

Look fine

DramaAlpaca · 18/10/2021 21:59

They are perfectly positioned, and there's space for a second set if she wants them later.

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teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 22:03

@IvorCutler

They don’t look too low. Is your dd delighted with them? Lucky thing getting them done at 9, I had to wait until I was 15 😂
Yes she is 🙂 She's got them done as part of her 10th birthday, she's the last of her friends to get it done!
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MapleMay11 · 18/10/2021 22:04

They're not positioned quite where I would have wanted them on that lobe but I'm very particular. Thy look fine though and if your DD is happy that's all that matters.

Winniemarysarah · 18/10/2021 22:06

They’re exactly where I would have wanted them 🤷🏼‍♀️

Bewildered2021 · 18/10/2021 22:06

Can I ask did it hurt her? My daughter is 9 and wants hers done but is too scared.

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teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 22:08

@cormorantes

Unless you are seriously considering taking them out, the holes healing and redoing them, probably traumatising Nd upsetting your 9 Yr old in the process , forget about it.
Well I kind of was considering that...(but hopefully without the trauma) I feel so chuffed for her as it suits her beautifully but I feel so guilty that I feel it's not quite perfect 🙁

I just feel when she is older and perhaps wanting to wear larger earrings she might feel they are a little low and wish she'd had it changed when she first got them done. But I certainly don't want to upset her!

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teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 22:11

@Bewildered2021

Can I ask did it hurt her? My daughter is 9 and wants hers done but is too scared.
No, not really, she was nervous too but said it was nothing like what she expected. Just a little nippy afterwards.
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TopCatsTopHat · 18/10/2021 22:12

I'm currently wearing some earrings that are a closed loop around the lobe, they only just fit as I have similar proportions as your dd but my piercing is slightly higher so not having too much lobe below the hole is better for some styles.

Brollywasntneededafterall · 18/10/2021 22:14

My dd's were 4 and 5 after a year of nagging!! Cleaned and turned them with supervision and never had any problems!! Glad your dd is happy!!

Quartz2208 · 18/10/2021 22:17

They are exactly where they should be

Being a perfectionist isnt healthy here OP you are in danger of ruining this for your DD

ittakes2 · 18/10/2021 22:18

It would be weird if it was higher in my opinion - my bigger concern is you have given your daughter a complex and taken away the excitement of her ears being newly pierced! You can't change it now regardless so just let her enjoy them.

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teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 22:24

@Quartz2208

They are exactly where they should be

Being a perfectionist isnt healthy here OP you are in danger of ruining this for your DD

I know...and I absolutely don't want to do that.

I think that's why I was seeking other opinions as I know mine is probably skewed slightly, plus emotionally I feel like I've let her down a bit which is making me feel worse about the whole thing.

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Quartz2208 · 18/10/2021 22:27

Do you get this a lot OP? Because even with seeking other opinions you are in danger of skewing this to be al about you and letting her down etc.

I had a grandma like this and it is exhausting and constant

beachbabyy · 18/10/2021 22:28

Honestly the position is completely normal, I wouldn't say anything to your DD. If my memory is correct those first earrings are quite bulky and the lobe swells a little. I'm sure it'll look even better once it's all healed.

I think this'll be one of those things where because you've looked at it too much it inevitably looks a bit weird to you now.

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teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 22:29

@ittakes2

It would be weird if it was higher in my opinion - my bigger concern is you have given your daughter a complex and taken away the excitement of her ears being newly pierced! You can't change it now regardless so just let her enjoy them.
Oh I've not said anything to her about it!!! I genuinely think she looks beautiful with them, it's just my silent personal niggle that I wanted perspective on.

If I absolutely decided they should be moved I'd be certain to approach it with her as carefully and positively as possible, and ONLY if I was sure it wouldn't cause her upset.

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