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DD's ears pierced today...too low...?

51 replies

teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 21:55

Hi everyone,

My 9 year old DD got her ears pierced today, it looks lovely however my perfectionist instinct is telling me they would be better ever so slightly higher on her ear lobe. Now, I am a pain in the ass perfectionist so I don't know if I'm just overthinking this...

Ps. Piercer did mark on her ears and ask my opinion and I do not know why I didn't ask then for them to be ever so slightly higher. Kicking myself now.

DD's ears pierced today...too low...?
OP posts:
QuicklyNowThen · 18/10/2021 22:30

Honestly I'm a nightmare of a perfectionist... They are perfectly positioned op really

Ivy48 · 18/10/2021 22:31

They’re fine! Mine are slightly too high and I struggle with certain hoops not fitting my love and studs look a bit lost if they’re small! Perfect position if you ask me and she’ll have no issues with big earring in future

Original poster
teatimetreat · 18/10/2021 22:33

@Quartz2208

Do you get this a lot OP? Because even with seeking other opinions you are in danger of skewing this to be al about you and letting her down etc.

I had a grandma like this and it is exhausting and constant

Your right that I feel I've let her down - but certainly not it's not a regular thing.

I just wanted fresh eyes giving an opinion as I felt this is something that could be relatively easy to fix now, but not so much when she's say 18.

OP posts:
MrsFin · 18/10/2021 22:34

They look bang in the middle to me. Just right

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 18/10/2021 22:35

They're fine.
A decent piercer won't centre them on the lobes, they take into account the face shape so that they can be seen evenly from the front.

VillKrill · 18/10/2021 22:36

At no point has OP said she’s mentioned her doubts to her daughter! But definitely agree it should be left alone now.

FWIW I think they look perfect, OP. Mine are much nearer the edge of my lobes and I always wish they’d been done a little higher (age and a penchant for large/heavy earrings have made the holes look lower over the years, so best to start slightly on the higher side IMO!)

Hotelhelp · 18/10/2021 22:37

I remember similar feelings when my DD had hers done (although maybe not as concerned as you are).

I think it’s partly because it’s so ‘permanent’ - even though it’s not really of course. And just because when they’re first done you’re constantly looking at them and it feels like such a big deal someone has pierced your child so you try and find fault with it.

But honestly they are absolutely fine!! As are my daughters. And once they’ve had them done a while you don’t even really notice them anymore apart from when they’ve inevitably lost ANOTHER earring!

elbea · 18/10/2021 22:55

My first piercing was too high so I can’t have quite as many lobe piercings as I’d like. I’d have preferred mine in the same position as hers for my first.

Clementineapples · 18/10/2021 22:58

I agree with you. A mm or 2 higher would be perfect but in real life I doubt I’d notice!

Karwomannghia · 18/10/2021 23:00

I had the exact same worry with dd and I was so fussy about where they put the mark! Never let on. I then started to look at everyone’s piercings and noticed how off centre so may people’s are! And then dd’s looked exactly right and so do your dd’s!

ThatsWhatI · 19/10/2021 00:19

Don't worry they look absolutely in the right place

ThatsWhatI · 19/10/2021 00:20

I think they would look worse higher up

PinkArt · 19/10/2021 00:21

They look spot on to me. Mine are a little higher and it's really hard to find huggies/ tiny hoops that fit, so I wish mine were more like this. Plus I think the placement looks a bit cooler than if they're dead centre on the lobe.

LalalalalalaLand123 · 19/10/2021 00:30

Op you would NOT want them higher, they would look weird higher. They look perfect as they are. I get the second-guessing, I'm guilty of it myself, but please try to control it, and in this case let it go entirely as the piercing looks perfect.

HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule · 19/10/2021 00:30

No I think it’s placed exactly right.

Original poster
teatimetreat · 19/10/2021 11:37

@Hotelhelp

I remember similar feelings when my DD had hers done (although maybe not as concerned as you are).

I think it’s partly because it’s so ‘permanent’ - even though it’s not really of course. And just because when they’re first done you’re constantly looking at them and it feels like such a big deal someone has pierced your child so you try and find fault with it.

But honestly they are absolutely fine!! As are my daughters. And once they’ve had them done a while you don’t even really notice them anymore apart from when they’ve inevitably lost ANOTHER earring!

I think you've nailed it. It does feel a big deal, but my rational brain is telling me not to be so silly Grin

I have to say they are perfectly level, and I now totally take on board the idea that higher might end up causing issue with hoops for instance, or look a little strange as she does have a good sized lobe.

I truly never expected my DD getting her ears pierced to be such a emotional roller coaster!!! Grin

She looks beautiful. I need to give myself a talking to. If she decides to change the position when she's older then she can.

Thanks everyone for your comments!

OP posts:
Kiitos · 19/10/2021 12:34

One of mine is too low. The lady doing the piercing drew the dots on, I asked her to move one down and later realised she had been right. I can’t say I ever give it a moments thought and I’m sure nobody else would even notice!

Thatsplentyjack · 19/10/2021 12:39

I would have said that's a tiny bit low, and would prefer it right in the middle but mine is right in the middle and because there is a slight indent in that bit of my lobe, it makes some earing sit at a funny angle. Other people probably wouldn't notice, but I have multiple piercings and it makes the first one look really (to me) off center, so probably best left alone.
I did actually get my second hole redone because ethe woman did it far too close to the first on one side. The original hole is still there, and that was about 17 years ago now. If you're going to do it, do it now.

liveforsummer · 19/10/2021 12:40

They've been done with the shape of your DD's lobes in mind and are perfect. A smaller, flatter lobe might look more perfectly central.

ShantaLillie · 19/10/2021 12:40

I can related to this, I think my dd's earring aren't perfectly positioned, I'm not usually greta at holding my tongue but forced myself on this one successfully. Do not do a thing OP, your dd's earrings look perfectly positioned. Let it go and let her enjoy! In fact, go and buy some nice new earrings!

Angrynellie · 19/10/2021 17:48

I do see what you mean, it could go ever ever so slightly up a bit, like a mm. However never mention it to your DD! My DD’s are a tiny fraction too high, but I’ll never admit that!

MyMabel · 19/10/2021 17:51

Not too far off where I would have placed it myself although would have done slightly higher and more forward. This is how I would have marked up where to place it.

DD's ears pierced today...too low...?
Looubylou · 19/10/2021 18:01

Higher would look odd. Don't pass on your pop perfectionism to your daughter OP, it could lead to a life of never being satisfied and never finishing things on time if ever.

SuperJune · 19/10/2021 18:03

They're fine! Mine were done lower than that when I was young - the bright side is now I have a second lobe piercing and the placement of both sets of piercings looks perfect Grin

Overthinker19 · 19/10/2021 18:49

Perfect position. Any higher would look odd

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