Funeral on Tuesday and I’m struggling to find something to wear

[Bertiebassetsbabe]

I have my very first funeral to attend on Thursday. It’s a burial.

I wanted to look nice for my aunty, so I ordered a few black dresses online. They arrived yesterday and none of them fit 😡 they are all too tight. I should have ordered the next size up, but I’m the same size in the shops I normally shop in.

I’ve been down the high street this morning and I’ve not been able to find anything and I’m really starting to panic.

The only thing I have in my wardrobe is a black flowery dress similar to this one

www.bonmarche.co.uk/lace-shoulder-floral-print-dress-9000098.html?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=10797497003&utm_term=&source=&gclid=CjwKCAjwk6-LBhBZEiwAOUUDp8dKagQYKU6-OgQ8_2foIcjYwKNibkR8-sIJ4JgTrp5zbtzv8lclXBoChncQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#&gid=1&pid=1

But I’m thinking this is not really suitable to a funeral.

I have a plain black cardigan if that helps.

Any help\advice would be appreciated.

That would seem OK to me, but some people are a bit uptight about black at funerals - I'm Jewish and we don't have the black for funeral thing, so may not be best placed to advise!

What size are you?

I went to a funeral recently and had no idea what to wear.In the end I wore a plain black fitted knee length dress I've had for years with black ballerinas.I was glad I did and everyone was in black.However that dress...if it is the same.. would be fine with a black cardy.

@Yafilthyanimal

What size are you?

Size 16

It would seem ok for me too, but people around here seem to have moved away a bit from all black for funerals, sometimes the notices say wear a colour to celebrate the life of X or similar. The main question really is whether the closest mourners (your Aunt's husband or children?) are likely to prefer attendees to be in all black or not. Are you in a position to ask one of them? If not and you aren't sure about the flowers, do you have a plain black skirt you could wear with the black cardigan and then just a simple dark coloured top underneath?

Do you have black trousers? A black coat?

Anywhere near an argos?

www.argos.co.uk/product/tuc139850528

Do you have anything in navy or grey or dark purple? That would have been acceptable at the funerals I've been to recently.

The trouble is over lockdown I gained weight and have very little in my wardrobe that fits. For work, I wear jeans/leggings.

That dress is absolutely fine IMO

[quote Yafilthyanimal]Anywhere near an argos?

www.argos.co.uk/product/tuc139850528[/quote]
Looks great, but it says order now for collection Tuesday. Thanks for looking.

This is smart and they do next day delivery for £3.99.

www.roman.co.uk/fitted-jersey-wrap-dress-14175108

@NannyR

Do you have anything in navy or grey or dark purple? That would have been acceptable at the funerals I've been to recently.

I have a medium grey pair of trousers that fit.

Black isn't necessary. A blouse and trousers or a skirt is fine. But ultimately it doesn't really matter what you wear. It's about showing love and support for the family.

Honestly, that dress with a cardigan is absolutely fine. I really wouldn't buy anything new for a funeral. I've been to loads in the last few years and people don't wear all black anymore, they generally just wear the smartest outfit in their wardrobe in a dark colour.

I’ve also found this dress in the wardrobe. I had bought it but couldn’t wear it because it was too big. I’ve put my cardigan with it.

Dh thinks I’m overthinking this and it’ll be fine.

Having never been to a funeral before, I don’t want to go and feel self conscious as a lot of family members are for want of a better word, arseholes.

That looks really lovely, OP. Perfect.

I think the second dress is more muted than the one in your OP, but either would be fine. I wore petrol blue to my mum's funeral - I wanted to be 'armoured' as in something I felt really good in, but I don't really wear black and so didn't want to waste money. It was fine. People wore all sorts, I didn't care - I was just grateful that they had came to show their respects.

That dress would be fine for a funeral.

What you have there is lovely.

I think black is dying out for funerals - I’ve been to 5 this year and all have said wear what you want. I’d go smart but dark and muted if you feel more comfortable.

Either are fine. Wear whichever you feel most comfortable in. You'll do your aunt proud
Sorry for your loss

@Bertiebassetsbabe
Anywhere near a M&S
This is super flattering in multi

www.marksandspencer.com/floral-high-neck-midi-tea-dress/p/clp60509967

Although the pic you’ve posted hanging on the door is absolutely fine.

The outfit you have is absolutely fine!