I feel so ugly - my eyes/ eyebrows asymmetrical

[ston]

I have recently noticed that one of my eyebrows is significantly lower than the other. One is straight and the other one is curved. They are not in line even a tiny bit and i can never get them to look the same even with drawing them on.

How can I fix this? I grew my eyebrows out for about 10 months last year and got them done professionally but nothing changed.

It makes it worse being on teams all day seeing my face looking all surprised.

I also have acne and acne scars. My self esteem is so low and I can’t deal with being me and looking in the mirror most days.

Your eyebrows are supposed to be siblings, but not identical twins. Mine are also not completely identical and that’s fine, it’s natural. Those perfectly even Instagram brows have nothing to do with reality and you’re looking fine.

its not your eyebrows, you have one eye more hooded than the other (see how the right one you can see more eye-lid than the left) this is completely normal, mine are the same, no-ones face is symetrical

I know we can only see part of your face but I thought it was Lana Del Ray

OP, the way you’re talking about this and the fact you’ve come here seeking reassurance (which I somehow doubt will make you feel better, despite everyone telling your eyebrows look perfectly normal - and in fact very beautiful!) makes me wonder if maybe you have some sort of body dysmorphia rather than ‘just’ low self-esteem - I’ve had two severe episodes in the past, so I do have experience. Especially where you say you can’t deal with looking in the mirror some days

How often are you thinking about this? So sorry if I’ve got it wrong and hope I’ve not offended you; it’s just reading your post reminded me how despairing I once felt about my ‘flaws’.

@BabyOctopus

I think about it all the time. It literally consumes me. I actually feel like a monster today as I have loads of acne again. I don’t know what to do about it all.

It may be worth seeing a dermatologist regarding the acne. Ask your GP for a referral. Sorting that out will help a lot, I think.

I think you’re overthinking it, but for what it’s worth, my statement glasses now make my eyes and brows look more symmetrical, if you would consider buying and wearing them.

@HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule

I was put on the list from October 2019. Still on the waiting list. I have been on accutane already and have lots of scars. Its exhausting dealing with all these things.

Op you look exactly like me, I have this. My eyelid on one eye is more visible than the other.

I go through phases of being so paranoid but I am assured by family that they don't notice.

Also - it will be much more obvious on teams and in images where they flip the image than in real life, so what you're seeing will be exaggerated!

My DH had acne as a young man and said the pain was absolutely horrendous, never mind the psychological effects. I hope you manage to get it sorted. Would it be worth paying to see a dermatologist privately if you’ve got the money?

No face is entirely symmetrical. If you think yours are that ugly you’d think I’m hideous- I had Bell’s palsy as a teenager and the muscle tone on one side on my face is worse. I can feel it and the asymmetry in my eyebrows, and eyes themselves, are much more pronounced that yours.

It’s just something to fixate on. What’s really going on- are you generally happy in yourself?

According to John Ruskin:

No human face is exactly the same in its lines on each side, no leaf perfect in its lobes, no branch in its symmetry. All admit irregularity as they imply change; and to banish imperfection is to destroy expression, to check exertion, to paralyse vitality.

And have a look at beautiful Kylie Minogue and her eyebrows, even in her youth.

Oh @ston . It is an utterly consuming thing and while reassurance superficially seems to help, if it’s body dysmorphic disorder your brain will just find a way to ‘prove’ that really we’re lying/mistaken/not seeing the full picture.

My advice would be to see a GP for the issues you are having; you shouldn’t have to be experiencing these feelings about yourself. My body dysmorphia on both occasions had some grounds in reality (a skin condition), but the real issue was how my brain blew it out of all proportion to the point it utterly consumed me (and in fact I was suicidal over it). Every day during that period felt ‘desperate’; I can’t explain it any other way.

The other thing that helped me when I was in the real pits of mirror-checking despair was covering up the mirrors, otherwise I was in front of them all day trying to view my flaws from all angles and in different lights. I even asked my partner to help guard them as I couldn’t trust myself not to look! I hated leaving the house because I thought people would look at my face and feel sorry for me.

I hope you have understanding family around who you can talk about this stuff to? My loved ones couldn’t do anything to stop me feeling the way I did, but sat with me metaphorically (providing reassurance about my so-called ‘flaws’ which I wasn’t able to truly believe) while I worked it through myself.

In the end, it was cognitive behavioural therapy (and anti-depressants) that made me feel like life was good and worth living again.

to you.

You are beautiful.

Your eyebrows are fabulous.

Sorry you can't see what every other poster is seeing.

I think they look fine but if you are really worried maybe get them professionally shaped? They will be able to make them the same thickness/shape.
You could always try using brow makeup to even them up and if you like the result go for a more permanent version such as microblading

Do you know which hospital you were referred to? After two years I’d be ringing them to check what happened.

You can go private to a dermatologist and then be transferred to the nhs directly after seeing them. It’s going to cost you about £300.

Is the dr treating you with antibiotics while you wait for treatment? I had accutane after starting the mini pill and it caused cystic acne so I know what it feels like. I hid away for months and had lymecycline while I was waiting.

Try a red light led face mask to reduce scarring, I still use mine now but I bought it originally when I was cystic and credit it with preventing pitted scars. Boots sell them now.

Your brows are normal btw, eye brows are sisters not twins.

I would just get them threaded, the right eyebrow just needs to be a bit thinner underneath, as another poster said above, to give it the same arch as the other one.

If you are really really against them you could save up and get them microbladed which is basically a semipermanent tattoo.

It’s not really the eyebrows that are uneven, you have one eye more hooded than the other which is giving the illusion. An extreme solution would be eyelid surgery, my cousin had it as she had Lymphodema which made one eyelid droop more than the other.

As pp said they aren’t supposed to match, we would all look rather stern if they did! I know your eyes are hidden but you look like you have lovely skin and I’m actually jealous of your brows!!

Also teams makes everyone feel ugly, I work with a really handsome guy that looks awful on there, it’s like a bloody ugly mirror.

I feel like a monster
I think about them (my eyebrows) all day
it consumes me

As mentioned already, you likely have a psychological issue. You're showing classic traits of body dysmorphia; your time consumed by worrying and scrutinising a perceived flaw or flaws that are barely noticeable to others.

Your a beautiful young girl with good skin and great eyebrows. My only advice is to limit time in mirrors, cover your image during Team meetings and get out and about as much as possible. Exercise can be a great mood enhancer.

Seek a course of CBT if your thoughts continue to be this intrusive.

I'm sorry this is making you so unhappy. We all are our own worst critic, I mean it's rare to find a woman completely happy with her appearance but I think you are really struggling with your self image to a worrying degree.

I agree everyone looks weird on Teams. I can't stand my face on it. It's like a big red moon with a massive forehead. I actually cut a fringe because I was so shocked about my big shiny forehead. I actually don't think anyone looks themselves on it.

Op. You need to get some help, your face is not the issue, it’s your mental health, pick up the phone and speak to your gp. You’re not well snd don’t need to live like this you can get help. 💐

That’s a lovely clip @Chocolatecoatedkettlebell and demonstrates how we don’t notice asymmetry in others.

I don’t think it’s necessarily a mental health issue to not like the way you look.
We’ve all got something that we don’t like about our face or body and to us it’s the most hideous thing ever but most other people don’t even notice it.

I think it becomes a mental health issue when it's not a dissatisfaction with your appearance, but an all consuming "exhausting" (in Op's words) preoccupation or fixation that takes over your life.. Feeling "like a monster" is not rational at all.

It is possible to change your mindset Op. I hope you can, you deserve to be free of all this angst!