Best way of hair removal for a 9 year old?

[KidsAreMean]

Bit reluctant to let her loose with my razor, I massacre my own legs enough as it is! Plus she doesn't like that my hair grows back spiky and she knows that's because I shave. If I use the epilator, half grows back under the skin, so reluctant to suggest that also because of the pain (and that it takes hours). Is waxing different to epilating? I've never tried.

Boy in her class has been making fun of her for having hairy legs. She hasn't asked yet to get rid, and shrugged him off, but was a bit bothered when she told me. I think I should prepare myself so I have everything if she decides she wants to. She doesn't have any signs of puberty yet. I have to shave every other day to keep my hair under control, 9 seems very early to have to start worrying about this.

@arethereanyleftatall oh yes it's completely wrong. But if the child wants to remove their leg hair what is a parent meant to do?

I honestly don't know @StarshipsAreMeantToFly

But it's happening up amd down the country (world)? Girls at such ages driven to doing this.

Is it a new thing because of social media? Could schools tackle it?

I don't know. I just don't think the solution of the young girl taking a blade to her legs is the right course of action.

@arethereanyleftatall I think there's always been a bit of pressure on girls that young but I agree it does seem particularly bad. I heard some youngish lads on the bus discussing their female friend's appearance and it was disgusting the language they used. I wish I'd challenged them but you never know who has a knife these days.

@KidsAreMean yes I’d have a conversation with the teacher before that info session. I’d not stand up and disclose it’s your dd being bullied as some parents aren’t as discreet as others and might go home and discuss directly with child using names.

I wonder if these are the boys that grow in to the misogynistic lazy men who expect their wives to do everything that are spoken about every day on mn.

I hadn’t thought about the removal of hair being a misogynistic thing. I was just thinking that I like it myself as my legs feel nice!

But I can see the point about education. To prevent the attitudes of boys mimicking that if their misogynistic fathers.

This is a way bigger thing than I had first thought. Surely there must be some king of council wide policy about anything to do with the rights of women and girls.

Perhaps that would cover this and should be kicking in now to help the boys understand that anyone can remove hair from anywhere if THEY wish to do so but it’s up to the individual.

@otherplans it was very strange, it caused a lot of hairloss on my hairline (despite not using it on hairline), some of which never grew back to previous fullness, skin pigmentation issues, extra moles appeared, autoimmune type response - inflamed skin tissues all over, pains over body even to the point whereby I couldn't walk well for a week or two. I'm several years post this, and mostly fine again now but I still struggle with hairline and what feels like residual issues of autoimmune responses. whether or not it was triggered by an underlying condition I was not aware of, or caused it all itself I am not sure. Drs were no use whatsoever but online I found plenty of other people who had similar issues. Use with caution especially if you are sensitive.

oh yes it's completely wrong. But if the child wants to remove their leg hair what is a parent meant to do?

The child hasn’t said she wants to remove the hair. The child has told her mum a boy is bullying her over her leg hair, the mum’s solution is hair removal.

Willing to bet the same boy will bully her of having to remove her hair if she does, or will find something else like weight or hairy arms- he’s seeing his words having an effect and feels the power, he can make people change themselves.

Fuck that. Don’t be waiting til parents evening. Go in asap and tell them this child needs a firm lesson in not commenting on appearances.

Have a chat with the teacher. Any teasing about appearance is not on.

@Elieza

I hadn’t thought about the removal of hair being a misogynistic thing. I was just thinking that I like it myself as my legs feel nice!

But I can see the point about education. To prevent the attitudes of boys mimicking that if their misogynistic fathers.

This is a way bigger thing than I had first thought. Surely there must be some king of council wide policy about anything to do with the rights of women and girls.

Perhaps that would cover this and should be kicking in now to help the boys understand that anyone can remove hair from anywhere if THEY wish to do so but it’s up to the individual.

Women so often say how things just 'feel nice' - but do you do underarms too? Because that doesn't feel different. I like wearing makeup and tell myself that it's for me, but realistically how many straight men are spending that money and time? If people truly didn't give a toss about my facial appearance, I don't truly think I'd bother.

Op shaving every 2 days is going to be giving the DD an equally strong message that hair on women is wrong. Bet that the boy's mum does it too.

I remove my hair too, but in winter for example I'll often not bother, and I do try to talk to my kids about expectations for boys and girls and to consider what they might want to do, and what is fair.

@Reallyreallyborednow

oh yes it's completely wrong. But if the child wants to remove their leg hair what is a parent meant to do?

The child hasn’t said she wants to remove the hair. The child has told her mum a boy is bullying her over her leg hair, the mum’s solution is hair removal.

Willing to bet the same boy will bully her of having to remove her hair if she does, or will find something else like weight or hairy arms- he’s seeing his words having an effect and feels the power, he can make people change themselves.

Fuck that. Don’t be waiting til parents evening. Go in asap and tell them this child needs a firm lesson in not commenting on appearances.

She didn't say that- she said prepare herself for IF the child asks.

Whether you agree or not, at least don't twist the post!