Is this too white for a wedding

[Mumski45]

Need a dress for DD's wedding in October. Everything I like is either too black or too white. Bridesmaids are in a neutral silver grey so anything goes colour wise. I quite like this but wondered if it would fall into the "too white for a wedding" category.

Whilst I can see your vision and think it’s a lovely dress I always think it’s best to stay away from any sort of white/light colour dress for a wedding.

A lot of people do though so I suppose just depends how you feel about it

And just realised your the mum. Please wear a different colour 🙊😂

@Astronaut8 exactly I have to be so careful. Here is another one I like but this could be seen as too black.

www.karenmillen.com/embroidery-beaded-halter-long-dress/AKK95205.html

I have to disagree with the previous poster. This isn't "too white" - it's very clearly grey and patterned and absolutely appropriate.
Couldn't you ask your daughter what she thinks, if you are worried? But I am sure it would be fine.

@Ruthietuthie Yes I have asked her and waiting for a response but whilst she is quite laid back about it I think she might say it's OK even if it's not. Whilst it is her opinion which matters to me I don't want other guests to think I didn't care about getting it right.

I definitely prefer the white to the black. I personally think it's fine but agree with PP, ask your daughter her opinion as hers is the one that will count!

I don't think either of them are appropriate as MOB sorry.
First one too pale (it may look more grey in real life but that photo on my device looks pretty close to white) and the second IMO isn't smart or classy enough for your role in her wedding.

@Cushionsnotpillows

I don't think either of them are appropriate as MOB sorry. First one too pale (it may look more grey in real life but that photo on my device looks pretty close to white) and the second IMO isn't smart or classy enough for your role in her wedding.

I agree.

Maybe start a new thread with your requirements eg age/size/budget/occasion/parts of your body you like/don't like.
Mumsnetters are great at finding outfits for people, this is a really special day for your DD and your family - it's worth making the effort I think.

I like the dress. It has a pattern so clearly not infringing with the "all white look" maybe get a lovely gold jacket / cardigan to sit on top? And gold/cream fascinator? You are the mother of the bride so absolutely should dress the part. Definitely prefer the first dress to the second option!

I think it’s lovely and you would pick out the gold/bronze with your accessories. No-one would mistake you for the bride, but you would tone beautifully on the photos. I say you’re all good, but if you’re worried, checks with your daughter

I think both are wrong too, one too white and second is regular day wear.

How about this if you like white and black?

I think it's fine and if you look at many of the MOB dress sites many mothers wear light dresses and even lace now.

Don’t be that mother. The Karen Mullen dress doesn’t look very formal. The white/grey dress is just too close to something a bride would wear. Your daughter might not mind, but a few eyebrows would be raised.

I agree with PP that neither dress is nice enough for your role as MOB. The first isn't nice at all and the second is not wedding-y at all.

Don't be that mother ? I think we have gone past the stage now where mothers have to look shit in some creation that features a little bolero cardigan from Phase Eight 😂 . You only have to google MOB dresses now to see how things have changed .

Thanks for all your input ladies. I have been thinking again and went to an Uber posh shop to try on some very expensive dresses. The one I really like costs more than my own wedding dress did 😳. There is a picture here of it in midnight blue which I love.

I have scoured eBay and found the exact dress used once in a 12 but I am a size 8-10. Do you think this could be taken in OK?
Or alternatively I have found another used one in a size 10 in powder blue.

So Ladies please let me know what you think of these and which colour.

Also would you buy a used once dress off eBay for your DD's wedding and get more for your money or would you spend the same amount on a brand new dress with a bit less of a wow factor.

I think your DD wedding is so special and would want a dress I could look back on, have memories attached to it. A second hand dress from ebay that is thr wrong size just wouldn't do it.

What are you looking for a dress? Colours? Length? Etc

Blue dresses

Blue fitted dresses, ok one is green but I really like it :)

I really like the dark blue one. Great style for MOB in my view, particularly if it’s a fairly formal wedding. For an autumn wedding I would stay clear of pale colours.

I would think a good tailor can get that to fit but up to you how you feel about an eBay dress.

I love the Karen Millen one!

I don't wear white to weddings, but don't care if other people do. But I just think the first dress is a bit, (sorry, horrible word) frumpy. Not super keen on the other one either and agree,big it's from eBay and doesn't fit, will it feel special?

I say this as someone who bought a size 14 wedding dress from eBay and had to have it taken in loads. But I was young and broke.

If it's from eBay*

Whenever I see a thread title like this one, I always think the same thing:

If you feel the need to even ask the question, then yes, it is too white.

Also really like @bonfireheart suggestions.

I always see in these wedding threads dresses being suggested that are white on top with a colour or pattern on the bottom of the skirt. Worth remembering that when seated the colour won't be visible and it will appear a fully white dress.