Is this too white for a wedding

[Mumski45]

Need a dress for DD's wedding in October. Everything I like is either too black or too white. Bridesmaids are in a neutral silver grey so anything goes colour wise. I quite like this but wondered if it would fall into the "too white for a wedding" category.

I love the pale blue one, the dark blue is lovely but I wonder if the pale blue one is better for a wedding.
The first one is a bit too white considering you’re mother of the bride

@MaryTheMiddle

Also really like *@bonfireheart* suggestions.

Lipsy bodycon for MOB?

What's the material like in the eBay one and do you know a seamstress that could advise if it was possible. I would probably be stalking ebay for the next few months

Yes, I think the Lipsy body con one is particularly nice! Depends on op's figure obviously, but an 8-10 stands a good chance of looking nice in that. I think it's nicer than the eBay one which I find a bit shiny and old fashioned tbh, but personal taste yada yada.

I think the off the shoulder are more, "look at me" than the first one.

I'm going against the grain here but I think the first one with the right accessories would be fine, a jacket / shawl, hat and shoes in the darkest colour of the dress.

I think as long as the dress doesn't look like a wedding dress it will be fine, Princess Anne has worn not just white to different weddings but the same dress.

www.townandcountrymag.com/style/fashion-trends/g32099332/princess-anne-repeat-outfits/

The light and dark blue fitted dresses are lovely imo. I prefer the dark blue but it'll depend on your colouring.

The initial dress is too light imo (I always think that if you have to ask, it's too white) and a bit meh tbh. While I love the Karen Millen one, it's just not special enough.

I’m with MrsMaizel on this - the over the top look that lots of people seem to think is de rigueur for mother of the bride wear is really not necessary nowadays and often looks completely out of place.
I think the first dress is lovely - definitely not too white. If some think you must be wearing it to compete with your daughter it’s them that need to give their head a wobble not you. In perpetuating this ridiculous notion we all seem to have conveniently forgotten that The Duchess of Cambridge was obviously not worried about it when her sister wore a long white dress as the chief bridesmaid.
My opinion for what it’s worth is that you need to wear something that makes you feel good and that you are comfortable in. If this particular dress doesn’t do that, find something similar but please avoid the over the top perceived MoB style that the specialised designers for this type of wear produce if you know it’s not ‘you’
I’d much prefer to see a mother of the bride who looks happy and comfortable in her outfit and isn’t continually fiddling with a hat she is not used to wearing, trying to walk in shoes that are far too high and wearing a dress she can hardly move in and is worried about dropping things on when she’s chatting eating canapés and trying to enjoy the food.

@MaryTheMiddle

Yes, I think the Lipsy body con one is particularly nice! Depends on op's figure obviously, but an 8-10 stands a good chance of looking nice in that. I think it's nicer than the eBay one which I find a bit shiny and old fashioned tbh, but personal taste yada yada.

I am size 8 and my figure would probably look good in one of those dresses. I am also of an age that I could be MOB, and if I were, I'd want to treat myself to something more special than a Lipsy polyester dress.

Although I definitely wouldn't go for the shift dress and jacket look that is always suggested for MOB!

I really like both dresses and can't see an issue with either. It's all about hair, makeup and accessories. And what you feel good in! A friend of mine made her mum wear a lighter dress so she would tie into the overall bridal party theme. She and the photos looked fab!

If you're still concerned, could you go for more a silk fabric?

www.tedbaker.com/uk/Womens/Clothing/Dresses/LELLY-Halterneck-occasion-midi-dress-Dark-Brown/p/248298-DK-BROWN

With the ebay blue dress, that fabric type and ruching is not going to lend itself to tailoring. Better off to hunt for something new, especially with the sales.

i know the thread's moved on but I still like the first dress best. I'd wear it as a MOTB because provided I was sure my daughter was happy, I wouldn't care what anyone else thought. However I wouldn't chance it if I was MOTG because not my daughter, new family member etc and I'd just be more careful.

I'm not so keen on any of the blue fitted ones but, if it was right, I wouldn't care if was from Ebay, but then most of my favourite clothes are second hand.

Yes, I would also go for something special and non-traditional MOBish @DietrichandDiMaggio, but I do like the look of the Lipsy one. So that sort of style but naicer perhaps.

For an ordinary guest, I'd say yes too white, but for the MOB, if the bride is ok with it and to coordinate with silver bridesmaids, I think it's good.

I like the first dress much better than any of the others

The grey one looks fine to me, as long as your daughter agrees. The blue one looks too evening-y and I don't think off-the-shoulder is suitable for a wedding. The long Karen Millen one is just weird for a wedding; my American friend's family turned out for her English afternoon wedding all decked out in long evening dresses and there was a lot of comment. They did look as if they'd wandered in to the wrong event.

Thank you very much for all your helpful comments. I like the lipsy dresses but not sure if they are what I'm looking for as a MOB.
Interesting to hear mixed comments on the original Ted Baker dress which is quite white

I think I agree that the the dark blue dress in the wrong size will be a mistake and have written off giving it a go but I still prefer the stronger colour to the pastel one so will keep my eye out on eBay.
I have booked a personal shopper appointment at John Lewis so will keep on looking a other options as well.

I know I am seeming a bit dithery on this but it's my only DD and I want to get it right rather than feel self conscious on the day.
The wedding is in a lovely country restaurant wedding venue although DD and her DF are quite laid back so I think there will be a mix of formal/informal styles. I'm struggling to get DH and 2 DS's to commit to even wearing a suit and tie so do need to be a bit careful not to overdo it.

I know I am seeming a bit dithery on this but it's my only DD and I want to get it right rather than feel self conscious on the day.

Can you take DD with you to the personal shopper appointment? Maybe make a day of it with lunch out?

You sound like a fab mum, so many mums think their daughter's wedding is their big day.

I hope you find the perfect dress and that your DD has a fabulous day and a fabulous married life.

@sashh thank you for your kind post. DD is coming with me to the JL appointment and it's on my birthday so we are going to make it a lovely day out and also meet DH and 2 DS for a meal out afterwards if restrictions allow.

I'm trying not to let my excitement about her special day over shadow hers and at the same time trying to help with arrangements without taking over but it's hard to find a balance. Think I will coming to MN for advice on lots of things over the next few weeks and months.

Some very outdated opinions on MOB wear here. Choose something you like , OP.

The Fold has great dresses, OP
thefoldlondon.com/product/sanremo-dress-berry-pink-premium-cotton/

I love that dark blue off the shoulder dress.. stunning! If you can afford it buy it! Can be worn again to lovely dinners