Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

So what's the verdict OP? Over 300 posts now...

It reminded me of this one the Sassie Holford one on the hitched list of floral wedding dresses. Shape is very beach wedding though not formal. Blush plus flowers has always been an option.

I just don't get this! It doesn't look bridal at all, and is perfect for a wedding guest

MN is just weird in this respect!

This. I am constantly amazed at just how weird MNetters can be about things like this. I feel like I'm living in a parallel universe sometimes.

I think it's fine if you're not going to be in any of the bride and grooms photos. The pattern could end up washed out or less noticeable.
I would generally say it's fine but with so many dresses to choose from I do think it's odd to choose a dress that the main colour is white.

You're not going to be mistaken for the bride, but it's VERY bridal party. I'd expect that you were a relative/maid of honour.

Lovely dress, would be less lovely with a pink hat, save it for a garden party.

This is quite clearly nothing like a bridal dress. Wear it OP it's lovely

I actually think it’s fine for a formal wedding but it’s very similar in shape to Ellie Goulding’s wedding dress. Bridal trends have moved on a bit from strapless meringues.

Another to add to add to the yes it’s lovely votes, it’s being aimed at wedding guests not bridal at all, really pretty dress .

Too white

I definitely would not wear this. Even with a pattern on it, it is still a white dress. I really can't get my head around it why when it comes to a wedding people try and push the one rule of don't wear white. How hard is it to not wear white for one day?!

It doesn't look remotely bridal, I would wear it with darker pink rather than pale though. Go for it.

I think it’s fine but would go dark with accessories, maybe forest green.

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It doesn't look remotely bridal, I would wear it with darker pink rather than pale though. Go for it.

Ditto

It's fine, the style isn't bridal and neither is the pattern. With pink accessories you will look great.

Ooh, I've been looking for a "grown up" wedding dress. I think this might be it!

I think it's bridal enough not to wear it. I'm sure most brides wouldn't bat an eyelid, along side a bride in a traditional gown it wouldn't be an issue at all, but why risk it?

Show the bride and ask her what she thinks?

the flowers make it very seventies bridesmaid imo

Well spotted. It's almost exactly the same as a bridesmaid dress I wore in the 70s. Therefore it would look like a bridesmaid dress to me.

I've seen modern brides wear dresses just like this. The bride at the wedding you're going to might not mind, but on the other hand she really might. Why risk it? There are so many nice dresses out there.

As a guest I would assume you wanted attention, and judging from this thread, there would be others who would assume the same. That might not be fair but that's the situation.

No one is going to confuse you for the bride..: just wear it

I think "ask the bride" has been suggested a few times. Unless op hates her or something

I got married a few years ago (late and old) and I'd have just thought it was totally bizarre if someone had rung me up and asked me if they could wear a particular dress to a wedding.

The only dresses I can remember people wearing are my best friend as I've got a picture of me and her up from the day and another friend who wore a gorgeous dress and looked stunning. Oh, and my MIL who looked classy as hell, as she always does. Oh and a friend and her plus one bessie mate who turned up in full trendy mother of the bride gear - all shiny tight satin - and took over the dance floor with 'mom dancing' until one of the dresses popped at the seams.

Why would you think it was bizarre? Strange reaction.

I've done it, as mentioned up thread. The bride was politely incredulous that I felt I needed to ask, but I don't think it was because she really felt it was an odd thing to ask. More that it wasn't necessary because she didn't mind. Obviously if she DID mind, then it would have been worse not to ask. Depends entirely on the bride, who the op doesn't seem to have even met before I don't think? Tbf, although I wouldn't have cared at my own wedding, I'd err on the side of caution at someone else's wedding when I didn't know the bride well enough to ask. But since op REALLY wants to wear it, then ask. Bizarre not to actually.

Surprised anyone thinks it's not appropriate. I think it's perfect for a wedding. Lots of women wore dresses like that to my wedding.

I think it's fine. It isn't weddingy at all and looks appropriate to me. If someone wore it to my wedding, I would have no issue.

If there is the slightest chance the bride might be upset by someone else wearing white then IMO it's not worth that risk.