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Called fat...by a fat man !

36 replies

Madge55 · 04/02/2021 07:12

I'm sort of laughing at this to be honest but just thought I'd share it.

So I go to the shop early morning, feeling not too bad about myself ...its relative to my current state though.
Im in a rush, run into a man haven't seen in years, barely recognised him, he is all up for a chat but I'm in a hurry, he casually throws in , 'you've put on a bit of weight since I last saw you haven't you ! ' I reply ' im fat' ! Which to be brutally honest , I am. But still, not as overweight as he.... he then goes on to tell me he has lost 2 to 3 stone and how he has got there.
By this stage I'm laughing under my mask because he is utterly oblivious to his comment and how his own situation is seemingly worse than mine, despite his weight loss. Anyway I eventually run on about my day....I'm curious to know how others would have responded/ handled it !

OP posts:
ivfbabymomma1 · 04/02/2021 07:20

I'd have responded like this "you ain't a prize" along with the head tilt 😂

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 04/02/2021 07:23

I'd have laughed in his face and walked off.

Somuddled · 04/02/2021 07:25

He just wanted a way to talk about his achievement and bringing up your weight was a way to do that. It was twatty but I wouldn't agree with you that he way oblivious - I find what people are on a path to lose a lot they get obsessed and want to talk about it lots

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 04/02/2021 08:55

I'd have said just said. "Have you seen yourself". If people can give it they can or have to be prepared to take it.

VettiyaIruken · 04/02/2021 08:56

You've put on some weight
"Not as much as you"

LaBellina · 04/02/2021 08:57

Not as much as you have, love. Enjoyed eating during lockdown? Gotta go now, keep enjoying the good life!

Then turn around and walk away.

Mermaidwaves · 04/02/2021 09:31

I've been online dating and the gall of a lot of men astounds me! Fat, very unattractive men are very critical of me as a big girl and quite frankly some of them could do with a paper bag over their heads! Not that I would be so rude to say that to them. A lot of men are deluded when it comes to their own appearance, yet are happy to judge women superficially.

Janegrey333 · 04/02/2021 11:01

@VettiyaIruken

You've put on some weight "Not as much as you"
The point is he’s working on trying to lose it.
VettiyaIruken · 04/02/2021 11:08

That doesn't give him the right to comment on the ops weight.

WagnerTheWehrWolf · 04/02/2021 11:29

Who gives a toss if he's losing weight? That does not give him a right to say to the OP ''you've put on a bit of weight since I last saw you haven't you !'. And it's very interesting that anyone would think that because he's losing weight that gives him the right to mention anyone else's.

Honest to fuck. That this even needs saying.

WagnerTheWehrWolf · 04/02/2021 11:34

A lot of men are deluded when it comes to their own appearance, yet are happy to judge women superficially

They really are. I blame George Clooney and the advent of the supposed silver fox man.

George Clooney swished about that emergency room in his scrubs and gorgeous grey hair about 25 years ago (!) and women the world over swooned. And ever since then so many plain faced middle aged James and Daves with grey hair thought 'hmmm, I must be a silver fox too'. God bless their confidence, but no.

scentedgeranium · 04/02/2021 12:39

My dad does this about random 'great big fat' women and is himself fat. But he has dementia so has lost his filter.

GingerFoxInAT0phat · 04/02/2021 12:43

When he said ‘You have put on weight’ you could have said ‘I’m catching up with you!’

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 04/02/2021 13:22

You should have said this

Called fat...by a fat man !
JaneJeffer · 04/02/2021 15:04

@Snoopysimaginaryfriend Grin

Deathraystare · 04/02/2021 17:11

I remember walking to a bus stop eating an apple and a stupid man doing the shaky finger at me and tut tutting. What? when did a single apple get to be 1000s of calories. Stupid bastard!

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 04/02/2021 18:15

Op, honestly. You have forgotten the Golden Rule. Fat people on a diet become 'Experts' in weight loss. My sil did. She told me all about how to lose weight on milkshake things, all about fat burning. I have never been as fat as she is. Obviously l didn't say 'l knew that was going to happen'when she stopped doing the shakes and ended up fatter than ever.

On a serious note some slim people who used to be fat can be really self righteous.

Tuscadero · 04/02/2021 18:16

Former fat people, former smokers, former drinkers. Some of those people can be a right pain in the bum.

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Madge55 · 04/02/2021 18:45

Years ago a female journalist in her 40s/ 50s told how when she went to work in a radio station in the morning she would check herself in the mirror , bum too fat, grey hair, wrinkles etc etc etc . Her male colleague, similar age, smaller, chubbier checked himself in the mirror and could only see a stud muffin. Is that where we're going wrong .

OP posts:
Happymum12345 · 05/02/2021 09:02

My dad criticises my mum about her weight and he has a huge belly. It really is as though he just can’t see what he looks like. It’s got to be a male thing.

Wannabangbang · 05/02/2021 09:07

I see this regularly fat men shaming fat women even though they are much larger with egg bellies.

I would have responded with "you could do with losing a lot more" as you walked awayGrin

Fozzleyplum · 05/02/2021 09:32

I would have laughed and addressed him as "Twiggy" for the remainder of the conversation.

MoltonSilver · 05/02/2021 09:36

It might have been his socially inept way of starting a conversation about weight so he could explain about his own weight. My guess it's got nothing to do with whatever size you happen to be and more to do with whatever turmoil is going on in his own head. It was, of course, very rude of him any way you look at it.

Bluntness100 · 05/02/2021 09:40

Honestly some blokes have no clue.

I ran into an old colleague, one I literally hadn’t seen in years, at an airport, we both caught the same flight. It was something like salmon bagels that were served as thr inflight meal and when we disembarked he randomly walked up to me and said, in the luggage hall “bloody hell I saw you, you ate all that bagel. Did you eat the all the fucking cream cheese too?” . I’m not fat. But it wouldn’t matter if I was.

Literally the only convo we had had was on boarding when it was “oh gosh haven’t seen you in years, how are you kind of thing” . We were virtual strangers, I just kind of nodded, as in yes, I ate all the cream cheese too, totally bemused why he felt it worth commenting on.

I mean it wasn’t exactly man v food, it was a bagel, salmon and a little tub of Philadelphia on a plane!

Oldraver · 07/02/2021 10:45

My Mum has spent years and years going on about my weight, she is grossly overweight probably about a size 28 and it does hinder her. But no she must tell me I MUST loose weight. There was a day I snapped and said she should concentrate on HER weight not mine and she doesn't seem to do it much now

I just some people are in total denial

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