Do you always share your beauty secrets?

[JMAngel1]

Either on here and/or IRL or do you ever keep them truly secret?
I'm not necessarily asking about non surgical/surgical proceedures, just skincare/supplements/makeup.

I usually share everything but I've come across a few gems lately which are tricky to get hold of so I think I'm keeping shtum for fear of sell out

However, I have a friend who told me that I give out waaay too much info about beauty secrets - she said that beauty was a competition at our age(. I don't agree with that unsisterly idea at all but wondered if others do?

A competition! That's just weird. I don't really have any beauty secrets but I wouldn't have an issue telling anyone if I found a really great product.

Ha, if I find something really good I want to tell everyone about it. No secrets here.

That sounds like a very outdated view. Anyway, Google is always there now so there are no real secrets if you look hard enough.

What a bizarre view

Ps, what's she really doing, applying her shop bought potions and laughing thinking no one else will ever find these shop bought potions? Unless she's mixing and creating her own products it's not a secret.

Your friend sounds bonkers

No, it’s part of the fun telling friends your discoveries - as well as sharing on here. I also love all those bloggers who do things like testIng and modelling all the nail or lip colours in a range - if I fancy trying something new you can always find someone who’s reviewed it and see how it looks.

Beauty secrets? I've heard it all now. Really what could one possibly use that would make such a vivid difference that it becomes top secret? This sounds like a naff magazine article.

Also I’d feel a bit embarrassed sitting smugly on my “beauty secrets” as if I look like Helen of Troy and everyone’s desperate to know how :o if beauty is a competition, I’m not winning! I don’t really use products etc. to win a beauty contest, but to feel good and look how I want to.

If someone needs advice on something like skincare, I like to tell them any 'gems' that might help. If it works for them that's great. I don't feel like it's a competition 🤔

Here's my secret, genetics!!!!

I have no beauty secrets.

I agree with you OP

Friend sounds like an arse

Plus honestly nothing is that good that it's going to make you substantially more or less attractive than someone else than you were already IMHO

Beauty is a competition?!
Your friend just sounds insecure tbh that she feels she has to compete with others' looks.

A competition?? Why are you even posting this nonsense??!

I suppose it's a bit like when you see a celebrity who's clearly had a lot of work done, botoxed to the max being interviewed. They nearly always claim it's down to being healthy and "drinking lots of water".

Does she mean men are a competition? I can’t wrap my head around that otherwise. There aren’t any beauty secrets that change what you look like that much.

Can't stand women who are competitive, its like being back in high school, they're more frenemies, and would push you under a bus so they can flutter their eyes at a bloke.

There are no beauty secrets anyway, beauty reviewers give everything away, which is great, saves me a fortune buying crap products. Then, new, better ones come along. Its the fun of it all.

Agree with the above. The 'I just drink water, sleep well and eat a clean diet to get this new lovely glow' brigade are fibbers; they've had work done. Harder to do in this day and age now though, what with social media recording our every move.

What a horrible way to behave. To what end too? I enjoy sharing tips with friends and I want my friends to feel wonderful about themselves, and rightly or wrongly sometimes that is borne out of how we look.

It sounds as if your friend has some issues of her own. Hopefully she will start to feel happier about herself and reverse that behaviour.

I think things that work tend to sneak out one way or another, there’s so much exposure for the beauty industry. Plus, genetics play the biggest card. So, I think it’s unlikely she’s holding onto any great panacea.

Glad to see I'm in the majority.

I do disagree though in that a product can absolutely change appearance for the better (Soolantra) or the worse (Paua's Choice 2% SA gave me forehead scars for well over a decade until I had them lasered). There are absolutely game changing products out there.

My friend wasn't talking about appearances in terms of attracting men at all I don't think. More like a scenario where she might meet up with old school or uni friends and there's an internal thought process of "who has fared the best" during the passage of time. So probably the word competition wasn't appropriate.

I was asked over a zoom meeting what my secret is, I have none. I'd just changed my top to a clean one that didn't need ironing, and put on a bit of mascara. I must have been having a rare good hair day, but she seemed disappointed. That was the first and only time anyone has said that to me. I then spent all day peeing at my reflection

Peering at myself, although my teenage son was certainly peeing himself laughing

This made me laugh. If I understand you correctly OP, I'm a bit like your friend, I like everyone to think I just naturally look this way

and there's an internal thought process of "who has fared the best" Er -whaaat?

So you're buying into this competition shit too. I genuinely don't think like this, and I doubt I'm alone.

No this is not my thought process - this was hers!
I don’t think like that at all - I’m usually just thrilled to see everyone and I find anyone my age always looks like the day I met them to me - it’s because my memory is inextricably linked to how I view them now - so we’re all still 18 despite that being 30 years ago