My skin - corpse like

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Hi,

My skin really from lockdown or so has taken a battering. But the time has come to try and look after it a bit more.

I use liz earle hot cloth cleanser, alpha h liquid gold & olay retinol moisturiser. Minimal makeup.

However the dark circles under my eyes are horrendous. My skin looks dull and corpse like and I think theres pigmentation?

I've had a really shitty time recently, and sleep has been hard to come by. I've upped my water intake. What else can I do? I feel like my gran has better skin at 91 than I do at 37!

Its that bad that I'm actually going to attach a picture - something I never ever ever do, as this is how desperate I am!

Thanks

Your skin isn't bad op! Sorry your not feeling great at the moment (sending a virtual hug) don't compare yourself to the things you see on Instagram, most of it is filtered and rubbish (exactly why I don't have it)

Definitely treat yourself to some you time, I like to have a hot bath with lavender bath salts , and have a good old pamper sesh! Get a nice face mask etc. Light a candle.

A vitamin c cream of some sort would give you a bit more of a glow? A colour corrector would work nicely under your eyes and perhaps Yves Saint Laurent Touche Eclat Illuminating Pen to lighten up around your eyes?

Exercise will help make you feel better and your skin.

Hope you feel better soon!

You need to take a photo with a super powerful ring light or with a proper photography light plus reflector thingy on the other side. That’s why people on insta etc look so great (plus filters) but also, I always have massive eye bags if I’ve been crying. Even small children get puffy eyes if they cry before going to sleep. Your skin doesn’t look so bad but if you want to make it glow try running or some home cardio (it doesn’t matter if you aren’t super fit, you just need to get to the point where you are red faced/sweaty and out of breath for a bit). My skin always looks better the day after I’ve done that.

Also in the meantime find something (in your wardrobe or the shop) that is in a color that suites you and that fits you and that you feel good in. It could be just a t-shirt. And wear that and wear lipstick and 😊 and I can guarantee you will look fab.

Oh bless you OP I'm sorry things have been so rough. I agree with others that your skin looks fine and you have a lovely mouth, but of course all these things are subjective and we often can't see them in ourselves.

If you've got money to throw at it, get thee toDermatica and get prescribed retinol. And get a GOOD Vitamin C treatment or serum ( ideally with more than 15% active ingredient). Nivea 50 sunscreen, drink plenty of water and take vits.

These are the things that really turned my skin texture around in under a month. A bit of fake tan really does work wonders as well.

Feeling low is awful and it can become a circle of putting yourself down, believing your own (lack of) hype and sinking lower.

For me, taking control of what I look like gives me the courage to face every day when I feel like shit. Others may find exercise or meditation do the same thing. The main thing is that you are kind to yourself.
Good luck x

I think you have lovely skin and great features, your issue is only with your eyes. What made a massive difference to mine was only washing my face with cold water, never putting how water on it and getting those cryo- sticks and putting them in the freezer.
Lots of water - also if you can lying on your back- a few pillows. I still end up on my side but it does make a difference if I manage a night lying on my back.

A glycolic toner will help to slough away dullness and a vitamin C serum.

Under eyes you need sleep and water.

I split with my partner at the beginning of this year and looked haggard for months.

Now I’m looking good I think.

I’m concentrating on repair from the inside out so priorities are sleep and water, iron, vitamin D3, a B complex vitamin (not Berocca which is full of crap including artificial sweeteners), vegetable fats and highly coloured fruit. Meat, fish, full fat dairy.

Also loads of aerobic exercise to up my circulation - I have a stationary bike in front of the telly. Looks ridiculous but as nobody is coming round at the moment so it doesn’t matter.

Have you been checked for PCOS? From what you've described it could be a shift in your hormones?

Also, get some walking in if you aren't already (to improve circulation and help you sleep) and eat for your skin. Lots of fruits and veg which will up your fluid intake too.

And wear sunscreen.

I think that you have got great skin!
When I’m feeling like this it’s always good to take some long walks. Walking can be very therapeutic, calms your inner turmoil and puts things into perspective. Working from the inside out! They don’t actually have to be long walks really, although short walks often turn into long rambles!
Also, I have seen a lot about the Revive collagen Skin care that you ingest in a little sachet, one a day. You can drink it straight from the sachet or mix with water.
However, I believe it’s quite expensive. All depends on your budget/ priorities.
Hope you start to feel better soon, that will reflect in your skins appearance.

Bless you, I had endo' - early menopause saw that off. I used Agnus castus and evening primrose oil (the liquid) it made a huge difference. Berocca is always my go to when feeling over tired- have just started using l'occitane reset for eyes, it's a serum and its flippin brilliant- bags gone! Laura Mercier tinted moisturiser is good,has a good spf too. Try not to be too hard on yourself, do something that makes YOU happy, no guilt either- that is often the best way to get you feeling and looking better. Take care.

Endo and heavy periods are exhausting, rob you of several days every month and really take a toll on your looks and wellbeing. I also suffer from endo and hormone related anxieties but I have things under control now thanks to the combined pill which I take for three months on the trot and then have have a weekly break before starting the cycle again. I'm pretty much pain free. I also take anxiety meds. I feel that to a larger degree I have my life back. I really think that you should treat your awful menstrual cycle and the rest will follow. Take care. 💐💐💐

Is it because I'm fat?
Is it because of my ovaries & endo?
Is it because I don't have a job right now?
Is it because I have a child?
Is it because I'm not smart enough?
Is it because I'm not attractive enough?
Is it because you're embarrassed of me of how I look? How I act?
Please tell me what it is that is wrong with me

It’s none of those things: it’s because he’s not the right man for you. That’s all.

As previously said: be nice to yourself, and avoid social media. Maybe try mindfulness- it helped me in a similar situation. And a lovely facial will make you feel a bit more kindly towards your skin. Hope you feel better soon. X

Erm.....your skin is fine op. I use Cerave lotion, it's been amazing for my skin, its affordable and easily available. Also as pp's have mentioned a tinted moisturiser , try the Nars creamy concealer, pop a bit of warmth on your cheeks and you'll be grand. Good food and try yogalates, I believe it's a very good self care exercise. Sometimes working up a big cardio sweat isn't right for everyone during stressful times.
In regards to the 'man-child'. You will be fine. When you get to our age and you deal with a freshly broken heart we forget we've had it broken before ( you may not have done). It's important to try and remember we got through it then when we never thought we would and we heal, move on and learn. Each time my heart's been broken it's been a learning curve. I've learnt a little bit more about myself and more about what I want and don't want next time round.
Big hugs, no one deserves to be treated the way you have and says everything about him that you need to know x

Your skin is fine.
But stop texting the disappearing bloke, it won’t help and you have a kid to look after, focus on them and working on getting yourself healthy, mentally.

And like the previous poster said, fun stuff.

Sorry you’re having a rough time, life is shit sometimes, but you have a child, you have to get yourself well so that their childhood is about them and not about you daily crying over a bloke.

Goodness me you've got lovely skin! Agree that significant loss of volume and sleep can have a dramatic effect though. My tip would be to HYDRATE YO SELF QUEEN!! Use a hydrating sheet mask (can be a cheap one!) every other day for a week and your skin will feel bouncy and lovely. And P.S that guy is most likely a prick.

Hi op I dont think your skin looks awful at all you just look a bit tired and if we all took photos close up with no make up I think many would look the same. I'm still learning about skincare to be honest in my 20s I did very little and just had good skin but that did start to change in my 30s. I've started to build a skincare routine and am using face theory products which work well for me. I use vitamin e cleanser, collagen booster serum and moisturiser with retinol daily then a retinol serum at night but to be honest I have joined the free trial of dermatica to get stronger retinol as my forehead has lines. Twice weekly I use a glycolic scrub and a night time face mask. My skin feels better and its brighter but I would never go out bare faced as I need makeup. If you dont really use make up I would suggest getting your brows and lashes tinted, tinted lip balm and a gradual tan moisturiser. I have low iron aswell so am taking iron tablets, vitamin c and vitamin d aswell as evening primrose oil and trying to drink lots of water aswell. I think I am seeing positive changes I amso changed my foundation from a matte one as felt it showed up every little line. I think as we get older it takes much more effort to look how we want to and if you have generally not had to make much effort to look the way you want I think it comes as a bit of a shock when you have to start.

You need to treat yourself as you would a friend. Look at your CLEAR skin, full lips, lovely face shape. There’s nothing wrong with you except stress and tiredness. Try taking a multivitamin, some gentle excercise, going for a long walk if you’re struggling to sleep. Plenty of water, fresh fruit and veg, oily fish and lean meat. You look amazing and sound lovely!

Beauty pie has excellent products that won't break the bank and allow you to try a few things to find something that works for you. The retinol range there is excellent.

Have you had your thyroid checked? Also I 've suffered from insomnia for nearly 3 years (nasty separation/divorce) and can have a sleepless night even after taking diazepam. I' ve started taking melatonin capsules 1/night and it's really made a difference.

OP, if you can, try Zoe's skin cream avocado and aloe cream. I'm not a plug, but I know her gold cream worked for me and my skin. But I'd say that you do need to get out and go walking, drink some water, and ask your child for the odd hug when you need it.

You do have good skin. It's fairly unblemished, and you have great lips. I'm sure your smile is lovely!

Poor you it does sound like you are going through a tough time. I agree with others you look like you have good skin and you have beautiful full lips. I think the eyes are definitely down to what you are going through at this time.

Please do try to be kind to yourself, tell that negative voice to piss off, really do keep a check on that. Be the watcher rather than the narrator. Also try to stop looking at Instagram.

Meditation is great and breathing techniques, healthy diet and exercise is one of the best things to calm the mind.

Bakuchoil is a great skin product, plant based and having the same results as retinol without any harsh side effects.

Above all be kind to yourself and remember this time will pass.

Sending love 💕

I really dont think your skin looks bad at all. It's more difficult when you have really pale skin as the slightest change is highly visible. Try the ordinarys zinc cream

I think your skin looks pretty good!

Maybe spend more time out in the fresh air?

And no, he won't have buggered off because of anything you've done. Maybe it's just that your personality doesn't suit his and he's just not 'feeling it'. Nothing you've done, just one of those things. Another good reason to get out in the fresh air and enjoy some sunshine.

Get out walking in the fresh air and sunshine as much as possible. Also eat healthily and drinks lots of water