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Looking polished on a low income. How?

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ghostmous3 · 20/08/2020 08:53

I read with interest the thread on looking wealthy and polished and i dont think it's something I'll ever be able to achieve on minimum wage 🤣

Is it however something you can achieve on a much lower wage. I dont particularly want to look wealthy so much just polished and as I can only afford to shop high street and I'm really thinking primark, TU, Asda sainsbos new look and the like.

I'm 43 now and after all my life being obese and in horrible relationships I'm finally down to my target weight of 11.5 stone and I'm five foot 7 and I also look after my eyebrows these days, something i never did. You could see my eyebrows coming round the corner first they were that bushy 😄

My hair is home dyed, it's very dark purple and its boob length and I love it but it does need a cut I think.

So is it possible to look half decent and polished on a low income and wearing stuff from the high street?

OP posts:
Notredamn · 21/08/2020 09:05

You've had some great advice, I can't top it. But. Dark purple hair can look many things: creative, flattering to your eye colour, colourful, quirky, exuberant, healthy and shiny....but not polished. Well not 'polished' in the look that you're aiming for. I think changing your hair colour to a natural tone could be the single most drastic change you could make towards looking generally 'polished' and expensive-looking.

ghostmous3 · 21/08/2020 09:18

I like my purple hair 😭

Its not in your face purple, it's very dark with a hint in the sunlight but I do get your point though. I did go blonde and it didnt suit im every very pale.

I dont think I'm going to look very polished anyway as I have arm tattoos and on my shoulder too but will never regret these.

I think as long as everywhere else is looking good such as my nails, eyebrows and clothes and my hair has a good cut I think I will be happy. I just wish you all could see what mess i was a few years back.

Thanks everyone, your advice has been superb

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PerditaProvokesEnmity · 21/08/2020 09:28

Purple hair with a very "polished" style should look magnificent! I'm imagining you striding into court or giving a speech at the UN ...

Just get out of the habit of thinking you can only or must shop on your local high street. As this thread indicates, there are so many other options.

linmanuel · 21/08/2020 09:31

I also think the polished thing is avoiding things that are too man made. So cotton linen cashmere (so often second hand quantity stuff better than cheap to begin with super market )

PerditaProvokesEnmity · 21/08/2020 09:32

(This is assuming both hair colour and hair cut are scrupulously well executed - which I acknowledge might be challenging on a very limited budget.)

IVORNOIDEA · 21/08/2020 09:45

Agree re hair colour.

sweetbirdofjuice · 21/08/2020 10:02

wow, well done on your weight loss!!

I would suggest really taking care of your skin, superdrug vitamin E or (can't remember the name but the green range) is very good. hot cloth cleansing is a game changer homemade masks with yogurt, oats, a bit of vitamin c powder or tea tree oil depending on your skin type are as effective as expensive ones and make sure to exfoliate regularly so makeup goes on smoothly.

hair, the purple would be in keeping with your tattoos for a slightly alt- look and could look great but it seems to wash out quite quickly (I've had it myself) so I would either upkeep the colour very regularly or dye it back to your natural colour and invest in a great cut instead. mobile hairdressers are usually cheaper than a salon and often very experienced.

I am all about charity shops and ebay for clothes plus depop but only ever buy things in natural fibres at least one price point above what I would normally buy full price. go to posh areas and target hospice shops is my tip! tkmaxx in posh areas or city centres tend to have better pickings than out of town ones too. Don't buy a fake designer or fake leather bag. Charity shops will start having great coats soon, well worth a dig through as a smart coat is really key.

for jewellery, work out what metal goes with your skin tone, silver or platinum looks crap on me so I only do yellow gold.

I think it really helps if you know what necklines work on you, the rest falls into place a lot easier. i can't do anything too high or round or my shoulders look a mile wide.

Lastly, I'm a funny shape too and long in the body. learning some basics of tailoring (just taking up, letting down, putting a dart in) really helps make clothes fit better.

sweetbirdofjuice · 21/08/2020 10:15

and primark nail polish is as good as any I've found, no7 and essie too but it all chips. buffing or a 'nude' colour are easier than brights to maintain

sunglassesonthetable · 21/08/2020 10:23

Well done you OP.

My thoughts on looking polished are

Make sure you have good ( clean, smart, in good nick, a style you like ) Invest your money there.

Hair
Shoes
Coat

You can wing the rest. By wing I mean it doesn't have to be expensive.

But it fits
presentable not tatty or faded etc.No pet hairs.
Suits you.
Easier to avoid patterns but if you love it wear it.
Lots of great stuff 2nd hand. Ebay. Chase brands you like.

Think about clothes in 'outfits'. So you don't end up with a bunch of stuff that doesn't go together. ie nothing to wear those new boots with.

Think - what would I wear to work, to a party, for a walk, to a funeral, to coffee out at the weekend, out to dinner? And fill those gaps in your wardrobe.

Find the colours that suit you. Stand up straight. Do your nails. Cut short and clean if you don't want faff. Hand cream.

Cleanse and moisture your skin. Doing it everyday is the most important thing. Products in every price range.

You don't need much makeup. But it does add polish and your face loses colour as you age.
Bit of lippy. Bit of blush.
Eyebrows. Get them sorted.

Clean teeth. Obvious I know but important!

Earrings if you wear them. Avoid trashy ones unless you're really confident of your style. Better to have 1 simple gold/silver/stone pair until you know where you're at. Remember they're right by your face.

Smile.

sunglassesonthetable · 21/08/2020 10:26

I'm sure your dark purple hair looks lovely OP!

Particularly as you like it so much it will make you feel great. You can look polished within any style. Go for it.

Notredamn · 21/08/2020 10:41

Sorry OP, I was complimentary about your hair. I was just being honest about the question asked. I also have arm tattoos Grin- and dyed red hair)

shepherdessbush · 21/08/2020 11:00

This is quite random but my hands were looking incredibly old and camel's feet-esque and I epilated them and my fingers, which had fair but an increasing amount of hair. I can't believe the difference it has made, they look much more polished and younger now.

Lexilooo · 21/08/2020 11:03

My suggestion would be to learn to sew. Not necessarily to make clothes but to repair and alter.

Having a skirt or trousers the exact right length makes a huge difference to your look and hand sewing a hem is easy peasy.

Changing the buttons on a top or coat can transform the look and enable an expensive but out dated item to be updated. Really easy to do too.

Being able to take in a side seam or dart will mean that cheaper items fit and look loads better too.

As you get more experienced you will be able to make more significant alterations or even make whole new items. Have a watch of the sewing bee on the iplayer for inspiration.

Sasuma · 21/08/2020 11:15

I’d definitely recommend eBay, or good quality charity shops (some are much better than others - and in more affluent areas you tend to get better quality donations) over the budget shops and supermarkets. I think some of the items linked to by PPs do look cheap to me, I’m afraid - like those boots. Supermarket and cheap clothes may look ok but they don’t look great - acceptable but generally not amazing. Although I’m sure there will be the odd gem out there. I think the problem is we are so used to seeing cheap, poorly made clothes in crap materials that we think it looks fine. When you compare it to better quality stuff you can see it looks rubbish.

Fluffycloudland77 · 21/08/2020 11:32

There are outlet stores too, places like Bicester if you hit them at the right time.

Jeans, coats, jackets & shoes need to be good quality but I think you can get away with cheaper tops. Google Zara’s stretch wide strap top, I wear it under leather jackets & blazers and it always looks good.

foxtiger · 21/08/2020 11:35

I love charity shops and agree they can be a great way to get better clothes than you could normally afford. Just beware of buying everything you like just because it's a bargain, because my second tip is:

Pick a few colours you love wearing and try to buy mainly those colours (you could possibly make an exception for dresses that don't need anything else with them). That way, everything you wear will work well with everything else. The most stylish person I know only ever wears black, white/cream, light brown and red.

Natural fibres are good, and man-made fibres that look natural (such as viscose) are better than those that look very shiny (those would probably make you hot anyway). Even Primark often have linen-mix trousers that look good for a year or two.

In my opinion the most versatile top of all is a plain black cotton scoop-neck t-shirt with 3/4 length sleeves. Every shop does them. Primark and Peacocks do them on a budget (Peacocks are slightly better quality) but M&S usually do a slightly higher end version. There's probably no need to go any posher than that as they all fade after a couple of years of hard wear anyway.

Leather shoes (if you're not ideologically opposed to them) are best because you can polish them so any minor scuffs don't ruin your look. Get them in the sales or maybe charity shops (I've lucked out a few times!)

Someone above said if you can't afford a leather bag get something completely different. I think there is a lot to be said for that idea. Thick canvas (slightly slubby textured) can look good and you can always have your belongings in a carrier bag inside it on very wet days. The person I mentioned above was a big fan of taupe bags. I tried it and I think she was right - they do seem to look good with everything. Tan or silver/gunmetal can too. In summer you can often get quite stylish looking wicker bags for as little as £10 from places like Primark and H&M. I like attaching a scarf or a fabric flower to mine to tie it in with the colours I'm wearing.

Clean, healthy-looking hair - it doesn't have to be blow-dried into submission, thick curly hair can look classy as long as it's in good condition.

If you wear glasses, I think brown tortoiseshell is the most "go with everything" style and there is usually at least one pair in that colour in the cheaper ranges. The same is probably true for sunglasses too.

It is said that fake silver always looks more realistic than fake gold. (I hate the colour gold anyway, but if you like both, that tip might be useful.) Jewellery made of natural materials such as wood, leather and shell often looks classy and doesn't cost a fortune. For everything else (details on bags, shoes etc), the less shiny metal there is on something, the better.

One thing that I think is always going to look cheap even if they're actually really expensive is those ankle grazer jeans that are unfinished at the bottom. I'd always rather have longer ones and roll them up a few cm, I think. Holey jeans sometimes look OK but they have to be a great fit and preferably actually be so old that they have worn into holes naturally (designer holes tend to be in places where nobody's jeans would just wear out!). If you can find some that suit you, non-stretch jeans have the advantage of not getting saggy or kind of "ripply" as they get older and lose their elasticity.

I think some kinds of hats add a lot of classic style without breaking the bank - a straw panama in summer, a beret or trilby in winter.

formerbabe · 21/08/2020 11:38

Plain clothes, simple shapes in neutral colours.

No cold shoulder tops or slogans or neon colours!

Fluffycloudland77 · 21/08/2020 11:45

There’s a french make of tote bag that apparently a lot of women on the metro carry but I cannot for the life of me think what it’s called. Longchamp or something?.

Good underwear is a must. For the love of god check what your bum looks like before you go out & use the boob or bust method for bras. I’m fed up with seeing women with their boobs round their waists & their back straps up to their necks.

Fluffycloudland77 · 21/08/2020 11:48

Longchamp Le Pilage. That’s the bag all the french women use from what I’ve heard.

formerbabe · 21/08/2020 11:51

Yes Longchamp, I have that bag...it's very understated and classy.

slipperyeel · 21/08/2020 12:14

Lots of French women carry a Vanessa Bruno cabas but still €200 it’s not cheap!
I’m sure you could get similar for less.

www.vanessabruno.com/fiche_produit

PerditaProvokesEnmity · 21/08/2020 16:14

Porter magazine promotes the sort of flawlessly polished look you may be aspiring to. Helpfully available to gaze at on Instagram without spending a cent.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 21/08/2020 17:01

Yes to changing buttons . How many "quite nice" clothes have crappy cheap plastic buttons ?
I've gone into John Lewis or our local indooor market haberdashery stall and found some lovely ones to replace the rubbish ones .
Tip - always buy a spare !
And as good a thread match as possible .

I don't wear leather, silk, feather/down so it's tricky sometimes searching things out .

M&S is my Go-To for shoes .
Kipling bags -not stylish but so practical .

I don't wear nail polish (not allowed to at work) so I have a buffer that I use when I think my nails are looking tatty .

PerditaProvokesEnmity · 21/08/2020 17:33

It is trickier, now, to uncover a reliably polished look when one can't rely on smart tailoring and a Manolo Blahnik court shoe - for fear of looking hopelessly stuffy and out-dated. I have zero skills when it comes to athleisure - which really needs the full hair, brows, gel nails finishing to look deliberate.

In the past I would have pointed out that well dressed people generally made use of a wider variety of fabrics: silk, velvet, tweed, camel hair - rather than just fleece, stretch denim and thin jersey - but, of course, now everyone thinks exercise clothes are clothes ...

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