Following on from "Do you think you are attractive?" can we please share some tips....

[LilRedWG]

It's sad how many people on the thread think that they are unattractive. I don't want to feel fat and frumpy and my family have made me feel even worse.

THIS NEEDS TO CHANGE!

How can we feel good about ourselves? If you have any tips, absolutely anything that has made you feel better about yourself, then please share here!

I'm very sensitive to pain with very thick dark hair...

Waxing has me climbing the walls, dont mind doing it on others tho

I had threading done once. By the famous shavata singh. It didn't hurt. But I had bright red patched under my eyebrows for nearly 2 days.
I went up to London and had it done first thing in the morning. Then spent the rest of the day shopping. Couldn't work out why people were sniggering. Then, I saw myself in a mirror.........

you must have had a cluster of sensitive follicles.

My friend is very pale and I encouraged her to have eyebrows waxed - her brows went purple! I wouldnt let her see a mirror and kept assuring her she looked fine and to ignore funny looks from passers-by

LilRed i'am livid on your behalf! how dare your family say that to you. You sound like you are a healthy weight for your height and must be about a size 10-12 if i'm guessing corectly which certainly is'nt big!

Women are so tough and critical of both themselves and each other,its so sad. Personally i've realised that you can't please all of the people all of the time. Some of my friends think i have a gorgeous figure, my mum and mother in law tell me if i loose any more weight i'll be too slim, other friends remark that i'm porky!

Just look after yourself, spend a little bit more me time, and yes i do agree that you can usually tell if someone has a good sex life, they have a certain 'glow'!

As you walk down the street, sing to yourself:
I'm too sexy for my shirt
So sexy that it hurts
etc

Actually, haven't done that for ages. Will give it a go.....

al these 'good bra' tips...

are they only relevent to the more well endowed lades? or is it worth me going to get a 'good' bra or two even with my measley A cups? (possibly less, now they sag too - nice!)

do 'good' bras o anything for the fried eggs of the world?

everyone needs good bra, regardless of size

differnce will be just as dramatic on teeny norks as on whoppers

also chicken fillets

hmmmm... maybeyoure right...

so nxt question, would a big M&S do the job (in southampton) or should i take the time to trek up to london and do riby and peller or something?

Good toenails.
I'm always barefoot in the house, and when I catch a glimpse of my fabulous feet I feel good.
And a nice face moisteriser in the mornings.
Glad I dont have a brother.

Oh yes I have a couple of fried eggs that without a proper bra just go down and outwards - they kind of end up under my armpits. I find a balcony-style bra works best to lift them up and make a good shape (full cup kind of squashes them at the top, and makes them a pointy triangle shape).

M&S do good fitting service and so does Debenhams.

I got one of these bras recently and it's great - and not expensive.

mascara, lipgloss, perfume, painted fingers & toes.
try to get out for a quick run/walk by yourself every day. it clears your head and good for the figure.
good eyebrows. shave legs & armpits in the shower every day. body moisturiser.
dont spend the day in trackies

some nice highish heels make you lose about a stone

I've given up with my body so I'm basically accessorising with Pretty Things instead

Thanks for the sympathy and fantastic tips ladies.

hats true actually mp... now where was that thread where someone (cod? pph?) recommendeda good foot surgeon to fix me up..? (goes off to search)

hey, thanks for the thread lilred, its been an inspiration to me too

waaaahhhhh. i cant find it

Depending on your hairstyle and how often you wash it, use hair straighteners on the days you dont wash it to keep it in shape.

Also, as previously said, eyebrows threaded, lashes tinted, some MAC eyeshadow, decent bra and nice shoes should do the trick.

I like wearing big funky necklaces. It makes me feel like I look groovy instead of sad middle aged bag and it takes 2.4 secs to do

Flirting and having someone flirt with you also works wonders

It's a bit Ally McBeal-ish, but have a song in your head that makes you feel good, and sing it to yourself.

Smile and lots of eye contact, nodding, mirroring of other people's body language. Flirting's fab and is a dead cert to make you feel attractive.

Bit of make up and wearing something you feel good in.

I always feel tons more attractive after going to the hairdressers.

get a pedicure! manicure too but this ones not for me cos i bite my nails.

oh and use one of those tanning moisturisers to give you a bit of colour. i always feel i look better when i come back off holiday and tend to not wear much make up for a while.

Listen, just listen.

I believe good conversation skills can make you very attractive.

I don't think I'm pretty, I never was and will never be. But, if I have always thought that the 4 proposals I had were due to be able to listen.

I had a phase of feeling super attractive, it was when I was with my first lover, I was 27 - 29ish and on top of the world. I used to get asked out in the street regularly.

In retrospect it was probably the leather trousers, thinness and crash helmet under my arm. Men like it if you can ride a bike...well a lot of them anyway. But mainly it was because I felt loved, I felt special, I knew I had something inside that made me very confident and secure. I was loved.

Sadly it didn't last. I had his child and he buggered off. Then I felt like sh*t. The next couple of boyfriends were both horrid...I still feel pretty ugly now.

As if my attractiveness was 'on loan'. I never felt I was pretty before those 2 years or since. I think a lot depends on how you feel inside and if you have someone telling you pretty often how nice you look.

I always wash my hair if I feel very bad about it all, that helps with the confidence. Plus a bit of simple pink blusher!