Help me tame my daughter’s hair! (With pics!)

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DD(13) has very frizzy hair and can’t manage it well. She wants to have lovely curls or waves and I feel this could be possible if I had a clue how to advise her!!

The rest of us in the family are all fine, straight, thin haired people...I blame her ginger haired granny!!

I’ve looked at the Curly Girl Method a couple of times but it all looks a bit complicated and confusing. I’ve bought a few mouses and frizz ease things but not much luck...

Any easy tips that might work?

And another for closer inspection...

Try Maui moisture shampoo and conditioner. I use the pink set but do check the type that's right for her hair. For wavy/ curly hair do condition well as dryness makes frizz.

Also use a wide tooth comb on her wavy hair , never a brush as it might make frizz worse.

I have crazy ginger hair and spent a lifetime trying to tame it.
TIPS-

• use silicone free shampoo/conditioner
• after washing it don’t towel dry use a t-shirt to pat dry and comb through with a wide tooth comb. Don’t put a brush near it.
• use a bit of almond oil (or other oil) through it.
• don’t brush. Just use fingers through it.

These things should massively help.

Good tips thank you. She’s been trying not to brush it but it’s looked worse than ever as a result. I think she probably hasn’t been very disciplined with the wide tooth comb j bought her🤔

For me, applying hair oil (l'oreal works best for me) while hair is still quite wet, combing through when wet, then leaving it to air dry is best. Don't brush or comb when dry, get her to tilt her head right over to each side and just scrunch her hair a bit instead.

Just to say I feel her pain. I've not cracked this yet and I've been struggling with it for decades!

Another thing I used to do was after washing my hair I'd do loads of little plaits all over it, then when completely dry (can blow dry) take the Fairbanks out and puff up hair. Basically crimping I guess but I loved it because although it was still big, frizzy hair, this way made it look like a deliberate pouffy style as opposed to just a girl with too much frizzy hair if that makes sense.

Have you looked into the curly girl method?
I do it with my DD and it's so much nicer!

100% don't brush it as she will end up with triangle hair!

Teenage Dd1 has very frizzy/wavy hair and we find the best thing to do is to touch it as little as possible, when it's wet use your fingers to move it rather that a comb or brush.

If it gets very tangled use an Afro comb to remove the knots. Also agree not to towel dry it but to try and pat it dry and then leave it to dry naturally.

Get a good lean on conditioner or hair milk, the palmers coconut spray is very good as is the olive oil shampoo.

Curls rock...work some in after shower, very easy!

Fairbanks?? Hair bands!

Where do you live? Maybe try to find a curly hair salon near you? I’ve been to Spring in Birmingham several times and although expensive you could just go once and they’d teach her everything she needs to know and give her a great cut.
Also, if you’re on Instagram or go on YouTube, there are loads of people who follow CG method and make videos of their washing and styling routine and what products they’re using.
From your photos, I think with the right care, her hair could be amazing!

It's dried out. Get her some cheap microfibre hair turbans (no towel drying!). Stop heat treatments of any kind. (Use the diffuser on low if you must.) Leave in conditioner after washing.

And do curly girl...

Please share an "after" photo! Would be lovely to see how gorgeous her hair can be.

'Tangle teeser' do a sort of detangling comb/brush thing thats specifically for thick curly hair. Use it when brushing the conditioner through wet hair.

Freezease do a good serum.

Both can be picked up in boots x

Try Cantu co-wash (curly girl approved as it’s conditioner that cleans your hair). Comb it with your fingers when wet and finger comb some Cantu curl activator creme. Then get her to turn her hair upside down and put it into a bin on top of her head to dry overnight. Or 2 French plaits to encourage the curls.

We are also a family of fine straight haired people with a curly ds. We went to a curly hair salon for “training” because it was a matted mess all the time. Curly hair specific shampoo and conditioner, leave in conditioner, only using a wide tooth comb (but mostly finger combing), reducing abrasion as much as possible (no rubbing with a towel, satin pillow case, no thin hair ties, etc.) has made a huge difference. Curly hair is very prone to getting dry, so moisture is key.

My daughter has the same hair type - she uses a silk pillowcase, always uses conditioner only and a wide tooth comb. Odd as it sounds she uses mane and tail on hers which is designed for horses (it can also be used on humans) - someone recommended it and it works a treat. We also used Argon oil. All that said she is a keen rugby player so the hard work is normally undone as it has a fine layer of mud all over it.

Cantu is great - I got it for my mixed-race son. Really moisturises the curls.

My hair is a bit like your daughter's (but shorter). It's not easy. But what works for me is extra moisturising products - I'm afraid to say I spend a lot on hair products as for me it makes a difference.

But I'd suggest maybe trying Mixed Chicks, Cantu or Dizziak - aimed at mixed hair & natural Afro hair too, but great for drier hair with a curl.

Definitely no brushing. If the curls look a bit dry / frizzy, dampen hands & run fingers through hair & leave to air dry. Also try a "curl reviver" type spray - it just adds moisture & a bit of conditioner.

After I wash & condition, I use a leave in product which keeps the hair smoother as it dries.

Oh - and at night, I rub my head so my hair can go really frizzy overnight. I use a silk turban, but you can maybe tie your daughter's hair up (when mine was longer, I would do a ponytail on top of my head & wind hair round it).

You either need to style it curly or blow dry it and straighten it !
Curly is easy , just wash , add some curl cream and diffuse .. or the opposite is to blow dry and straighten .. I have the same hair and you need to style it .

All of us have curly hair in my house.
Her hair looks dry to me my middle DD hair goes like that if she's done a rubbish job with the conditioner and then a half hearted brush.

I don't know if you know this but curly hair the cuticle doesn't lie flat meaning it loses mouisture more easily and absorbs it in humid environments.
So you have to find ways to counteract that.

I would recommend the LOC method or variations of it it stand for Liquid, Oil, Cream although I use gel for the cream part.

Get a sulphate free shampoo, then use tons of conditioner we are using herbal essences in the purple bottle. Comb through whilst conditioner is in then rinse out.

Whilst her hair is damp put more conditioner in it. Next put a drop of oil in it (cheap argun oil is fine).
Finally put some gel in and scrunch it a little, my favourite is this one it feels very sticky but dries brilliantly.

When she sleeps get her to put it in a high ponytail as it prevents rubbing and tangles.

Curly girl method.

My daughters have very curly hair and it can be tamed in to beautiful curls with just conditioner and some gel.

We wash the hair in conditioner only (silicone free Sainsbury's own Apple conditioner) and leave loads as a leave-in.

Only brush it when it's wet too.

Oh and check out the tutorials on here www.trepadora.com/pages/tutorials

You can try curly girl quite cheaply. Do a clarifying wash with Superdrug My Little Star baby shampoo (99p) to get rid of silicones, then use loads of XHC Ginger conditioner (£1, Poundland) and comb it through with a wide-toothed comb before rinsing. Pat dry with a T-shirt or microfibre towel. While it's still quite wet, take a large-pea-sized amount of Boots Curl Creme (£1.99) and rub it in your palms then finger-comb it through the hair. Add three or four golf-ball sized lumps of Pantene Pro-V Defined Curls Mousse Level 5 (£2.99, Boots). Now, cup a hand under the ends of the hair and bring it up towards the scalp, closing fingers as you do so. This encourages the hair to take up its natural curls. Dry with a diffuser if you have one.

She should see some waves or curls. The mousse will dry quite firm - it's called a cast. Tell her not to comb it out but to scrunch it with her hands.

She won't need to shampoo often after the first one, but she can use the XHC conditioner to wash her hair instead. Wet hair, take a huge handful of conditioner and work it gently into the scalp then down to the ends. It cleans perfectly well, even in hot weather.

If she wants to try other products there's a spreadsheet here and a Reddit group here, both listing products available in the UK. If you're anywhere near Wakefield she can have some of my curl creme and mousse to try, and I have some gel that's too heavy for my hair but might suit hers.

If she gets into it there are about a millionty other products to try but the ones above are fine as a start.

Gel not mouse and no serum

Sulphate and silicone free products (we like cantu in our house)

High ponytail rolled into a bun for sleeping (literally on top of the head)

Brushes, including tangle teasers, should be nowhere near her hair