Looking old beyond her years

[Toooldat19]

NC for this as I am looking for advice for Dd.

Dd is only 19 but looks a lot older.

Everyone she meets thinks she is nearer 35.

She has always looked older.

Even as a 6 month old, facially she looked like she was ready for school.
Since leaving school she now looks at least 10 years older than her classmates.

It is giving her a complex and she is now worried that at 22 she could end up looking like a 45 year old.

She doesn’t smoke or drink

Is there anything that makes you look younger. She doesn’t have any wrinkles she just looks like a well preserved woman in her mid 30s

I never looked considerably older than my age, but from 14 I could buy alcohol & cigarettes with no bother. I’m now in my 30’s and people often think I’m 10 years younger - I have Botox which helps! but looking at photos of me in my teens I genuinely don’t look much different. So she might have the last laugh!

Tell her to sit back with some popcorn and enjoy how this thread unfolds.

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Does she go to the tanning studio?

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Maybe shes got that aging medical condition...

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Like Benjamin Button?

Coincidental timing - I saw a girl with her mum and younger sister yesterday, who had the face of a grown woman, somehow. It perhaps was bone structure as a previous poster suggested.

So I know what you’re getting at, but tbh the summary of a couple of older blokes trying it on and whatever else that poster said (this is what happens when one is quite a way from 19) is probably the best thing to say to her.

...and now I come to think of it, one of the baby boys from our antenatal group looked about 2 at our first get together - I think he would’ve been 6 months old at most at the time.

Old men regularly crack on to younger women (including teenagers and school girls) if they genuinely thought she was mid-30's they wouldn't bother!

Aside to this, is she a manger in a clothes shop/restaurant?
She the way she dresses, carries herself, takes herself seriously 'age' her?
Some teenagers who act very grown-up do look older than their years - look at any whole class photos (I used to be a teacher) their are always a couple of kids who look like mini - middle aged people. When their parents come in for parents evenings I can see where they get it from!

Sorry for all the typos - I'm not a teacher anymore don't worry!

She won’t appreciate it now but I bet my bottom dollar she will look 35 when she is 45, I always thought Tess Daly looked older than her years, not in a wrinkled had too much sun kind of way but just ‘mature’, now she is 50 I think she looks hell of a lot younger and would only put her early 40’s at most.

We really need a picture. You could even blur the eyes out.

All our family were/ are the same.

Interestingly all the children have/had head circumferences around the 4th centile.

This means that as children the proportions can appear very adult as adult heads are smaller in proportion to the torso. A child's head usually is much bigger.

I recall being in a riding school when I was just 12 years old and another (adult) rider struck up conversation. Before I could answer was asking me which university I'd studied at and how far along in my career I was!
I looked much older that I was, obviously in my 20's!

It'll all even out. I think personality and mannerisms have a lot to do with it.

Posted too soon.

Growing up people used to think I was older than I was I used to get people coming up to me in shops when I was a child, thinking I worked there. I wasn't tall or anything - I just didn't have the mannerisms of a child.

I am now in my late 50's and don't have any wrinkles whatsoever

There isn't anything which will make her look younger. If there was, we'd all be using it !

If she's always looked older, she'll continue to look older . And with her job, personality etc it's all a package which makes people perceive her as older.

I'd suggest maybe going to the hairdresser and making sure her hairstyle is "young", since hair can make a difference . Otherwise I'm afraid she'll just have to live with it.

Really it will stand her in good stead in her career!