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How important is how you look to you

68 replies

sayalittlerayer · 11/07/2019 14:27

(Sorry originally posted in chat then realised I should of come here)

Body, hair, makeup, clothes, etc etc etc.
What's important to you and what's not important and why?
Approaching 45 and trying to suss out a balance and looking at reasons as to what makes me feel good/not so good, I think I dress quite youngish for my age. I like to look nice but realise a more mature, demure approach is on the horizo

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Soola · 11/07/2019 14:29

Very. I will never let myself go unless I am too ill. And then I’ll probably pay someone to tart me up!

Nesssie · 11/07/2019 14:38

Very. But its also about confidence. I'm not stunning looking by any means but people always call me pretty because I act very confident.

Find a style that works, find a basic makeup routine and hairstyle that work and you are good to go.

I feel good when I look good.

AuntieMarys · 11/07/2019 14:41

Very. Nearly 60. I work hard to keep healthy and like to look groomed. No heavy makeup ...but it gives me confidence.

elQuintoConyo · 11/07/2019 14:56

As long and I'm clean, don't smell, and I have brushed my hair, all the rest is just gravy.

I'm ugly, I have always been ugly, lipstick-on-a-pig ugly.

The whole matching nails to toenails, capsule wardrobe, 3D eyebrows stuff totally passes me by.

If you don't like how I look, choose any of the other 359° to stare at Grin

swissmilk · 11/07/2019 15:14

@elQuintoConyo yes, but surely you look younger than your age? Everyone on MN looks younger than they actually are! Grin

championquartz · 11/07/2019 15:15

Very, to me too. Sometimes I wish I didn't care as it is work but I do. And I feel better when I look better.

But tell me, what's this more mature, demure approach is on the horizon business??

sayalittlerayer · 11/07/2019 15:44

Champion
Just a little more aware, just a little more sophistication, appropriate but still on trend

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EatenByDinosaurs · 11/07/2019 17:24

I like to look nice but realise a more mature, demure approach is on the horizo

Say what? That'll be a no thank you Grin. No offense OP but I truly hate the word appropriate used in this context. Its just another stick to beat women with.

I wear what I want and what I love, if anyone else has an issue with that, then that's their problem and I'm not about to go making it mine.

I do care very much about my appearance, its a hobby I guess, I live learning about skincare, ingredients etc and trying new things.

I love spending time on my skincare and beauty, I have a fairly hectic life and its my me time, and an oasis of calm in my day Smile

elQuintoConyo · 11/07/2019 20:16

Oh most definitely swissmilk

I'm 44yo but look positively foetal!

Goodnightchristopherrobin · 11/07/2019 21:01

Extremely, and I will always make it a priority.

AriadneesWeb · 11/07/2019 21:11

It used to be really important to me because I looked nice and it made me feel good. Then I had a baby and it ruined my body. My stomach is stretched out of shape and covered in stretch marks. I gained two stone and my body refuses to lose weight while I’m breastfeeding and getting no sleep. So no matter what I do, I don’t look nice now because my body is unattractive. There seems little point in making an effort when it’s doomed to failure.

Plus I’m constantly covered in yogurt and beans so I can’t wear nice clothes, just T-shirt and leggings that are easy to change 3-4 times a day. And I don’t have time to do my hair or put makeup on. Nor do I have the opportunity to go anywhere that people will see me and care what I look like. So I just don’t bother any more. People don’t treat me any differently which just proves that nobody cares what you look like anyway.

usernameee · 11/07/2019 21:12

My weight and how my body looks is always at the front of my mind, as much as I wish it wasn't

Lardlizard · 11/07/2019 22:27

Oddly becoming more important to me 🙄

OhioOhioOhio · 11/07/2019 22:31

Totally not much today.

JocastaJones · 11/07/2019 22:42

Not that important. I have a bit of an interest in clothes and try to dress reasonably fashionably but its definitely low effort. Personal grooming is minimal, mainly combatting the greys and the frizz. I try to be accepting of what I see in the mirror. It could always be worse.

MummyOfTwo92 · 11/07/2019 22:45

Not very important to me anymore after two kids.
It's very rare I will buy a new outfit, top or anything. In fact the last item I bought was a pair of cheap primark tracksuit bottoms for the end of my last pregnancy a year ago and I never wear make up anymore. Don't do much going out out actually no going out out.

I've also put on a lot of weight after losing it been on the depo.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 11/07/2019 22:52

Clothes, makeup, head hair, nails - very important. I have never been described as pretty, but am often told I am “striking”, and “attractive”. As a teenager I was really, really hurt when my mum said this to me! I have a fairly distinct style, and am happy to invest time and money in it.

Body hair I maintain in summer, am less interested in autumn/winter. I am dark haired, and a bit of a monkey, so find it extremely boring. If I am wearing 100 denier opaques, I generally have a bit of a pelt going on.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 11/07/2019 22:58

Extremely important, but it’s getting so much harder now I’m 50, my ‘effortless’ look takes a lot longer these days, I have to diet and exercise more than ever before just to maintain, and sometimes I wish I just didn’t give a shit, life would be so much easier in a way, but I know I would be utterly miserable if I got fat and frumpy so I keep slogging away, I don’t think I will ever change, it’s ingrained in my DNA.

Ellapaella · 11/07/2019 23:04

Body and clothes very important to me. I like to stay in shape - being active and healthy makes me feel so much better both physically and psychologically. I like nice clothes and like to feel happy with what I'm wearing. Eating well and exercising are the two most important things for me.
Hair - have it done two or three times a year, colour mainly not too bothered about it otherwise as I just wear it up on a messy bun virtually everyday.
Nails - I just keep them short and clean. Don't do manicures or anything like that as I'm a nurse so couldn't have false nails on for work.

managedmis · 12/07/2019 01:57

Mega important to be honest.

Always done up for work - showed, hair, makeup, heels, a dress or skirt, or skinny jeans and a fancy silk shirt.

Weight is a huge thing for me, I look like a different person when I'm slim, which in turn means there's a fabulous range of clothes available to me!

Diet is also important - I'm interested in nutrition and how it effects the way I feel, my weight, skin etc. I like to eat loads of veg, no sugar, good meat etc.

Makeup I'm not overly fussed about - I do the basics but that's it. Foundation, mascara, liner, bit of powder.

Fingernails are sometimes painted, but I always have a pedicure every month.

Last summer I was into fake tan but I've got out of the habit of it, need to get back into that.

Skincare is simple : clinique soap, nivea blue pot, micellar water to remove make up.

My hair is mega simple - cut once a year and still no greys - I keep touching wood on that one....

Shelbybear · 12/07/2019 10:19

I'm not sure actually, maybe fairly important. If I'm going for a night out it's very important. If I'm going to work then not as much. I would much rather sleep more than get up early to get all glammed up.

I do wear make up everyday unless I'm staying in but usually just enough to get me out the door and I know I cld look better with some extra time. I spend less time now that I have kids, usually as she's in the make up bag trying to use it all 🙈

I sometimes wish I cld be bothered more as I do like to look nice. Once my make up is on it doesn't get touched again or my hair where as I know the more polished looking ppl at work are always in the toilet reapplying make up and brushing their hair etc.

I like to buy new clothes regularly. I don't get my hair done often but it is long so I get away with it. I don't really go for beauty treatments, maybe get my eyelashes done for going on holiday and very rarely get my nails done. I just find it too expensive.

My body is probably the most important to me. I've always been very slim but curvy and loved my figure. After my daughter I was about 9lb heavier, most ppl wouldn't have noticed but I did and I hated it. I got the excess weight off after a few weeks in the gym.

tierraJ · 12/07/2019 11:09

Very important as I'm looking for a boyfriend.

Ivegotthree · 12/07/2019 11:10

Very. Self respect is absolutely vital.

I find fashion boring and would never read Vogue but I like to look nice and spend money on clothes for both work and home.

Floisme · 12/07/2019 11:21

It's mainly about the clothes for me. For the most part I'm more philosophical about my face - well ok I have my moments but, if I had to choose between face and body, I would choose body every time because I love my clothes and I want to be able to wear them for as long as possible. I can't see that changing whereas I'm less interested in make up and grooming with every passing year.

BarrenFieldofFucks · 12/07/2019 12:05

Mixed bag here. I like to feel good about how I look, but that is very subjective. I am overweight at a 16/18, but at nearly 5'9" it is only really obvious on my tummy. I've had a battle with food since my mid teens so am working on just accepting who I am. I battle a little between wearing what I like and feel good in, and wearing what is most flattering for my size. Am feeling quite confident at the moment so flattering is taking second place.

I feel pretty crap when my hair is shoddy or my skin is bad though. I try to take care of both of them and tend to look well put together.

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