Dress for wedding, is it too cream? And what shoes?

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I'm pregnant but not maternity clothes pregnant yet, but been struggling to find a dress. Have a 7 month old Ds too who is breastfed.

Tried this on in oasis and it fits my slight baby bump and I can feed Ds in it and it's not too expensive, seen as it's not my usual style/size don't want to spend a fortune.
But it's cream and I know it's got the flowers on but it looks really cream on. Plus I don't know what shoes to wear, don't want killer heels but feel it really needs them. Was thinking of one of the colours in the flowers but ideally a wedge style so can still have the height but some comfort.

So for one is it ok to wear as a wedding guest? If so any suggestions on shoes, accessories? If not any suggestions on dresses?

I wouldn't wear a jacket or wrap or anything with it though, it's got long sleeves so don't think anything over would go or I'll need it. Was thinking bright shoes and bag though.
I think the flowers look a little brighter in real life too.

I'm open to any other suggestions though, not to expensive, ok to feed in and loose enough to accommodate a small bump. No maternity dresses though.

It's a really pretty floral dress, and it's practical for you too. I think it's lovely and I have no idea what some pps are banging on about. Its ideal for a wedding. I like both of your shoe options.

I think its a lovely dress and think it will look really nice with the pink shoes.

I am not sure if it is just because i don't live in the UK, but I do not understand why people are saying not to wear this to a wedding. It looks nothing like a wedding dress, as it is implied that you are trying to outshine the bride i think.

Do people honestly not wear anything light coloured to weddings in case the bride doesn't approve? My aunt wore white to my wedding an I didn't bat an eyelid. (that was more than 20 years ago and I have been divorced since and i have only thought about it now for the first time ) I thought the general rule was to never wear anything black.

I love the dress OP, more so than the Boden ones.

It's lovely. In no way does it compete with a traditional wedding dress, only enormously self-centred people would think it's the same thing. It's summery and appropriate.

The dress is lovely and nobody will mistake you for the bride in that. I’d say go for it, it’s summery, it’s suitable for your bum and it’s pretty.

Another vote for definitely not.
If you’re doubting it enough to come on here and ask why would you risk it. There will be something out there...

I think it's fab for a wedding guest. I wouldn't bat an eyelid at someone wearing that to either my own wedding or one where I was a guest (except maybe to ask where they got it so I could get one too ) Honestly any wedding guest who judges you for wearing it needs to unclench and just enjoy the day. It's such a non-issue.

I went to a wedding in Poland and one young woman wore a white kneelength summery cotton dress and just tied a bronze ribbon around her waist basically, also matched it with hair ribbon and shoes in other colour. Nobody batted an eyelid, of course. She broke the white and that's all you need to do. She looked nothing like a bride. The only rule is to stay away from pure white as that's considered the bride's prerogative (these days anyway) and all-black, as that is a sign of mourning (but then it really must be all black).

It's a beautiful dress. I don't think it's too cream. As others have said, you're not going to wear it with a veil and a bouquet (or are you...?) I'd go for it.

It's lovely and completely fine to wear to a wedding! Honestly people are nuts.

It doesn't look anything like a wedding dredd it would be fine to wear to a wedding. I don't see any problem with the background being cream

The issue isn't that it looks bridal and there could be 'confusion', wearing white/cream is the privilege of the bride on the day.

When I got married someone wore cream and it stands out in photos, I always think 'couldn't you have just picked ANY other colour and given me one day'

Personally I wouldn't wear it as I know people would be talking about my choice all day and even if the bride was fine with it, I'd still be paranoid that she was just being nice and that other people will still be judging me all day and it just wouldn't be worth it to feel so uncomfortable. If I was the bride then personally I'd be a bit miffed if someone wore that much cream, but that will vary person to person.
Maybe just get the dress and wear it on another occasion where you won't feel self conscious about your choice, and wear something else to the wedding even if it isn't perfect.

It's a lovely dress, and would be perfect for a summer wedding. It doesn't look cream to me, it looks floral with a cream background.

I just want to echo the very many sensible people on this thread who have already said IT'S PERFECT for a wedding! Bright shoes (those pink wedges are lovely) and accessories and you'll look gorgeous and feel comfortable all day. Congrats on your pregnancy, hope you enjoy the wedding

Do people really sit there judging clothes Miffymeow? I may be surprised by a large amount of bare flesh, baffled by the ability to see when people wear big hats or amazed by the hight of some heals but judging a pretty flowery dress, not in a million years. There's normally enough family news to catch up on and the dodgy chicken to critique. I hope you have a lovely day OP.

Wow @Miffymeow how to make someone paranoid. There was me thinking people spent weddings talking about the bride and groom and having a good time. Now I know that everyone else is really just slagging off each others outfits! I must make sure I change my behaviour at the next wedding I attend.

Its gorgeous and totally ok for a wedding imo.

Well, OP, I've done the maths and the yeses win by a large margin, so if you want to go with the majority view, just wear the dress. I presume you asked the question for a reason, though, so would you really feel comfortable wearing it?

It is a traditional standard of etiquette that wedding guests don't wear white or cream. As with all etiquette standards, things change and relax over time, and anyway, some people will always be more bothered than others. There was a thread on here recently about whether it was ok to wear a fascinator to a funeral, and the general consensus was no, but there were still a few who said they couldn't see a problem with it. In the end, you're going to have to judge whether or not you think the bride will be pissed off about it. I wouldn't ask her, because most brides-to-be will be well aware that saying no to a guest's outfit choice will get her labelled as a bridezilla...

I'm not judging or saying that OP should feel bad, trying to make her paranoid etc, I'm only saying that if I was worried enough to ask about it on here then I would be feeling a bit worried on the day and it'd probably make me feel a bit self conscious even if it's absolutely fine. Much better to just wear something I'm 100% comfortable in. People on here really jump to conclusions, I'm only trying to make sure OP is comfortable on the day, jesus.

Yes I posted because I wasn't sure @GraceMarks and @Miffymeow. I had bought a dress ready that was a white background with yellow flowers, only more flowers so didn't look as white (tried posting a photo but it won't let me). It unfortunately doesn't now fit because of baby.
The oasis wouldn't be my first choice but it fits nicely and I feel good in it. It does look lighter than the other I planned on wearing though so that worried me and then a friend saying no it's too cream.

I've tried on so many dresses and I'm really struggling to find something and only a few weeks to go.
Think I might get the pink shoes and maybe a pink necklace or something and see what that looks like with it. But keep looking for something else in the meantime.

spinnaret Exactly!

I cant understand people saying it's too cream, there is no way it looks remotely bridal! Perfect I would say with those hot pink wedges you posted OP. A matching bag maybe (although I'm guessing a changing bag is more likely!) and maybe a hot pink wrap or something in your hair to bring in the shoes? Sorted!

The style is more important for you isn't it as your pregnant and breastfeeding so your options will be more limited. I think it's a perfect wedding guest dress.

I've seen a hot pink clutch bag (Dp can carry the change bag). I can't upload anymore photos, but it's same colour as the shoes. Not sure on something in my hair, I would usually but can look into it.

Oasis have a similar style in animal print?