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Dress for wedding, is it too cream? And what shoes?

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NotReadyForThisX2 · 13/05/2019 20:53

I'm pregnant but not maternity clothes pregnant yet, but been struggling to find a dress. Have a 7 month old Ds too who is breastfed.

Tried this on in oasis and it fits my slight baby bump and I can feed Ds in it and it's not too expensive, seen as it's not my usual style/size don't want to spend a fortune.
But it's cream and I know it's got the flowers on but it looks really cream on. Plus I don't know what shoes to wear, don't want killer heels but feel it really needs them. Was thinking of one of the colours in the flowers but ideally a wedge style so can still have the height but some comfort.

So for one is it ok to wear as a wedding guest? If so any suggestions on shoes, accessories? If not any suggestions on dresses?

Dress for wedding, is it too cream? And what shoes?

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captainblonde · 14/05/2019 07:04

wear it. it's fine for a wedding esp if the bride has a big bridal gown.

just add colour with fascinator, shoes and bag. won't look remotely bridal that way.

LolaSmiles · 14/05/2019 07:07

It's lovely and nobody will mistake you for the bride. I would have shoes/accessories in a bright colour that coordinates with the print.

pilates · 14/05/2019 07:21

I think it’s lovely.

I don’t like the yellow shoes with it though.

Dusky pink would be good.

Miniloso · 14/05/2019 07:25

It’s fine! Can’t understand those saying it’s too cream! Looks nothing like a wedding dress in any way... I’d say it’s perfect for a wedding.

user1474894224 · 14/05/2019 07:27

It's gorgeous and perfect for a wedding. So hard to find easy bf dresses. Have a lovely time.

Disfordarkchocolate · 14/05/2019 07:28

It's lovely. Nothing like a wedding dress and lots of colour on it. I bet you'll look lovely.

SuperSange · 14/05/2019 07:30

That's a beautiful dress and perfect for a wedding.

MarinaMarinara · 14/05/2019 07:32

I think it’s a bit too cream unless you check with the bride. I wouldn’t have minded at all as the bride but I have friends who would have.

How about this - chicojacks.co.uk/collections/occasion-wear/products/chico-midi-dress

EdWinchester · 14/05/2019 07:33

Perfect, imo. Wear with the pink shoes.

That Boden dress is drab.

HappyDinosaur · 14/05/2019 07:36

It is a really nice dress, but I think I would be a tiny bit annoyed if someone wore it to my wedding as it is cream. Not say anything annoyed though just sort of 'inner raised eyebrow' annoyed. I know not everyone agrees bit I just think it's respectful to avoid anything with a cream or white base. Maybe I'm old fashioned before my time though!

Carpet86 · 14/05/2019 07:42

Too cream. I'm not of English heritage and when I met my DH I was invited to his sister's wedding.

I didn't know anything of dress colour etiquette and as well as getting totally hammered I wore a white linen dress - 17 years later i am still mortified!! Just no white or cream! Sorry OP

UCOinanOCG · 14/05/2019 07:45

It is a very pretty, summery floral dress and perfect for a wedding. No-one is going to mistake you for the bride. Go for it.

Lauren83 · 14/05/2019 07:53

I also think the colours fine for a wedding

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NotReadyForThisX2 · 14/05/2019 07:53

Argh! I'm more conflicted now. I don't think it looks bridal and I know it won't out shine the bride at all. It's just if wearing cream is a no, no and I'm really not sure.
But I'm finding it so difficult to find something, showed one friend and she said it's fine, the other was like definitely not.

Will he holding Ds for the most part, do you probably won't see much of it tbf.

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cheesenpickle · 14/05/2019 08:00

It's a lovely dress, it's not at all bridal, if it was plain cream I would probably think not a good idea. I would accessorize with a colour other than cream and it will be perfect.

GreenHouseKeeping · 14/05/2019 08:04

I think a lot of people miss the point on this question...

It's not a matter of whether the dress looks bridal, its whether or not it is white/cream in colour.

This is way too cream, of all the dresses, and all the colours in the world, could you not just choose a different one?

Even if the bride's ok with it, plenty of guests will judge you for it (look at the split of opinions on this thread). Wouldn't that knowledge spoil the day for you? It certainly would for me.

NaturalBornWoman · 14/05/2019 08:16

I think a lot of people miss the point on this question...

It's not a matter of whether the dress looks bridal, its whether or not it is white/cream in colour.

I think you're the one whose missed the point. It is a matter of whether or not the outfit could be construed as competing with the bride. A floral summer dress, even with a cream or white background is entirely appropriate for a wedding guest. Plain cream or white, very rich fabrics, anything which is very unusual and shouts look at me or unrelieved black are not.

GraceMarks · 14/05/2019 08:59

I've seen lots of similar threads on here, and the only consistent take-away message is that people will never agree on this issue. For myself, I'm of the opinion that you just avoid cream/white unless the bride is wearing a different colour or it's a very laid-back sort of affair. But I'm 40, and I think younger people are less bothered.

You could ask the bride, but unless you know her very well and she's comfortable with telling you if she has a problem with something, she's likely to just mumble "yeah, that's fine". Most people want to avoid conflict.

If there is really no other dress in existence that you like or that suits you, I would just wear a big pink wrap or jacket over it and matching shoes.

screamer1 · 14/05/2019 09:28

Why not just try and find another dress, if in doubt?

YemenRoadYemen · 14/05/2019 09:37

Oh my goodness, seriously?

It might be cream (not white), but it's covered - literally covered - in pink flowers.

Seriously, if you'd judge someone for wearing this dress - with pink wedges and coloured accessories - to a wedding, you really need to get out more.

I really hope you wear it, OP. It is infinitely nicer than the blue Boden dress, for this particular occasion.

I'm 45, for the record.

UCOinanOCG · 14/05/2019 11:25

Crikey I am 56 and I have already said I think it is fine so it's definitely not an age thing!

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NotReadyForThisX2 · 14/05/2019 11:48

This is way too cream, of all the dresses, and all the colours in the world, could you not just choose a different one?
@GreenHouseKeeping, I'm trying. But I'm struggling to find something that fits and that I can breastfeed in.

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ShirleyPhallus · 14/05/2019 11:49

This is way too cream, of all the dresses, and all the colours in the world, could you not just choose a different one?

It’s cream but with a fuck tonne of flowers

OP just wear it, you’ll look great and it will be fab. No one will possibly mistake you for the bridge

Disfordarkchocolate · 14/05/2019 11:50

Check with the bride, her opinion counts and she'll probably be baffled you were worried.

screamer1 · 14/05/2019 11:52

Just wear it if you can't find anything else. It's really not so egregious.

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