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Very Posh 10th Anniversary Party - HELP - what present, what to wear, am like a fat GOOSE in a dress

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 08:32

I am going to this extremely posh 10th anniversary, 100 guests coctail waiters, staff, held in a mansion on the Thames, invite says "dinner and dancing".

Can you TELL I am not used to society events?

I am like a duck out of water, and I look like a goose in any dress. I am sixe 16 bordering on 18. Have dieted for three months prior to this, eating salads and vegetable soups, but my weight wont shift! My tummy just wont slim or shape up, my arms are chubby so needs hiding, I need to find a dress pronto! Help!

I guess, on a day to day basis, I dont feel inferior, but on events like these, I really feel conscious about our differences, and I need a nice dress!

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RubySlippers · 04/07/2007 08:37

wrap dress or something in jersey/sil which will skim over your curves
what about this
what are your best bits?

fishie · 04/07/2007 08:40

budget? what sort of shape are you? when is this event?

how about top and skirt rather than dress? many sales now, hobbs, lk bennet. can you get to shops?

RubySlippers · 04/07/2007 08:41

you can really something like this up

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 09:41

Thanks, both these dresses are really nice.
But I think my tummy is my absolutely worst feature, so cant have something that clings to the waist. My chest is ok, not oversized, and my shoulders are ok, and below the knee is not so bad either. I could possibly have a nice dress with a wrap or small jacket to hide my arms? It is just my tummy and my "biceps" that is relly bad. But I dont ever wear dresses so dont even know where to start. I am very much a trousers and lambswool jumper / shirt / erm and I like twinsets...Favourite are: Gap, Per Una, Monsoon, Next and I hardly ever go anywhere else... (Hate clothes shopping)

I havent thought about budget. I will not want to spend more than £70-100 for outfit in total.

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RubySlippers · 04/07/2007 11:27

look at these on Bravissimo
if you have a good chest then there stuff may be really flattering for you

TroyMcClure · 04/07/2007 11:29

NO NO NO to wrap dresses on big glas
they LCIONG to every single bit of you
is it balck tie

i got a fab red one fom pahse eight sale wiht a jacket to go over th top but htink they stop at a 16

TroyMcClure · 04/07/2007 11:31

what abotu this wiht a corset thign underneath fab coloured hsoes - say silver and silevr clutch

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 12:02

Oh, I love the styles from Phase Eight! I even have a few nearby, I need to go and try some on! Do they sell corsets? Maybe the best option would be a body corset with a push up bra?

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TroyMcClure · 04/07/2007 12:03

no get anall in one suit thing fomr marks imo rather than pants that roll donw.

conversation stopper heels adn a nice bag

dont eb too matchy mathcy

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 12:06

something like this?

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MrsBadger · 04/07/2007 12:15

oi cod
come and help me with henley

hoxtonchick · 04/07/2007 12:17

totally disagree with cod about wrap dresses (sorry fishface ), esp if you have any kind of waist as they emphasise it well (i am about the same size as you but with bigger boobs).

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 12:31

My tummy is too big to have a waist, sadly, or rather, I have a waist from behind!

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Dogsby · 04/07/2007 12:32

yes but if you have a lardy arse it SLINGS to it nad makes your boobs looks trnagly huge

Dogsby · 04/07/2007 12:32

clings

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 12:42

My bottom is just fine thank you, not lardy at all. I cycle a lot and do salsa. Maybe I am overexaggerating the size of my tummy through self consciousnes, but I think a wrapparound is too clingy.

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MrsCodger · 04/07/2007 12:55

Do empire line things thus make you look pg?
(not funny, some people do, others get away with it)

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StarryStarryNight · 04/07/2007 13:00

I have never tried on that kind of dress. I dont know if it will make me look pg, I think I should try one!

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WelshGirlie · 04/07/2007 19:50

StarryStarryNight, I'm so glad you posted because I'm in a very similar predicament!

I've been invited to a black-tie wedding. I'm also a 16/18 and very much an 'apple' shape. My chest is a feature and my legs below the knee are ok.

I am terrified.

I'm thinking of getting a cocktail dress like this one...
pretty dress

and teaming it with something like this... to cover the dreaded upper arms!

I would appreciate any feedback from stylish ladies. I'm essentially a scruffbag!

WelshGirlie · 04/07/2007 19:51

I stuffed up the second link!

cover up

FluffyMummy123 · 04/07/2007 19:52

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WelshGirlie · 04/07/2007 20:06

Really? Oh crap!
What do you suggest? I am truly clueless on this.

FluffyMummy123 · 04/07/2007 20:12

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WelshGirlie · 04/07/2007 20:18

My arse is fine, thankfully.
It's a little flat, but it's not wide. And I don't have saddlebag thighs. In fact my outer thighs are nice and firm. Let's not talk about inner thighs, I may have to cry!

Will straight not emphasise my belly?

I thought flaring out a little would help to skim over it.

If I'm wrong, please tell me. I really appreciate your thoughts missus!

deaconblue · 04/07/2007 20:18

I think if you are the same size on top and bottom you are very lucky and will look super in a 50's style dress, like they have in monsoon. My friend is a short size 18 who always looks amazing in frocks, I am a 12 up top and 14 bottom and look bloomin awful in them