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is this a bit too much for a wedding guest?

29 replies

fedup2017 · 02/01/2019 21:12

Humour me... wedding not till late may...… however I have some xmas money burning a hole in my pocket and would like to cheer myself up with a pretty dress purchase.
Its my cousins wedding in late May. Big country house type affair.
Im late 30's 5 ft 6 and an 8/10 with strawberry blonde hair. I proper love this dress but don't know if its a bit OTT for guest rather than a bridesmaid. I know its a bit fussy, though appreciate its not to everyones taste it is quite "me".

is it too much?

is this a bit too much for a wedding guest?
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Dextrodependant · 02/01/2019 21:13

It's gorgeous but personally I think it's too bridesmaid.

Artesia · 02/01/2019 21:14

Gorgeous, but yes- you would look like a frustrated bridesmaid wannabe. Sorry!

WisestIsShe · 02/01/2019 21:15

I love it, as long as the bridesmaids are in a significantly different colour. Can you ask?

BishBoshBashBop · 02/01/2019 21:15

No not as a guest. My friend wore similar as a bridesmaid recently in a big country house location.

IamPickleRick · 02/01/2019 21:16

Can you get it taken up so it’s not so full on? I personally love it but agree it might be a bit bridesmaid-y.

purplemunkey · 02/01/2019 21:18

I love it too - where's it from? I agree it's too bridesmaidy though. I think it's the length - you could get it taken up but it would be such a shame.

EdWinchester · 02/01/2019 21:19

Well, an evening dress is only suitable for an evening, black-tie type of wedding.

This would be OK if this is the case and the bridesmaids are wearing an entirely different colour.

PrincessScarlett · 02/01/2019 21:20

Just make sure it's not the same colour as the bridesmaids. I don't think you'd look like a bridesmaid as the top half isn't strappy/off the shoulder like a lot of bridesmaid dresses are.

ButteryParsnips · 02/01/2019 21:20

As pp have said I think you need to check the bridesmaids aren't in pink.

Zoomerang · 02/01/2019 21:22

Is it Needle and Thread?

If so, I wore that exact dress, in a paler pink, as my actual wedding dress. And no one thought I looked like a guest!

Original poster
fedup2017 · 02/01/2019 21:22

bummer- you are confirming what I thought. I in no way want to be a bridesmaid but liked the idea of a long swishy skirt with flat shoes on underneath. I always feel like I need heels with a midi length but they make my feet hurt.

It's from needle and thread.

Ive had a look on the website and they do a shorter one but out of stock in my size.... may keep an eye out for it in the shorter length instead

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HildaZelda · 02/01/2019 21:23

It's a nice dress, but I think it's definitely a bridesmaid dress.

Original poster
fedup2017 · 02/01/2019 21:23

thank you for your opinions!

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JellycatElfie · 02/01/2019 21:25

Just looked at the shorter one it’s LUSH!

Surfingtheweb · 02/01/2019 22:25

When I got married I had some friends & family send me pics of their outfits because they wanted to check they wouldn’t look like a bridesmaid, but would match in nicely with the wedding colours. I think it’s a lovely dress & if you are worried you could always just show the bride & ask what she thinks?

EnidButton · 03/01/2019 05:14

No it's too much. You'd definitely get 'Looks'. It's a bridesmaid's dress or an actual wedding dress, not a guests dress.

Usually I'm all for people wearing whatever they fancy but in this case I don't think it's right. It is lovely though, I can see why you love it.

moredoll · 03/01/2019 05:25

Selfridge's have one of the shorter version left in an 8 if that's your size.

thedevilinablackdress · 03/01/2019 08:58

If the bridesmaids are in dark or jewel colours I think it's fine. With you in the flats!

verite · 03/01/2019 09:03

It is gorgeous. I think it probably is a bit bridesmaidy but why not check what they are wearing. If their outfits are totally different you may get away with it.

beanaseireann · 03/01/2019 09:26

I'd buy it and get it taken up. Then it's not too bridesmaidy looking

Belindabauer · 03/01/2019 10:31

I agree about either buying the shorter version or having this dress shortened

veganrunnergirl · 03/01/2019 10:53

If you like the idea of a swishy skirt, then separates could be a way to go? A skirt like that with a darker top wouldn't be too bridesmaidy, and you could dress it up and down for other occasions

Maybe something like this: www.needleandthread.com/uk/all-womenswear/skirts/dotted-tulle-maxi-skirt-dusk-blue

veganrunnergirl · 03/01/2019 10:55

I wore something a bit like this to a wedding last Spring: www.reiss.com/p/knife-pleat-skirt-womens-isidora-in-silver-grey-metallic/ (the actual one I wore isn't there now)

I paired it with a satiny top for the wedding, but have worn it with blouses, jumpers, jersey tops etc since for more casual looks

ThanksItHasPockets · 03/01/2019 11:10

It will not be straightforward to have it taken up. Layers of tulle are difficult to shorten evenly, so it would need to be taken up from the waist.

I am going to go against the grain and say that I think it could work, IF (and only if) you are absolutely sure that pink is not one of the wedding theme colours, and that the bridesmaids are definitely not wearing pink or pastels. It needs sharpening up with a blazer over the top, like this.
Carry an oversized clutch and don’t even think of wearing flowers in your hair!

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