No head wear for a wedding?

[AsherDsNeverFading]

I've never been to a wedding as an adult so I need a bit of help!

I've looked at wedding outfits and they all have some kind of hear gear like fascinators or hats. I don't want to buy one and I think I'd look a bit of a prick in one.

Is it alright to go to a wedding without some kind of head gear on?

I mean is it a massive etiquette fail? I've just learned about the no white rule

Not trying to show off at all. Just pointing out that because something isn't the norm for them, it may be for other people. OP said it was quite a posh wedding and I'd hate for her to feel uncomfortable if everyone else showed up to the reception in a different outfit and she didnt.

Two outfits?! What the holy hell? How on earth do you transport the spare outfit around with you all day? In a Kranken rucksack pimped up to look more wedding-appropriate with white pom poms? And how the hell do you peel yourself out of one wedding outfit and into another one in a toilet cubicle?
I'm not paying out for one new outfit, let alone two!

So no head wear it is - great!

It's a pretty casual wedding, I think (although they're having a band at the reception).

It's in an old chapel, which is used for events now. So it's not a religious wedding even though it's in an old chapel IYSWIM.

I've been to some reet posh dos and I've never taken two outfits, or ever seen anyone else other than some particularly unfortunate bridesmaids change for the latter part of the day - for the exact reason you've given: it assumes that all guests have somewhere nearby to change, and also requires a big enough gap in the timetable for then to leave, and come back. Most weddings lurch on in one continuous, increasingly blurry 10-hour stretch.

You're fine with the one outfit and no hat, although if you've got room in your bag for a spare pair of more comfy shoes to dance in, I'd recommend it...

Thanks @NaiceHamble I don't do uncomfortable shoes anyway so no need for a spare pair

I never wear hats anymore and I hate fascinators, and judging from the last church wedding I went to a couple of weeks ago I am not alone. I also didn't change for the evening reception because I was going home that evening but most of the guests who were staying at the hotel where the reception was held did change, although there were plenty that didn't. I also took flat shoes to change in to.

At the recent wedding attended by Prince Harry, Duchess Meghan, and Princess Eugenie, which was both posh and in a church, there seemed to be quite a few bareheaded women, including Eugenie. Also bare shoulders, including the bride.