Is this dress too white and long for a wedding guest?

[Pearlsablinger]

Hi all, can I wear this dress to my friend’s rustic wedding? I love the dress but is it too long and white? m.asos.com/hope-and-ivy/hope-ivy-wrap-front-high-low-maxi-dress-with-floral-embroidery/prd/8908366?iid=8908366&custref=3024114&affid=14564&channelref=email&orderref=338685985

@Decanter

Not my friend. A random girl who only had an invite due to being a plus one, after the only single woman in our group complained and complained until she was allowed to being a friend from work. So, a guest who was not known to us and not known to the bride... And she wanted to wear a long white, lace gown. But yes, I'm the rude one in that story? Sure.

The dress the OP wants to wear is simply a long, white dress from the back view. It's totally innapprorpate for a wedding and it's just rude to turn up dressed like that. So she deserves a sharp response.

I have to admit that if I was a bride I really wouldn’t mind if you wore that dress - it’s lovely! I actually don’t think brides take that much notice in what others are wearing - I know I didn’t!

If anyone asked me in shop or anywhere else I would say it’s not appropriate
Wouldn’t be rude though

I've seen a guest wearing a white crochet/ lace dress to a wedding recently. when she has pics taken next to the bride you could deffo see why wearing white/ivory is frowned upon.

Wow Rocinante1 you really were defending yourself!

@Decanter

OP didn't like being told, and said that no one would say that to her in real life. I'm telling her that they would.

Well I wore a long cream outfit to my brother-in-law's wedding. Discussed it (by phone or skype - overseas!) with the bride before I bought it and she was fine with it because she was wearing a much more "traditional" style of dress. Plus I was going to be chasing after my toddler youngest all day anyway. (husband best man and daughter a bridesmaid, so it made sense for the whole family to dress up a bit)

I think the dress the OP linked to would be fine at many weddings, but maybe not so much at others - depends what the bride is actually wearing I think.

So do we have a new forum guideline that now dictates unless we would phrase it like that in real life we can't write it? Eh ok then.

Bottom line is there's a constant run of these threads where women want to wear long or Lacey white dresses to someone's wedding. It's mind boggling. I'd get it if they always wore white or something, but I really don't understand with the huge variety of dresses and outfits available, some folks get a wedding invite and get a sudden mad urge to buy a long white dress.

It's not your wedding, wear something else. Would I phrase it like that in real life, probably not, but I'd be thinking it and so would most other people. And the point remains the same, irrelevant of how it's phrased.

It's a lovely dress, and I don't think anyone is going to mistake you for the bride in it.

I’d this dress suitable, now I am panicking!

I’ve worn it before to a wedding and got it complimented on loads....

I’m not keen on the op dress as it does look like a bathrobe to me too! The material looks quite see through..... but I could be mistaken!

Free People have gorgeous maxi dresses right now.

thats actually very similar to my wedding dress that I wore lol!! Apart from the skirt was full and tulle....
You dont know now days if a bride will have a little bit of colour on her dress so id just avoid dresses which are mostly white even if they do have some colour on them... particularly the combo of mainly white and long!
and id also avoid plain white or cream in any length....
I had my bridesmaids in plain cream short dresses and a guest did turn up in something very similar which looked odd in the photos!

that was in reference to the OP btw not the other dresses posted! Love that long yellow dress, thatd be perfect for a wedding

That's not at all bridal and would make a beautiful wedding guest outfit. Not all brides wear white anyway

I personally don’t think it’s inappropriate. If it was plain white and floor length then it would be a bit wrong but as it’s got a bit of colour on it and it’s not a long gown then I actually think it’s ok.
I’ve been to lots of weddings where guests wore white or cream dresses/skirts.
If you do wear it, try to have some bright shoes/bag though 😊

Nope it's far too white and long, it's a gorgeous dress but its not suitable to wear as a wedding guest.

No.

But on the upside this thread is great for dress inspiration

I really like the pink blue one that someone posted.

I wouldn't wear that anywhere, it's awful. But certainly not to a wedding.

There really isn't a constant run of threads with women wanting to wear long white dresses to weddings. Weddings are often in the summer and there are lots of white clothes around in shops during the summer. It's understandable that these questions come up from time to time. Most women really don't see themselves as rivals as often as they are made out to.

I know someone who wore a long white dress to a mutual friend's wedding. People were commenting behind her back all day - jokey stuff, but a lot of 'maybe she's got a crush on the groom!' and 'gosh, you'd think someone would have told her, poor thing...' etc.

So, maybe people wouldn't be that blunt to you IRL OP, but people do think it and say it. Personally I'd rather have strangers tell me in advance than acquaintances discussing it amongst themselves on the day, but there you are.

There really is a constant run of threads of "can I wear this white dress to a wedding".

And although it's summer, you don't see the same "do you like this white outfit" threads. So it's not because there is lots of white clothes around. It really is specific to weddings.

I don't think it's women wanting to be a rival, but there is no doubt that some hear the word wedding and make a bee line for the white dresses. I've no idea why but you see it on here a lot.

I don't think it looks like a wedding dress. I think it looks like nightwear.

And although it's summer, you don't see the same "do you like this white outfit" threads. So it's not because there is lots of white clothes around. It really is specific to weddings.

To be fair, I think people are only checking whether they would be infringing wedding etiquette by wearing it. The reason you don't tend to see other posts about white outfits is because people just buy them and wear them without making a thread about it.

I recently wore a white dress to a wedding. But it was knee length with a coloured flower pattern on it, and I checked with the bride in advance just in case she wasn't cool with it.

I really don't like it. Taking a way the fact that its too white for a wedding. It looks more like a posh dressing gown than a dress