American wedding - fascinator yes or no?

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I'm attending a wedding upstate in July. I've found the perfect dress, but I don't know if I should wear a fascinator or not.

We're the only brits going, and this is my first America wedding, so I'm not sure if fascinators are worn at weddings over there. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Any thoughts

Sort of church service , country club reception etc?

I live in the South and generally speaking people like to dress up here. Also most weddings are in the late afternoon or evening so that the reception is at night. My favorite thing to wear is a long black silk column dress that I bought some years ago. I switch it up with different jackets, the latest being a silvery sparkly one for a recent wedding in Charleston. Black is perfectly fine for evening weddings in the US.

We've also been invited to the wedding rehearsal, and as I'd only ever heard of these in films, I was stumped at what to wear. I bought a dress before I got pregnant that still fits, so was thinking of wearing this?

What do you think Americans? Is this suitable? No head wear of course..lol!

It's at a very very posh venue, so I thought this would fit with the theme.

Btw, is navy blue not black.

both your dresses look lovely to me.

Also you are the exotic visiting english-people so you get away with anything. They'd probably love if you turned up in a fascinator. you could give classes in being British.

I was going to ask about the rehearsal dinner. If you are crossing the ocean to go to a wedding, you should certainly also be invited to that.

I think that dress is very elegant and quite appropriate for a posh setting.

'Just out of interest to the Americans on the thread, what would you wear to a formal American wedding? Sort of church service , country club reception etc?'

As Seneca said. I'm also from the US South. The last wedding I attended, nearly 2 years ago, one of my first cousins, was an evening one, a Latino one, in San Antonio, in Summer. Wedding in a cathedral, reception in a Knights of Columbus hall, formal. I wore this with silver heels. www.ebay.co.uk/itm/New-Long-Chiffon-Prom-Dress-Bridesmaid-Formal-Evening-Party-Ball-Gown-Stock-6-22/183172001881?_trkparms=aid%3D111001%26algo%3DREC.SEED%26ao%3D1%26asc%3D20160908105057%26meid%3D4766f908e44d4ac29e0666eb76ec4f0e%26pid%3D100675%26rk%3D3%26rkt%3D15%26mehot%3Dpp%26sd%3D282755919591%26itm%3D183172001881&_trksid=p2481888.c100675.m4236&_trkparms=pageci%3A915f26d4-6391-11e8-9b6b-74dbd180ae05%7Cparentrq%3Aae1125dc1630aa464b8294d8ffffac91%7Ciid%3A1

Sorry, fail there: dress

Oh, Charleston! Seneca, I am so jealous!

my, I think that dress will be fine for a rehearsal dinner.

For a Latino wedding, if it's formal and evening, you usually wear a type of gown, and the men wear tuxedos. My father's sister is married to a man from Kerala in India, and she always wears a dress sari to formal events and her husband goes in dress clothes. Absolutely gorgeous and very comfortable, in her opinion.

Her sari is always gorgeous and she sews them herself. Her sisters-in-law taught her how to properly wear a sari and she's never worn anything else at formal events since. She says they are very comfortable and they are very flattering.

My cousin Yolanda and her mother made her wedding dress but even as experienced seamstresses, it was a nightmare and they went to Mexico to have some of it made, particularly the lace and such added to the skirt and also to have the veil made.

I'm probably kinda the wrong person to ask as, like Seneca, I am Southern and also Latin and so the weddings tend to be very late afternoon or evening and you dress up.

I realise now here in the UK you have a time limit. You have to marry by 6pm so that's probably where the whole marry in the morning thing came from but all the weddings I've attended in the US South that started so early were Baptist or some other sort where you had a 'cake and punch' reception after and that was it. Wedding done.

One of my parents' closest friends was a co-worker to my father and he and his wife come from Catholic Irish-American families in and near Boston. The first time they went to 'cake and punch' wedding for a Baptist colleague Fred, the co-worker, was like, 'That's it? That's the whole wedding?' He was shocked.

Yes, I went to a lot of weddings like that, especially in my younger days. Cake and punch and nuts in frilly little cups. And instead of sending invitations, they would just put a notice in the newspaper. Come one, come all.

I grew up Episcopalian, the American version of the C of E, otherwise known in the Bible Belt as Whiskeypalians.

I grew up Episcopalian, the American version of the C of E, otherwise known in the Bible Belt as Whiskeypalians.

I am an Episcopalian and did not know we had that nickname. I'll have to pass that along to my rector.

What do you think Americans? Is this suitable?

Perfect for the rehearsal dinner, Myotherbag. You have excellent taste in clothes.

One of my parents' closest friends was a co-worker to my father and he and his wife come from Catholic Irish-American families in and near Boston. The first time they went to 'cake and punch' wedding for a Baptist colleague Fred, the co-worker, was like, 'That's it? That's the whole wedding?' He was shocked.

One of my irish-american colleagues in Boston used to joke that he was going to convert to being a baptist from age his eldest daughter turned 16 until his last daughter was married - church basement wedding with cake and punch, saving him thousands for 3 daughters :)

Wear it! We love them! Wore mine to work last week to celebrate the Royal Wedding

Thanks to everyone who's taken the time to comment on this thread! 👍🏼

Oh go on! Wear a hat!! All sounds v lovely and your dress is gorgeous.

Hats and fascinators not really the done thing in the US.

Where I live, both are reserved for the races only.