Wedding Dress Advice Please!

[DaisyRose1985]

Hi I get married in just over two weeks, and I go for my first fitting this week.

When I tried dress on, it was in a different colour so have not seen my wedding dress in ivory. Brave or silly, I am assuming the latter!

So I have enclosed two screenshots, I am self conscious of my arms, and the boutique have told me there is not enough time for arms to be added in, so would need to find a jacket.

So would this jacket go with my dress? I don't have a large budget either. Anyways I am rambling on.

Thanks in Advance

The lace looks very white and the dress looks quite creamy so I'm not 100% from the photos. Can you get the jacket in Ivory too? That would be my only concern.

Are you having a veil, and is it a spring/summer wedding?

Duh you just said two weeks sorry

Have you thought about a pashmina if you can't get the jacket in an Ivory too? I had one for mine but never wore it as it got left at Home by mistake.

Thanks for replying, the jacket is available in ivory, that was my concern too, but is advertised for sale in white or ivory. I wasnt planning on having a veil as hair will be styled in a side braid, with extensions (as hair is usually long bob length) I do have a veil so will take to the fitting and see what it's like. The wedding is in two weeks time.

No I don't think that would look good with a jacket.
What made you get a sleeveless dress if you don't like your arms?
Show the arms, it's summer, be free!
If you do want a cover up I think this would be better with your dress-
https://www.wed2b.co.uk/mayfair

I was led to believe sleeves could be added into the dress, and was told the dress would arrive at the beginning of May, giving me 6 weeks to make changes, have sleeves added.

The boutique telephoned me Friday to tell me it had arrived, and that I wouldn't be able to have sleeves placed into it now, hence why I am on a mad rush to find a sleeved jacket.

I appreciate what your saying about be free, but it's my own insecurities, I did look at the Mayfair Cape, but wanted long sleeves.

With the dress being a v neck, I thought the shorter detail at the top of the arm/shoulder would not overbear the v neck detail.

Thank you for taking the time to reply and find an alternative, much appreciated.

It's a lovely jacket and a lovely dress - but the jacket would look good on a strapless dress rather than that dress.

I agree that you should just wear the dress and show off your arms. You chose that dress - without a jacket - for a reason

What size are you? I bet your arms are nothing like as "bad" as you think. People will be interested in seeing a happy bride and won't be thinking, "What's she doing showing off her arms"

....sorry, posted before seeing that you'd been told that sleeves could be added

I still think it is a beautiful, classy dress - and that you will be a beautiful, radiant bride in it.

@prettybird thank you, that's a lovely thing to say, and have made me smile. I know your right and what others are saying too.

I'm a 14-16 so have curves, and the insecurities, which shouldn't even matter on my wedding day, as I'm marrying the man who loves me.

I may feel better, or worse this week, once I see what it actually looks like on me. Thank you again for your lovely comments.

I had to change my dress short notice and the shop I bought it from didn't have time for alterations.
I found a different wedding seamstress and it was done in a few days.
I'd phone round places and see if anyone can do these sleeves for you. Maybe buy the fabric if you can yourself for speed.

@itsbetterthanabox thank you will look into it, I didn't think of that. The seamstress only goes into the boutique once a week, so will be worth enquiring elsewhere. Thanks again.

what a grownup, elegant dress. please dont add the ghastly lace and net job!

That dress is lovely - and IMO will look even better on someone with more curves than that model. It’s so elegant that I think it’d be ruined with some frilly lacy jacket thing.

How about looking for a plain ivory large scarf/wrap in a lovely material that you can drape round your upper arms later in the day if you start to feel self-conscious? Like centralchic.com/white-satin-wrap-shawl but not satin...

I bet you'll be down to a 14 in 2 weeks with all the stress and running about in the run up to your wedding

I'm a 14 and 5'5" and my bare arms don't send people screaming in horror

Have confidence in yourself. Enjoy your special day and don't add to the stress trying to get alterations done in a rush.

And remember: on the day itself, take a few minutes to savour the moment with your now dh. It will go by so fast - don't spend the whole day worrying about your guests

If you want to try a shawl/pashmina, I've got three in Ivory that were never used and can send you one if you like? Wouldn't want anything for it but it might help you figure out how desperate you are for another seamstress to get sleeves added on.

I have keratosis Polaris and hate my upper arms, it's definitely about how you feel and not how others think you look. Stupid brains x

Do a google search for something called a "wedding capelet" - I think one of those would look good over your dress. Not too heavy, you can take it off later if you want, or leave it on, but it woudl cover your arms during the service when you will be the focus of attention the most. You aren't having a veil, so no need to worry about that interfering either

I'd avoid a pashmina, as I'm crap at keeping them in place and would end up fiddling with it too much

What kind of sleeves did you want added op?

Ive become addicted to curvy brides boutique on tlc. They do a lot of sheer capes which look beautiful over dresses.

So I went to my fitting... and left more heartbroken. This is outing but I have a hernia, which requires surgery, open surgery with 6-8 week recovery time due to size/position etc. I have a high waisted thigh length shapewear on, and still it sticks out like a sore thumb. 2 weeks to go and no more options left. My arms are the least of my worries now. Sorry for the big rant, but for someone who isn't a girly girl etc I just wanted to feel nice!

The dress looks lovely on you! It’s a great shape and you look well proportioned in it. Sleeves would ruin the dress and alter the proportions. Please try not to worry, you’ll look great

I don't see a hernia? Unless I'm being totally thick! I think it's very flattering.

I see nothing apart from a beautiful woman in a classy, elegant dress. You look stunning, truly.

I don't see a hernia either! I tried on a very similar style ball gown last week and had to pass, because my post childbirth stomach is faaaar lumpier than yours. I think it looks gorgeous. (And the sleeveless look is everso elegant - it has a lovely shape around the bust.)

Can you go and try it on again, with a friend there to reassure you? Alternatively, perhaps taking the kind poster above up on the offer of a pashmina would allow you to elegantly drape it over your elbows and cover your tum a little if you feel really self conscious. Don't forget that you will have flowers, too, which you can hold in place to help your confidence.

You look lovely

Hey OP, your arms look fine, absolutely no worries there. I really can’t see a hernia at all. What shapewear do you have? Some are sturdier than others so if you’re really worried you can try a thicker version but fwiw I think you look great.

The hernia is the full length of c-section and hysterectomy scar, so a single lump isn't visible, if that makes sense. I really appreciate your lovely comments, thank you for your kind words.

I may feel better about it tomorrow, it being a different day and all that. I'm not having any flowers either. It's only a small wedding, 16 people including us. Think I should look at some more shapewear. Or just think f* it!

Thanks again everyone. Your all lovely.