Don't want to wear wedding dress

[merlotmummy14]

I've always been a bit of a tomboy and I've always hated formal events - I'm quite a casual type of girl so dresses and fancy jumpsuits just aren't my style at all - I'm much happier in skinny jeans and a cute top or dungarees and my slip on vans. I'm all about comfort. My partner and I are soon to get engaged (he wants to come up with a unique proposal) howeved we've already discussed our wedding and wrote down a list of our priorities one of which is for everybody to be comfortable. I don't think I would feel comfortable in a dress however I've found a pair of white dungarees on asos that I would absolutely love to wear along with a pair of all white slip on vans and a nice white top. Is this going to be a huge social faux pas? Would you find it weird seeing a bride in dungarees? My partner will be wearing his kilt as he loves it and enjoys being comfortable in it and he says I will be beautiful no matter what. We're having a very non traditional wedding - village hall, humanist ceremony, bbq and get a few guests to bring side salads with takeaway pizza served in the evening. 50 during the day and 100 for the reception. We already have a kid together and know we don't want to spend a huge amount - our cap is at £2000 but its looking more like £1200 at current budget. Getting married at registrars and then doing symbolic ceremony. My mum might be a bit upset/embarrased but most of my family who know me would just be like "eh that sounds like something she'd do" as they've always known I'm quite laid back yet quirky. I've just never dreamed about a wedding dress so I don't see the point in wearing one if it will make me feel awkward. m.asos.com/asos/asos-design-denim-dungaree-in-off-white/prd/8910721?CTARef=Saved%20Items%20Image

These are the dungarees in question. Opinions????

Wear what the hell you like! I think those dungarees look fab. I'd probably go for silver trainers rather than white ones just to jazz it up a bit though.

It is your special day and you need to feel, and look, like you. I think you should go for it.

What's the point in paying all that money for a big dress if you won't even enjoy it? I'd quite like to see a bride in dungarees.

The rose embroidered white vans are very weddingy.

I think you'll look fab! Wear what the hell you like, sod what anyone else thinks.
I second what nowis said. You could wear silver trainers or a silvery t shirt or something to dress things up a bit, but still feel comfortable, if you wanted.

I'm planning an alternative wedding myself but I don't like the dungarees, sorry. I just don't think they're special enough. You could change into them for the reception??

I've seen all sorts of alternative wedding outfits which look great, inc vans, denim jackets etc etc. The fact that you're asking here suggests to me that you're not really sure about the dungarees yourself so I would definitely keep looking.

OP, I don't like wedding dresses either and I am a firm believer that you must always wear what you like and feel good in. I came here to say the same as PP - wear what the hell you like.

BUT, I'm sorry to say those dungarees remind me of a painter and decorator's uniform! Not because of the dungarees themselves (which I think look very cool and would be fine for your wedding) but precisely because they are white. Any other colour would be fine (although maybe not denim), it's just the painter and decorator connection. But what do I know? I could be projecting - my uncle is one and I often see him wearing similar.

Maybe accessorising them the right way would remove all connection. Hopefull other posters can help with that. I can't I'm afraid, I'm almost never on the S&B part of the site with good reason. I know nothing about and I'm not interested in fashion! So please ignore me if I'm off the mark here.

Your wedding sounds ace, btw!

I personally would go for something a bit like this:
www.johnlewis.com/phase-eight-cortine-jumpsuit-cream/p3425398?sku=237321232&s_kwcid=2dx92700028113818531&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI_of1x7X92gIVBrDtCh04OwQPEAQYCCABEgKa6_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
And then change into the dungarees for the evening or BBQ

Wear what you want. I loved Solange's trouser suit look that she wore as one of her wedding outfits.

Your wedding. Your day. So long as you lnow (as well as you can) that you won't look back and wished you'd worn a dress.

Sorry OP, but a huge thumbs down from me. As a pp said, look like you're about to go and emulsion a few walls. The other jump suit is fab though, teemed with whatever footwear you're happy with and flowers which suit your personality ....

I don’t even get your engagement situation let alone the wedding. Surely the point of a proposal is asking the question? Not really a question if you both know it’s coming and he already knows the answer, is it?

To be honest, I would much prefer to come to your wedding than a traditional one. It actually sounds relaxing and fun. You really don't need my rubber stamp but you should do exactly what makes you both happy...that's all that matters. Your mum can dress up if that's what she wants to do but the rest is of nobody's else's concern.

My friend wore a coloured jumpsuit for her wedding last month and looked brilliant.

You could always team it with either silver or a soft pink, and have flowers in your hair/have a casual bouquet. But really, do what the fuck you want.

I don't think you should wear a wedding dress if you don't want to, but I do think you should wear something special for your wedding day. Dungarees are just everyday wear and I also think it'd clash with your partner's kilt. I think a jumpsuit is ideal. Quirky and a bit different but can also be special. Love the one posted earlier and there are a few available at bhldn. Good luck in finding something you love.

I do like this:
www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/531635930994979428/

Whats the point in DP coming up with a unique proposal if you've already sorted that youre getting married? #missespoint

Or get some silk ones made up
www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/AeegiRTTLsdPFspBXDMV2CwijWW8lKJjxFCaHft_9LCFgJkx2tJNdcA/

I didn't wear a wedding dress to my own wedding. But I also think those dungarees are not right. Especially as your DP will be looking smart in a kilt, the two of you together will look odd.

I think if you really want to wear dungarees then go for it, as a guest I wouldnt give a shit!
But maybe look at the reasons why anything other than denim makes you feel nervous/uncomfortable.

Basically - is it really just that you love dungarees? Or is it that you feel insecure in anything else?

I was all for totally agreeing with you until I clicked on the link and immediately thought painter and decorators overalls. Sorry OP
Love the jump suit linked to, you could change to the dungarees later maybe. Another poster said it wouldn’t go at all with your husbands outfil and I totally agree. The photos will look very strange.
What about some wide leg trousers in a floaty fabric, with some vans/converse. Could you manage an off the shoulde top with a frill, little bit of sparkly jewellery. Then any close up pictures will look fantastic yet you will still be comfy casual!

You could always include something in your outfit to complement your husband's kilt (flowers, ribbon, top underneath your dungarees). That way, you could pull the look together.

You could do dusky pink dungarees with a luxurious lacy top underneath if you were concerned about the 'decorator' look.

I thinks it’s a bit casual too. Hellbells suggestion is lovely. Or even just a white trouser suit? Just something a little more formal maybe. But at the end of the day it’s your wedding so whatever you want really!