Don't want to wear wedding dress

[merlotmummy14]

I've always been a bit of a tomboy and I've always hated formal events - I'm quite a casual type of girl so dresses and fancy jumpsuits just aren't my style at all - I'm much happier in skinny jeans and a cute top or dungarees and my slip on vans. I'm all about comfort. My partner and I are soon to get engaged (he wants to come up with a unique proposal) howeved we've already discussed our wedding and wrote down a list of our priorities one of which is for everybody to be comfortable. I don't think I would feel comfortable in a dress however I've found a pair of white dungarees on asos that I would absolutely love to wear along with a pair of all white slip on vans and a nice white top. Is this going to be a huge social faux pas? Would you find it weird seeing a bride in dungarees? My partner will be wearing his kilt as he loves it and enjoys being comfortable in it and he says I will be beautiful no matter what. We're having a very non traditional wedding - village hall, humanist ceremony, bbq and get a few guests to bring side salads with takeaway pizza served in the evening. 50 during the day and 100 for the reception. We already have a kid together and know we don't want to spend a huge amount - our cap is at £2000 but its looking more like £1200 at current budget. Getting married at registrars and then doing symbolic ceremony. My mum might be a bit upset/embarrased but most of my family who know me would just be like "eh that sounds like something she'd do" as they've always known I'm quite laid back yet quirky. I've just never dreamed about a wedding dress so I don't see the point in wearing one if it will make me feel awkward. m.asos.com/asos/asos-design-denim-dungaree-in-off-white/prd/8910721?CTARef=Saved%20Items%20Image

These are the dungarees in question. Opinions????

They do look like painters overalls - sorry! Bride or no bride, I would probably think anyone wearing them looked a bit silly, unless they were also carrying a large tin of emulsion....

What about a not fancy jumpsuit?

Hmm. I agree with wear what the hell makes you happy, but they are VERY decorator-esque

This one is quite dungarees like....

www.boohoo.com/tall-sadie-wrap-split-leg-strappy-culotte-jumpsuit/TZZ99564.html?gclid=CjwKCAjw_tTXBRBsEiwArqXyMrPMC1ouySvhM1e4_LuH5zyrhY0UuO6psglUFB7pHtXB9gkfSyZOtxoC3YgQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

How about a jumpsuit? A cream one like [ttps://www.johnlewis.com/coast-emerson-jumpsuit-cream/p3436437?sku=237363107&s_kwcid=2dx92700028136375821&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gclid=CjwKCAjw_tTXBRBsEiwArqXyMjd_EC22qqYYxn06UHVCJ5jJAsghKdRcPRj6ekn-uT_x_pDSqV6M1RoCMogQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds this?]]

Have a look here;
houseofollichon.co.uk/shop
Some are a bit wild, but it gives you some ideas.

@ImPreCis that is a very cool website!

Aw. I wore jeans and sparkly cowboys boots to mine (this was the 90s 😂) and while the marriage didn't last, the wedding was a fun relaxed and memorable party without the formality of a huge frock I would've felt daft wearing. Have fun!

I don't think you should wear something you won't be comfortable in. It's your day, so wear anything you like/ want. I'm sure you'll look lovely.
(I know someone who got married last year, her parents especially tried to take over all arrangements, including what she wore. The mum wanted her to wear a dress, any style of dress as long as it was a dress. That's not her at all, she didn't want that. She wore a two piece- top and skirt, and looked lovely. Her mum had to get over it).

ImPreCis I love some of those. This is in particular is simple but stunning, I would be wowed by a bride wearing it: houseofollichon.co.uk/clement/

A white jumpsuit or playsuit might be more appropriate.

@BrightonCalling I’m waiting for my DP to do this too. I’ve said if we’ve decided to marry aren’t we just engaged? But he wants to do an official proposal ‘thing’. It’s important to him for some reason and I can respect that, he’s getting married in church for me so this is for him. I’ve just said as long as it’s not to silly or expensive!

OP I think you’re awesome and should definitely wear whatever you like and are comfortable in. I do think you could get something a bit more special and unique that would fit that bill, but if this is what you want and I was at your wedding and just think ‘you go girl.

You can wear what you want on your wedding day but I'm not a fan of the dungarees, I like loads of the jumpsuits PP have posted though!

Obviously it's up to you but there's quite a leap from enormous frou-frou ball gown with veil and train, to dungarees. Of course, if you try on lots of things and that is your preferred option, great but I'd think you might regret not being a little open-minded towards the idea of wearing something a bit more special. And not just in a "every girls dreams of being a princess" way; id say something similar for any special occasion, like if you were graduating for example. You might be a tomboy but that doesn't mean you don't deserve or can't expect to wear something a bit special at times that are important to you.

Don't go straight for the dungarees. Try on a whole range of things (trouser suits, skirts and tops, culottes, shorts, jumpsuits, non-wedding dresses, heck even wedding dresses) and if the dungarees are the best, great. But don't rule yourself out of options because you have pigeon-holed yourself in your mind.

So you’ve planned your wedding as far as budget, venue, catering, number of guests, ceremonies and now outfits, but your partner is coming up with a “unique proposal”?

What will he even say?!

How about these OP, like the one you prefer but a little less painter and decorator
www.asos.com/pepe-jeans/pepe-jeans-wide-leg-dungaree/prd/9340105?affid=14173&channelref=product+search&mk=abc&currencyid=1&ppcadref=761030383%7C39786878803%7Caud-108719242581%3Apla-280180002685&_cclid=v3_14154f0c-f003-539e-b729-eaac4c943a5f&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI_Z7Qr9D92gIVFW4bCh1_yAbSEAkYCyABEgJv4PD_BwE

I love it! You will both look terrific, and in the future you will look at photos of yourselves from the day and feel happy that you dressed to reflect your authentic selves.

If your wedding is casual then it would be weird if you turned up in a wedding gown.

I think it looks like something a child would wear, tbh, but I’m not the one wearing it. So long as you’re completely comfortable in what you wear, that’s the most important thing about your outfit.

I'm all for not wearing a dress if you don't want to wear a dress BUT dungarees are something that, while being in fashion now, will possibly look silly later when you look back on the pics.

@racecardeiver "If your wedding is casual then it would be weird if you turned up in a wedding gown.". This makes no sense to me. Why would a wedding gown be weird at a wedding? It's almost the only occasion it wouldn't be weird at, no matter how casual the theme of the wedding. Of course you don't need a wedding gown to get married but that's very different from saying wearing a wedding dress to your own wedding is weird.

What about this? Would look great with flats or heels
m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0643055002.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIu7Oz0eP92gIVCZ7VCh00XAppEAkYDyABEgK5qvD_BwE&s_kwcid=AL!850!3!260676925409!!!g!367116982760!&ef_id=WvWchAAABVjsi1GA:20180511133708:s

Or this - kinda smart looking dungarees style jumpsuit

www.closetlondon.com/white-sleeveless-jumpsuit.html?961=126&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlomy8-P92gIVhcYbCh16FAAsEAkYByABEgK3QfD_BwE

I am absolutely no style and beauty guru but there was an article last week headlined
'Jumpsuits, zip cams, vegan cake: the latest trends in weddings' from the Observer which is on the Guardian website. I am too incompetent to properly link to it, but it shows that jumpsuits at weddings are absolutely on trend.

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/may/05/jumpsuits-zipcams-vegan-cake-latest-trends-weddings

So incompetent that you got an extra picture of my worksurface!

I quite like the suggestion of finding dusky pink dungarees as the painter thing does concern me a bit but my partners kilt is red and I don't think pink would go. If his kilt was more greeny blue it would look cute but its his family tartan and I don't really want to have to pay for kilt hire when he's got one he loves sitting at home. I don't really like the look of any of those jumpsuits, they're just too formal and don't look like something I'd wear. For those asking why I don't want to be in something 'special' its a confidence thing. I do stand up comedy and speak in front of crowds of 60/70 people no bother but thats in my jeans and a t shirt, casual clothes are my comfort zone. Put me in a dress or anything more formal than a blazer and cutolettes and I just want to melt into the floor, never mind say my vows in front of 50 people I love and trust. I just feel like a fool.