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Do you often get told you look nice?

58 replies

Ridiculouslyso · 07/05/2018 22:04

By your partner, friends, colleagues? I like clothes and makeup and always hope I look ok but never seem to get told it. Sometimes gets me down I suppose!

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Oblomov18 · 08/05/2018 10:08

Occasionally. Which is just fine. Dh and ds's compliment me when I get glammed up to go out. A few friends say they love my top/dress etc. Occasionally.

I compliment women on looking fab/nice top/dress/lipstick/shoes etc. But only when I really mean it, thus it is meaningful.

Oldraver · 08/05/2018 10:09

Ridiculouslyso....the only thing I can remember my mother saying in the last few years are...."oh that black makes you look slimmer" (she has tons of hang ups about size and constantly criticises my fatness, size 16 to her 26)....Oh and she said a necklace was nice. I must admit I no longer compliment her, she does dress well, or pander to her fishing for compliments..

Dressing for yourself is the best bet...if OH thinks I'm hot all the better

Bloomed · 08/05/2018 10:12

Hideandgo · 08/05/2018 10:12

I get told it fairly regularly. Most of the time I’m no make up, hair tied back and pretty plain house clothes so if I put a tiny bit of make up on or dry my hair properly or put on going out clothes, it’s noticable and people (kids, partner, family and friends) do comment on it.

I say ‘thanks’ but in my head I’m thinking I just look more like your expectations of women.

Stripybeachbag · 08/05/2018 10:16

Never. I literally can't remember the last time and I do put effort into my appearance - hair, make up, nice clothes. Feel sad now.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 08/05/2018 10:23

Not really but these days it's seen by some as rude to comment on someone's appearance, even in a positive way so that's my excuse. Everyone is itching to compliment me I'm sure...

rightknockered · 08/05/2018 10:25

If people stare at me and look me up and down, I take it as a good sign. Not if men do it, just women. I think women look when they admire what someone is wearing.

MrsGrindah · 08/05/2018 10:29

Frankie

Loonoon · 08/05/2018 10:35

I get told it quite often. It tends to be when I've changed something , so a different parting or different style blowdry, different colour top or new lipstick. I think it's looking different that makes people notice and comment. Annoyingly people always sound surprised when they say it which might mean I look like shit the rest of the time.

I also get told it when my Botox is topped up! It opens my eyes up and makes me look more alert and rested.

LinoleumBlownapart · 08/05/2018 10:39

By my husband yes, by friends and colleagues, sometimes. Usually when I'm wearing a new or nice top, I don't really wear make-up and usually jeans and a shirt to work. I often compliment people when they look really nice. But I think it's cutural, I live in a Latin country, people are less shy about complimenting. I didn't used to do it and I don't remember anyone complimenting me when I was in the UK. It's all done inside people's heads, everyone is saying "Wow ridiculous looks amazing!"

CountFosco · 08/05/2018 21:22

these days it's seen by some as rude to comment on someone's appearance, even in a positive way so that's my excuse

I lost a couple of stones last year, I've had lots of lovely comments from female colleagues about it (I think most men quite rightly avoid making comments on their female colleague's appearance) but a couple have said 'was it deliberate?' which was a bit bizarre, not quite sure what they meant (new weight top of healthy range).

clothcollector · 08/05/2018 21:34

by my husband, couple times a week.
anyone else ... couple times a year.

i have put on weight and am sleeping poorly, so exhausted looking and flabby due to grabbing sugary stuff for an instant boost.

winterisstillcoming · 08/05/2018 22:24

I sometimes ask if weight loss is deliberate as it can be quite serious if it isn't. It's out of genuine concern.

MaudesMum · 08/05/2018 22:32

Some people are a lot better at doing compliments than others, and it doesn't mean they don't care. I've got one friend who nearly always says something nice about me whenever I see her. But my sister who is generally very supportive about me as a person has never ever said anything nice about the way I look, or what I'm wearing or..... I didn't realise this was a thing until I lost a lot of weight last year - loads of nice comments from friends, and nothing from her - even when we've been in the same room as others saying nice stuff.

Justmuddlingalong · 08/05/2018 22:42

Every morning without fail, DP asked me 'Have I told you how gorgeous you look this morning?' I explained that this is a question, not a compliment. He now asks the question, I say 'no, you haven't' and he now says 'well, you do.' I'm usually still in my goonie at that point, so any compliment is gratefully received.😊

CountFosco · 09/05/2018 06:09

I sometimes ask if weight loss is deliberate as it can be quite serious if it isn't. It's out of genuine concern.

That's fair enough but I am the picture of health: great skin and hair, lots of energy, good posture/clearly got muscles. My sister lost a lot of weight when she was ill a couple of years ago and you could tell she was ill from everything else, not just the weight loss.

falang · 09/05/2018 07:08

I get lots of compliments from friends and strangers about my hair. About the rest of me, no. Not now I'm quite old.

MissReginaPhilange · 09/05/2018 07:12

Every time I make an effort and actually put my face on I don't mind school runs errands without makeup. Makes it all the more noticeable when I do make an effort

TheDowagerCuntess · 09/05/2018 07:14

Yes, but I have lovely colleagues and school mum friends, and I pay them all compliments too.

zippyswife · 09/05/2018 11:40

Funny... after saying upthread I didn’t get compliments I’ve had a couple yesterday and a couple today all from different people. Not sure if that’s a coincidence or it’s that I don’t usually notice!

CamHowe · 09/05/2018 13:59

Not often enough!

Butterfly1975 · 09/05/2018 14:45

Yes I get a lot of compliments on my clothes, shoes etc but as a pp said above I also work in a place where we compliment each other quite often!

I spend a lot of time shopping and am a product junkie so unfortunately it fuels further spending when I get a compliment

kikashi · 09/05/2018 14:51

I think it depends how many people you interact with and their gender. When I worked with a lot of women we would always compliment each other and also when the DC were little and I went to a lot of classes and groups. I work from home now and have a much quieter life so don't see/interact with many people so get very little in the way of compliments. I'm older but I still dress fairly nicely, have some nice bits (I think)

elQuintoConyo · 09/05/2018 14:55

Nope. I did get a 'froar' from DH this morning in my (ugly) nightie while i was brushing my teeth, must have been my bum wiggling

I don't tend to compliment anyone either, it just screams to me 'oh look, you brushed your hair, well done you!' , 'good job choosing that scarf!', 'gosh you did well to put your lipstick on and KEEP IN THE LINES!".

It all feels rather shallow.

Yogagirl123 · 09/05/2018 14:56

DH always compliments me, on what I am wearing, if I apply make up etc. I compliment DH if he’s wearing something new and friends, people I get chatting too. Doesn’t cost anything and it can make a persons day.

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